Quote from MadShangi

Yeah, the problem is that your wife was a spoiled bitch who can't be pleased. I feel sorry for you, that you had to go through that. I wouldn't have put up with it in the first place. Call me young and obnoxious, but I would've just told her to go fuck herself.

Yeah but they don't all start out that way!

Or else there would be ZERO marriages!!

People change....

Let me generalize a bit here: Men want to have a peaceful calm marriage....and women tend to get bored. Then the arguing and nagging starts. Men want to solve the problem, but the problem is not what she nags about. The problem is a boring marriage. After the "in love" feeling is over you move together and household chores become annoying you really have to figure out how to keep being married interesting.

Oh my advice marry after living with her together for a few years. Don´t marry her when you still are "in love". I´d suggest 5-10 years.

Quote from Stan

Yeah but they don't all start out that way!

Or else there would be ZERO marriages!!

Yeah, that's true. They act all nice and shit, wait for you to let your guard down, and then the bitch starts coming out. I remember dating a girl who I thought was sweet and nice, only to find out that during all these time, she's been making silent judgements about me... the clothes I wear, how much money I spent... and she didn't even know me long enough to make it her business, anyway. Didn't last long. I learn from this. That's why I don't put up with any shit, when the nice facade is dropped.

If I were to paint the walls, and she didn't like it - I'd tell her: "Bitch, YOU paint it, then! Or else stop your fucking complaining."

Quote from MadShangi

Yeah, that's true. They act all nice and shit, wait for you to let your guard down, and then the bitch starts coming out. I remember dating a girl who I thought was sweet and nice, only to find out that during all these time, she's been making silent judgements about me... the clothes I wear, how much money I spent... and she didn't even know me long enough to make it her business, anyway. Didn't last long. I learn from this. That's why I don't put up with any shit, when the nice facade is dropped.

If I were to paint the walls, and she didn't like it - I'd tell her: "Bitch, YOU paint it, then! Or else stop your fucking complaining."

I hear ya MadShangi, I hear ya!

I went overboard with trying to satisfy her with that dining room. Beside the paint I did lots of custom carpentry, wainscotting, moldings and so forth. It came out great. I remember that it took over 3000 nails (I used an air powered nail gun thankfully). This was a big dining room, about 27 feet long by 19 feet with a bay window and a fireplace.

Anyway the reason I did this painting thing was to try and see if she had a limit beyond which even she would feel like she was taking advantage of me. I could not find any limit! So after the time the paint chips got compared to the historic place's paint and they matched... Well that was the cutoff. D-O-N-E, DONE.

Admittedly my first stance had long term affects..
I would pick the colour and tell her what colour it was going to be, she would always say "I don't know", after painting it she would always say it's looks great..

Most women have absolutely no idea what they want, they want to agonise on the subject and mull it over for weeks if not months, learnt that a while back..

I once repainted the lounge-room while she went shopping as I knew she would be about 2 hours..
I pulled the top off a beer as she pulled up in the driveway, the look on her face made it worth it, I was a painter at the time so it was no big deal..

I also use to put a list on the fridge, she would say " oh ! need a new fence next to the garden" or " do you think you could fix the sprinkler system" etc..
I would respond "Add it to the list, I'll get around to when I have time"..
I reasoned with her that it was fine making these suggestions but I do not have the material or the appropriate tools to do the job right now..

Put it on the list..

Worked well..