I think the video is great in that it validates what some men already know and raises awareness for those who might not have yet experienced emotional terrorism.

But what about the poor guys who are experiencing it right now? What about the man who is struggling with this as we speak, and wonders what to do? What about the man who feels hopeless or grief-stricken, or the anxious man who is now self-medicating with a fifth of vodka every night? Or the man poised on the very edge of suicide? What about the man who's developed an eating disorder because his wife's convinced him he's fat and unattractive, or the man who's got PTSD from being abused? What about a man who's developed panic disorder because he's put through the emotional wringer every damn day and now he's socially phobic or isolated? What about the man who hasn't seen his kids in ten years because Ms. EmotionalTerrorist sees to it that he still pays in every way possible for what she perceives as his past marital non-compliance?

What about these men? It's one thing to know that emotional terrorists exist, but it's quite another to deal with them. Maybe we need a "part two" or maybe even a "part three" to this video because there are so many men out there who are really hurting and feel they have no way to salvage or escape what's happening to them and their families.

Percy, you have many years in the counseling field (and much education and experience) as well as life experiences, and LB, you do, too- maybe the two of you could put your heads together to make a video or podcast that offers some therapeutic advice, a message of hope...for men out there who are dealing with emotional and/or physical terrorism. There are so many men out there to whom this message would speak, and you two are the ideal men to offer some healing thoughts.

First of all, respectful thanks to Akuus for the glowing and supportive review. It makes all the work so much easier to get the appreciation. And thanks to the others for the support and kind comments as well.

Tera, your post was excellent and raises some really good points. This, as you well know, is a rather complicated subject. I am organizing part II in my mind and should start writing before too long. Even in that, there won't be room for the prevention and coping skills aspects.

What I intend to do next is more clearly define Mommas possible psychopathology, and expand on how that results in familial and legal chaos. Perhaps in a part III I will get a chance to address the other fine points you raised. And of course, in that I will have to bluntly address male enabling of all this dysfunction if there is to be any credible "how to get out" message.

But for now, as ridiculously under addressed as these issues are, we need to stick with hammering the basics.

Paul

maybe the two of you could put your heads together to make a video or podcast that offers some therapeutic advice, a message of hope...for men out there who are dealing with emotional and/or physical terrorism.Tera

A good idea !

But Professionals, Tera, have to earn a fee of some sort.

Paul is the man with the soft words, and I could sell lengths of 4 x 2.

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First of all, respectful thanks to Akuus for the glowing and supportive review. It makes all the work so much easier to get the appreciation. And thanks to the others for the support and kind comments as well.

Tera, your post was excellent and raises some really good points. This, as you well know, is a rather complicated subject. I am organizing part II in my mind and should start writing before too long. Even in that, there won't be room for the prevention and coping skills aspects.

What I intend to do next is more clearly define Mommas possible psychopathology, and expand on how that results in familial and legal chaos. Perhaps in a part III I will get a chance to address the other fine points you raised. And of course, in that I will have to bluntly address male enabling of all this dysfunction if there is to be any credible "how to get out" message.

But for now, as ridiculously under addressed as these issues are, we need to stick with hammering the basics.

Paul

Quite right, LB. That makes sense to me, too. (I got a little excited there....there's so much to explore!) And you're absolutely right...the basics do need to come first and you all did an excellent job defining emotional terrorism and the types of damage that can be inflicted.

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A good idea !

But Professionals, Tera, have to earn a fee of some sort.

Paul is the man with the soft words, and I could sell lengths of 4 x 2.

Hope doesn't have to cost anything. You're right, Paul is kind and effective, and you have excellent aim with your stick I'm not sure what my niche in life is just yet but whatever it might be or become, it has to include faith and hope.

You guys have done an awesome job with your podcasts and videos.

99 and climbing.

Must be all the emails I have sent out !

Excellent Excellent Excellent vidio. So much devistation has been wreeked by individuals such as this, both finantial and emotional. People like this suck the life out of you and I know I have been in a relationtip with such a person. The best thing to do is just leave, but when there are kids involved that makes it much harder especialy for a man.

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Excellent Excellent Excellent vidio. So much devistation has been wreeked by individuals such as this, both finantial and emotional. People like this suck the life out of you and I know I have been in a relationtip with such a person. The best thing to do is just leave, but when there are kids involved that makes it much harder especialy for a man.

So true, Rohara.

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LOL...well maybe...or maybe they'd just have children and marry later in life instead of being hijacked or hijacking themselves at age 18 or 20.

Well, marraige is not the issue really, its the kids that matter..

Whether or not a woman is married, it is the kids that give her the real power to behave in this manner..

"sword and shield" is how women use their kids, as a weapon and as a defence..

Beware of big momma!

The answer is simple..

The battle is currently unwinable, so "retreat!!"..

Whether or not one wants to shoot off a few Bolloxian Battle Taddies into the fish tank before scarpering with ones freedom, or one wants to engage in a "relationshit" with the trout on a temporary basis to see just how shit things can get..

Retreat is the only way out!

There is no win!

Just Cut Yer Losses and scarper gents!!

Whatever it costs to excise a potentially fatal toxin, is money well spent!

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The answer is simple..

The battle is currently unwinable, so "retreat!!"..

Whether or not one wants to shoot off a few Bolloxian Battle Taddies into the fish tank before scarpering with ones freedom, or one wants to engage in a "relationshit" with the trout on a temporary basis to see just how shit things can get..

Retreat is the only way out!

There is no win!

Just Cut Yer Losses and scarper gents!!

Whatever it costs to excise a potentially fatal toxin, is money well spent!

Well you've made a good point, imo- it isn't worth "shooting off a few taddies in the fish tank" --and "just seeing how it goes". Too much is at stake to have such a casual, carefree attitude about sex and relationships. Any sex (even protected) can create a baby. What if men really asked themselves (before they had sex), "is this a woman I would want to raise a child with? Do I know her well enough to even answer that? Do I want to take this gamble with my future?"

Might make one lose an erection right quick...but then that just might be a good thing. What do you think?

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Well you've made a good point, imo- it isn't worth "shooting off a few taddies in the fish tank" --and "just seeing how it goes". Too much is at stake to have such a casual, carefree attitude about sex and relationships. Any sex (even protected) can create a baby. What if men really asked themselves (before they had sex), "is this a woman I would want to raise a child with? Do I know her well enough to even answer that? Do I want to take this gamble with my future?"

Might make one lose an erection right quick...but then that just might be a good thing. What do you think?

Need you ask my pretty one?

A gent goes into a relationshit with his eyes wide open and BELIEVES his loved one will not change..

Oh yes, she IS the one...

Then, 5 years down the line (all looked well for the first 2 or 3 years!)..

She has changed..

Her priorities are different..

This is what happens..

And, it is possible to think..

"Is this woman suitable to raise a child on her own, with state support and the full backing of the feminist's?"

And if you go in like that, well, you don't even have to consider yourself part of the equation!

Truth be told, you know full well Tera, that if men could take their beer goggles off and consider realistically the prospects and likelyhood of relationship breakdown, currently 50% plus, and that is not counting the men who live in abject sexless misery too scared to get out..

You know that the birth rate would plummet to near zero!

The odds are poor!

Hence, nature has a trick up her sleeve..

"The standing organ, shall have no conscience!!"..

"Love" is the toxin that befuddles the mind to enable reproduction to occur!!

Here is an e-mail response that I got from a friend regarding my sending out the links to the videos:

"Thank you for those. I have several friends who will benefit greatly from them."