A lot of mixed messages in there, I agree. But the only problem I see rearing its head is this 'affair' with feminism. How she and her husband organise their life together is none of my business. She gives him a lot of kudos, no doubt well deserved. She doesn't slag off men (other than the 'abusive' ex - which is par for the course) and may be using that as her 'passport' for acceptance into that cyber-sistahood. Who knows.

With respect TMOTS, I think you might be being a bit previous in your harshness. How about keeping an eye on her further posts.

Personally, I like to get a sense of a person from quite a bit of evidence before I determine that they are a danger. You have only a one-off post. This one may well be dragged back from the edge of the abyss were she to come to this board.

It is interesting to note that she does not list her own contributions to the household, yet the absence of the list does not necessarily mean that there is none. Perhaps she assumes the readers of this post will already know what the "list" entails just by saying that she's a stay-at-home mom. I was a stay at home mom for many, many years, and the list of duties, chores, responsibilities is enormous, and the work in a day is never actually "done."

This woman might be selfish, she might be sitting on her ass all day, but we don't really know that from what she has posted. It's an assumption. An easy one to make, too, if you already have that view of women in your head.

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It is interesting to note that she does not list her own contributions to the household, yet the absence of the list does not necessarily mean that there is none. Perhaps she assumes the readers of this post will already know what the "list" entails just by saying that she's a stay-at-home mom. I was a stay at home mom for many, many years, and the list of duties, chores, responsibilities is enormous, and the work in a day is never actually "done."

This woman might be selfish, she might be sitting on her ass all day, but we don't really know that from what she has posted. It's an assumption. An easy one to make, too, if you already have that view of women in your head.

I think a lot depends on the household: how well it is organized, and what standard you set for yourself. I think some people make a lot of work for themselves that is quite unnecessary. I wouldn't be surprised if this man is being taken advantage of.

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I think a lot depends on the household: how well it is organized, and what standard you set for yourself. I think some people make a lot of work for themselves that is quite unnecessary. I wouldn't be surprised if this man is being taken advantage of.

It's a possibility.

She will soon have another ex-abusive hubby no doubt shortly!!

Perhaps he will go down the familiar route of being accused of sexually molesting his step children?

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She will soon have another ex-abusive hubby no doubt shortly!!

Perhaps he will go down the familiar route of being accused of sexually molesting his step children?

You are probably right. She's working on the divorce already, looking for an excuse. A fictitious "my truth" about "abuse" is her history, so she'll probably repeater what worked before.


Blessings

Bob

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SOOOOOoooooo… Let's recap, shall we?

He works 6 days a week in a physically, emotionally, and psychologically challenging job.

He is ALSO attending college to get his SECOND degree.

He comes home and immediately "rolls up his sleeves and gets to work" by cooking dinner, doing baths, cleaning, laundry, etc etc.... all the while continuing to do traditional male things like house/yard/car maintenance stuff.

TMOTS

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She's the typical lazy modern bitch. He works his arse off and is on-call 24/7. He is attending college to get a second degree to improve his income and provide her with a better standard of living. Meanwhile she can't even do the housework. When he finally gets home from his very full day's work, she makes him tend the babies, wash dishes, cook and clean. What the f does she do all day. Oh yea, she knows all the soap opera characters and has time to surf the net promoting feminist misandry.

There is a reason for the Marriage Strike, and SHE is a good example.


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Bob

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You are probably right. She's working on the divorce already, looking for an excuse. A fictitious "my truth" about "abuse" is her history, so she'll probably repeater what worked before.


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Bob

The sad thing is, he probably is abusing the kids, thats what step fathers are famous for!!

Thats why the real daddy has to keep those scumbags out of the picture!!

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The sad thing is, he probably is abusing the kids, thats what step fathers are famous for!!

Thats why the real daddy has to keep those scumbags out of the picture!!

That is only one of many reasons why children always belonged to their FATHER before feminism.

A home with mother's latest fuck is not the best interest of a child. Even worse, mothers are even more likely to abuse their children than their latest fuck when they are focused on getting laid by some hot new guy.

Blessings

Bob

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It is interesting to note that she does not list her own contributions to the household, yet the absence of the list does not necessarily mean that there is none.

It's odd that she chooses to mention... not a bean, though, isn't it? It's almost as if she chooses to ignore herself out of the equation rather than face being addressed on the issue. If I were writing ablog about this, I'd be certain to include my portion of the housework rather than letting people assume.

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Perhaps she assumes the readers of this post will already know what the "list" entails just by saying that she's a stay-at-home mom. I was a stay at home mom for many, many years, and the list of duties, chores, responsibilities is enormous, and the work in a day is never actually "done."

I was a SAHD, and have to disagree. Yes it's busy and when you consider we had tiles on our floor and I had to manually scrub them with a brush and soapy water, I still say it was easier than going to work daily. Of course, my ex would disagree. It was never good enough. Although she had at one time expressed an air of appreciation for my laundry skills, that soon became target for complaints. Seriously!

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This woman might be selfish, she might be sitting on her ass all day, but we don't really know that from what she has posted. It's an assumption. An easy one to make, too, if you already have that view of women in your head.

Let's realistically swap the situation... would you be looking a man who'd wrote this and say "maybe this, maybe that... we dunno... but if you think men are lazy anyway, you probably think this guy is lazy too"?

Why do some of you feel it necessary to excuse her... or make excuses?

Read all that she claims the ole man does,then look at what it actually takes to maintain a home with children around... seems like he is doing pretty much everything and she is doing nothing.

Some of you people amaze me.

TMOTS

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It's odd that she chooses to mention... not a bean, though, isn't it? It's almost as if she chooses to ignore herself out of the equation rather than face being addressed on the issue. If I were writing ablog about this, I'd be certain to include my portion of the housework rather than letting people assume.

I was a SAHD, and have to disagree. Yes it's busy and when you consider we had tiles on our floor and I had to manually scrub them with a brush and soapy water, I still say it was easier than going to work daily. Of course, my ex would disagree. It was never good enough. Although she had at one time expressed an air of appreciation for my laundry skills, that soon became target for complaints. Seriously!

Let's realistically swap the situation... would you be looking a man who'd wrote this and say "maybe this, maybe that... we dunno... but if you think men are lazy anyway, you probably think this guy is lazy too"?

Seems pretty clear to me that this woman is bragging about having a manslave and that she does not need to do anything other than laze around in the traditional manner so beloved of the gender..

I think we ought to consider what's going on in the man's mind, to make him work so hard like this. We keep attacking the wife (and rightly so, because it's apparent that she's letting him do the work that rightfully is HER job, since she's not putting food on the table). But we ought to be examining the husband.

I suspect that she is emotionally abusing him in order to make him feel ashamed if he takes a breather from doing all of her work. This meets the definition of battery. I think that this woman, Barbara, is a batterer.

From here:

Battering is a pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person with whom an intimate relationship is or has been shared through fear and intimidation, often including the threat or use of violence. Battering happens when one person believes that they are entitled to control another.

She's probably using psychological manipulation and social isolation (both denying and rewarding) to keep her husband thinking that it is his duty to do her job, and making him feel guilty if he doesn't. The "I was emotionally abused" claim that she makes of her Ex is evidence that she is fully aware of what emotional abuse is. This -- and her own account of the husband's propensity to do her job -- makes me believe that she likely perpetrates emotional abuse and controlling behaviors against him (and probably also in her previous relationship).

Feminists love to say, "Yes, there was mutual abuse. BUT WHO EXACTLY WAS THE BATTERER?" In this case, I believe it's highly plausible that the batterer is Barbara -- the woman quoted in TMOTS's essay.

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Seems pretty clear to me that this woman is bragging about having a manslave and that she does not need to do anything other than laze around in the traditional manner so beloved of the gender..

Exactly! That was the fucking point.

TMOTS