Yup, I agree with a lot of the above points. The idea of the state is not bad as such - but the power of the modern state has turned our societies into institutions where there are more and more laws and less and less freedom. The state has moved increasingly into our private/families lives and we have no control over it. Orwell's 1984 was written as a warning - today it has become a manual for most states. Politicians and bureaucrats like to accumulate power - often they feel they are doing something good, but it gets to the point we are all controlled. A totalitarian society is no longer a threat it is almost a reality - the war on terrorism and technology (internet), make it so, when combined with the powers of the state. In the 1930's Stalin's Russia would purge those it did not like - the war on terrorism gives liberal democracies the same power - albeit on a smaller scale.
Lets look at business. In ALL modern states the governments believe they should have minimum state intervention in business - for governments fear they will mess things up. Also, if the state goes too far business can pack its bags and head for another country. However, when it comes to the individual/family, the opposite rule is applied - the state intervenes and does what it wants. Maybe we should ask politicans to intervene in business as much as it does the family, I wonder how they would reply!
The question is why is this so. I believe that this dates from the early years after WWII when psychology rose in importance (see/wiki Tavistock institute in uk) and psychologists began to redefine the family as a unit not based on a contractual obligation (ie marraige contract) to treating marriages as "relationships" and gives gave psychologist a blank cheque to intervene in the modern family. The result is the mess we have today.