How do you learn to stop hating and begin loving?

**Popadibs** · 26th-February-2012

This may not be the place to ask but maybe someone knows. What are some things you can do to prevent yourself from being consumed with hate? I remember riding at the fair and it's like everything in my mind was happening in slow motion. I think about the strangest things. What if females want to live just as we do? What if 51% or more women aren't really as I see them?

Is it possible to remain cynical without hating? I really don't desire for my heart to be overtaken with hatred. Something inside is telling me that I can help people in a meaningful way but I need to overcome the roadblocks from within. What suggestions do you have to overcome feelings of hatred and to learn to love the way that God intended?

**Percy** · 26th-February-2012

I am convinced by many years experience of myself and others that an essential aspect is distingishing action from person. The sinner and the sin.

Jesus forgave the thief on the cross. He forgave the man, not his crimes.

And it was a forgiveness based on the very slightest of momentary sympathy on the thief's part.

You can (and need to) distinguish the frail, human woman, even the feminist women who is full of hatred, lies and antagonism. Not her evil words or actions. These have consequences.

But her very humanity makes her exactly equal to you in God's eyes.

"Forgive us our trespasses as (like; just as we do; in the same measure) we forgive others"

Jesus came to save the sinners, not condemn them. While they live, they are savable.

You cannot save them, but you can forgive them the harm they do to you.

Learn though and prevent them, like children, from doing more harm to you.

Love them. As Humans. As the children of your father. Your sisters. You do not have to like them or even love their actions and words.

Distinguish between Loving them and being 'in Love with this one or that'.

The above is Essential. Necessary.

But maybe not sufficient.

I am sure others can add more to reach sufficiency.

**Richard** · 26th-February-2012

Hate and jeliousy are natural emotions. However things can get out of hand.

In order not to be consumed by negative emotions one need to seek a balance.

Image your life is base on two rails - like a railroad. Once side is the dark side, the other rail is the good side.

If you lack the good rail then look for ways to bring happiness into your life - it could be love for a new woman, or a dog, a sport, a group activity (sport/hobby), and that way you see the good in others and yourself.

The hate will not go away, but it wont dominate you

**Popadibs** · 26th-February-2012

Thank you for trying to help me. I don't know if I'll make it or not but I'll at least try. I'm going to need some help though, some divine help.

What really made me examine myself is that my own sister, the one that rarely talks to me and sometimes says misandric things, made a status to like her status and she'd tell you her first impression of you and your best feature. She says that I am spiritual and helpful. The former I truly need to work on. She says my best feature is my heart. How can I have a good heart if I allow it to be overtaken with hatred? Water, which is essential for life, isn't pure if you put poison in it. How is the heart any different?