A lot of mixed messages in there, I agree. But the only problem I see rearing its head is this 'affair' with feminism. How she and her husband organise their life together is none of my business. She gives him a lot of kudos, no doubt well deserved. She doesn't slag off men (other than the 'abusive' ex - which is par for the course) and may be using that as her 'passport' for acceptance into that cyber-sistahood. Who knows.
With respect TMOTS, I think you might be being a bit previous in your harshness. How about keeping an eye on her further posts.
Personally, I like to get a sense of a person from quite a bit of evidence before I determine that they are a danger. You have only a one-off post. This one may well be dragged back from the edge of the abyss were she to come to this board.