Why do autistics women have it easier than autistic men when it comes to dating

[musicman.2]

–adjective 1. crippled; injured; incapacitated.
–noun 2. (used with a plural verb) persons who are crippled, injured, or incapacitated (usually prec. by the): Ramps have been installed at the entrances to accommodate the disabled.http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/disabled

Disabled is the clear preference in contemporary American English in referring to people having either physical or mental impairments, with the impairments themselves preferably termed disabilities.

btw this was from your link

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/disabled

go back and read the usage note from your link which was somehow supposed to disprove the definitions doctors, those with the disease and the government use. but i guess medical, personal , legal usage are less important than the dictionary definition.

[musicman.2]

I imagine it's much the same reason as why men will date poor women, but women generally do not date poor men. There are many issues like this, in the end it's really all rather sad, but I don't think it is a thing one can fix or solve. We must simply accept that a majority of women have certain flaws inherent in them. Applaud those women who do not succumb to these base urges. It is not as though men are perfect, after all, there are certain flaws inherent in maleness which some men rise above but which most do not. We are imperfect. What more can one expect from close relatives of the Chimpanzee?

I have some respect for you musicman. I do not know if others do, but I know I do. Though you can at times be something of a broken record, and I will confess freely I have often been frustrated by your hard-headedness, you ask questions which few others would, and that makes me think. This is good. Still, please don't think I'm trying to be patronizing if I do happen to dismiss your issue, this issue, as a fairly 'little thing,' a problem with no solution, or some inherent human frailty, these things do after all exist and there are enough of them in the world to put us all in our thinking caps for the next thousand years without ever even bringing up the subject of gender.

thanks man.

what male flaws are you referring to?

i think it was probably more common for a woman to date sick/dying men than vice versa.

[Popadibs]

thanks man.

what male flaws are you referring to?

i think it was probably more common for a woman to date sick/dying men than vice versa.

Anna Nicole Smith married a sick dying man oh what a compassionate creature she was lol

[Popadibs]

People can marry who they want lol pity marriages

If men with achievements stop marrying and do what Donald Trump does then that will kind of help things pan out.

[Zuberi]

People can marry who they want lol pity marriages

If men with achievements stop marrying and do what Donald Trump does then that will kind of help things pan out.

Yeah, you're right!

FUCK MARRIAGE!!!!!

A wise young man should invest his money into other things besides something that bleeds and doesn't die!

[RebelliousVanilla]

Disabled is the clear preference in contemporary American English in referring to people having either physical or mental impairments, with the impairments themselves preferably termed disabilities.

btw this was from your link

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/disabled

go back and read the usage note from your link which was somehow supposed to disprove the definitions doctors, those with the disease and the government use. but i guess medical, personal , legal usage are less important than the dictionary definition.

The government and those with the disease use it because its PC. It's amusing someone here likes PC stuff. And I doubt you use words with their technical sense in common day speech. And I wasn't taught American English, I was taught English, even though the Internet successfully fucked that up. Tough luck.

[shaazam]

I recall when I was a young man the urgent need that beat upon my brain night n day and I would have mounted a hairy matress if presented to me

now an autistic wimyn would have filled the mood completely given half a chance

any port in a storm I guess

now autistic wimyn like their "normal" cousins sit on the remedy most young men austistic or not seek and they know it - with any wimyn the problem is beating back the talent whether autistic or not - not attracting it ahahhhhah

[musicman.2]

The government and those with the disease use it because its PC. It's amusing someone here likes PC stuff. And I doubt you use words with their technical sense in common day speech. And I wasn't taught American English, I was taught English, even though the Internet successfully fucked that up. Tough luck.

1. Political correctness? Seriously? That's your excuse?

2. The medical community uses it too. It makes sense to use what doctors call it.

3. The PC term would probably be handicapable or something like that, not disabled.

4. And I do use the technical term especially when it comes to medical and scientific knowledge. I can't imagine someone not using the technical meaning when it comes to this type of knowledge.

5. Well obviously I speak American English so saying my definition is wrong is almost as ridiculous as an American telling a British person that writing colour is incorrect.

[musicman.2]

I recall when I was a young man the urgent need that beat upon my brain night n day and I would have mounted a hairy matress if presented to me

now an autistic wimyn would have filled the mood completely given half a chance

any port in a storm I guess

now autistic wimyn like their "normal" cousins sit on the remedy most young men austistic or not seek and they know it - with any wimyn the problem is beating back the talent whether autistic or not - not attracting it ahahhhhah

what?

[Incognito]

what?

lol

[Ledburian]

In the UK there are about 5 aspergers males to ever one female with the same condition. The same ratio roughly applies to the gender divide in cases of autism. It seems that it is much more of a male problem all round. An answer in the difference in attitude between the genders when it comes to one partner suffering from either of these conditions can be put down to the difference between the nature of both genders.....females are much more likely to be critically dismissive of a potential male partner suffering from either condition than would be the case with the genders reversed. You could well say that males are "nicer and more accepting" in situations like this, and I bet that doesn't surprise you too much! It surely doesn't me!

[Incognito]

I can’t say the last few days have been that manageable, but I am trying to hold my breath through it.

I’ve also tried to ignore this string but couldn’t. So I know you can easily say ‘if I don’t like it, I shouldn’t look’. And I’d suppose you’d be right; the problem is, if I don’t seem to muster a fraction of the personal discipline I used to, then I got to say something. You don’t need to work it out, but you can at least know it.


The shit on this string really pisses me off.

Pissed me off, too, TFB. Maybe for different reasons, though, or maybe not. The whole thread is ridiculous.

[dad_savage]

In the UK there are about 5 aspergers males to ever one female with the same condition. The same ratio roughly applies to the gender divide in cases of autism.

In the past I've read a little regarding aspergers. Those with this condition (men at least) tend to be socially handicapped particularly in regards to putting themselves out as it were, and most men with aspergers will devote themselves to abstracts, study, etc living quiet lives of relative solitude not out of choice but because they cannot muster the confidence required to go and hunt for friendship or romance i.e men with aspergers cannot, by and large, 'seek out' women and since women do not, by and large, 'seek out' men, but rather are passive and wish men to come to them most men with aspergers will not have romance, marriage, etc in their lives.

Women are more self-centred than men. This can be a good thing, but it is also a bad thing. Vanity and self-obsession are things it can lead to, refusal to empathize with others, inability to understand the plight of another, many women are emotionally insensitive to the needs and desires of others but highly attuned to their own emotional nuances. This is an unalterable fact of life. One must accept however that although there is a 'male norm' psychologically and intellectually, and a 'female norm' these differences are not entirely divisible solely by gender. Some women are closer to the 'male norm' than some men are, some men are closer to the 'female norm' than some women are, so that in the end it truly does come down to the individual, and painting the sexes in broad strokes, stereotyping and so on, rarely is compatible with reality. We are all different, and our differences individually are more striking than the similarities we share based on culture, genetics, sex, race, etc. Therefore any attempt to answer questions like this:

Why do autistics women have it easier than autistic men when it comes to dating

And the questions themselves are inherently given to providing a false picture of reality. Still, if one minds this fact they can be useful things to consider, and utilitarian information can be generated from the exercise of analysis of group similarities, always however it must be done so under the caveat that it is inherently arbitrary in its suggestions.

[Meadester]

The main reason Autism Spectrum Disorder women have an easier time than ASD men is this: shyness, awkwardness, and lack of confidence are perfectly acceptable, and can even be seen as charming in women, while the same traits in men are seen as repulsive by women. Women see shyness, awkwardness and lack of confidence in men the way men see morbid obesity or hideous deformities in women. It kind of sucks for those of us men who have those traits because they are much harder to fix than obesity, which usually only requires diet and exercise and at worst surgery, or deformity which also can usually be corrected with surgery. Personality traits are much more difficult to correct, though in most cases probably not impossible.

I am beginning to study pick up artist techniques. I do not expect miracles from them but do have some hope that they might somewhat tip the balance so the playing field is not quite as dramatically slanted against me. I believe they at least have some possibility of helping me, even though I am learning disabled with many Asperger's Syndrome characteristics. I might have been diagnosed with AS had psych. professionals been aware of it when I was growing up. (A psychiatrist recently said I might be an Aspie but a diagnosis would cost U.S.$800 out of pocket and the only treatment at this point in my life would be to go on an anti-psychotic med. called Risperdal, which I've been on before, and which made me miserably lethargic and sleepy 24 hours a day). Anyway, I know I have to approach PUA instructors with caution to avoid scams or techniques that just won't work for me, but from what I've read about them so far, they are better than nothing.

RV, I'm not sure what the point of your posts in this topic has been. Are you just trying to screw with MM's head or do you really consider those of us with mental disabilities inferior?

[Zuberi]

I wouldn't date any women who is autistic!
How fucking desperate does a man have to be to date an autistic women?