why do you want to marry a female who is too young to be of much use to a husband?

when man wants to persuade a young ladies parents to allow her to be his wife, with noble intent, he normally chooses one at least at the age of consent..

this is termed "courtship"..

when a man wants to impress the owner of a horse that he will care for it, he may clean the horses coat and make it look well cared for, he uses a variety of brushes etc..

This is called "grooming"..

I think someone had the feeling you should have been in a stables, not a church!

Is it the fault of feminism?

No, I think most blokes would wonder what you are sniffing round asking 11 year olds to marry you for..

Its just not considered normal..

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why do you want to marry a female who is too young to be of much use to a husband?

when man wants to persuade a young ladies parents to allow her to be his wife, with noble intent, he normally chooses one at least at the age of consent..

this is termed "courtship"..

when a man wants to impress the owner of a horse that he will care for it, he may clean the horses coat and make it look well cared for, he uses a variety of brushes etc..

This is called "grooming"..

I think someone had the feeling you should have been in a stables, not a church!

Is it the fault of feminism?

No, I think most blokes would wonder what you are sniffing round asking 11 year olds to marry you for..

Its just not considered normal..

I was trying to assimilate into the group. I didn't know how old she was, and I wasn't trying for any girl at the time either. Personally that age is much too young anyway. The point isn't her, but rather that people have been forced to have relationships only with certain people, whether male or female, for no apparent reason than to upset society.

Is 18 or whatever some magic biological age number? Sure a person can be too young, but I feel like my head is being beaten with a sledge hammer about this stuff. If I wanted a woman 10 years older than me no one would think it's wrong, but the moment I make a movement toward a girl one day under and out comes the heavy artillery. What about an ambassador to see what my intentions are first?

I guess there are topics that adults can safely discuss with kids and topics that are seen as suspect..

I remember when some 50 year old rolling stone guy, bill wyman I think it was, was "dating" a 13 year old folks wondered what was going on.. Not sure, but I think he married her when she was 18..

Mandy Smith: I DID sleep with Bill Wyman when I was 14... but now the only man in my life is God | Mail Online

FB, it can be anticipated, especially when you are so free with the information that you 'want' a very much younger 'wife' (one day).

Personally I cannot fathom this.

I can accept that some people 'want' older or younger partners, but the whole Pair-Bonding' issue is about adults, is it not.

To deliberately seek-out someone who is so different in their stage of life, is odd. Again, personally, while I can see some attraction to the idea of youth, the very idea of having a permanent relationship with someone who is always well behind you (or well ahead) instead of right next to you is insulting to one or both.

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FB, it can be anticipated, especially when you are so free with the information that you 'want' a very much younger 'wife' (one day).

Personally I cannot fathom this.

I can accept that some people 'want' older or younger partners, but the whole Pair-Bonding' issue is about adults, is it not.

To deliberately seek-out someone who is so different in their stage of life, is odd. Again, personally, while I can see some attraction to the idea of youth, the very idea of having a permanent relationship with someone who is always well behind you (or well ahead) instead of right next to you is insulting to one or both.

The rant wasn't really about having a much younger wife as it was about pushing a person into a relationship with no regard to the people involved and that veering from this is somehow abnormal. Society says that two people with certain characteristics should be together without regard for nature. The feminist movement has helped to mess things up so badly that even simple relationships have become a spiderweb of entrapment. People say age doesn't matter until someone deviates from what they think is "normal". Then the feminist tactic of shaming and over exaggeration to bring the person into alignment with the ideologies regardless of its' sensibility.

I want someone whom will logically make sense to marry. I don't know who that will be. However, my preferences for a wife are based on my beliefs, ideologies, and desire to have a family of several children. Also, that she not be taller than me; which has no real basis but does weed out a lot of females. It's not that I want a girl who is very much younger, (in fact the girl in my story was far to young, but I wasn't trying anyway) just that the girls I see as good choices end up being outside what is expected by society.

But the issue is not about me, it is about the destruction of the family. It is about the oppression of people, both male and female, into a society of slavery to an evil slave master. Whether one is older or younger than the other isn't the problem, the problem is that people aren't allowed to make a choice on what is best for them.




Ok, I am really tired. Probably should have waited till morning to post, but there it is. The point is the title not some obscure point in the post. Please, whomever reads this, look at the bigger picture. Peace.
-JF

I forgot one thing: a marriage should be like a vine intertwining onto a stone pillar. Two completely different things combining into something beautiful.

I do see a point in this post tho. Not just in romantic relationships. Most would consider it weird if I had just a friend who was 13ish. Most consider it weird that my best friends are 20yrs older than me. I don't think floaty is talking so much about looking for a young person to marry as he is talking about the social stigma that revolves around an adult man talking to a kid or to somebody younger, or prettier, or a senior, or a homeless person, or an unlikable... Etc

Society thinks that one becomes magically mature at 18... This is a fallocy. I know some mature teenagers and I see a world full of 20/30/40/50/etc year old babies who throw a fit when you say something "offensive". Maturity may come with age, but it is fairly subjective...

I personally prefer people my age or very close. However the lack of maturity or selflessness in most girls my age is what keeps me from getting too involved. I do remember being lampooned at 19 for looking at a 17 yr old girl (the she is a child, you are an adult, argument).

I think the post was more on that than the marriage issue. Floaty does keep his options pretty open tho :P

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I personally prefer people my age or very close. However the lack of maturity or selflessness in most girls my age is what keeps me from getting too involved. I do remember being lampooned at 19 for looking at a 17 yr old girl (the she is a child, you are an adult, argument).

Here is an example of a mature teenage girl and a broken adults: (1st part)

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Floaty does keep his options pretty open tho :P

I very much dislike oppression. If girls can be sexually free than so can I.