Re: I am feeling insecure and scared, this will be a hard post for me.
It sounds you are on the right track. By this I mean, you have been through the worst part of your divorce/splt up, the worst of the pain is slowly receeding and now you feel a gap in your life for a woman - this is a good sign, let that feeling grow, it sonds healthy to me, and sounds similar to what I went through a few years ago.
Second, what you want from a woman also sounds good (and is the same sort of thing I want - quality time, but not looking to become a full time/live together relationship) - heres the good news - many women want the same thing - not all women are looking for a full time boyfriend. Many women also have had their fingers burnt and want a man, but not necessarily the whole full-time thing. This will be especially true of divorced women.
A good place to go to start to meet women are dance classes. I took up Salsa, wow, did that bring me into contact with women, and taught me a lot (-: Suddenly I had whole new friendship group.
Dating. If you meet a woman, take her for coffee. Maybe in North America dinner is a big thing, but I prefer to take them to art museums, etc - its cheap, original and a lot of fun. It saves a lot of meny when dating as well!
On this fourm, there's a lot of informaton, genuine info by people. BUT when it comes to action and positive advice - especially in dating and relationships, these a lot of negativity, rather than positive advice. I know, I had some negative responses when I made posts on the dating thing. Dont get put off, you carry on mate, you are on the right road. Find yourself a lady, if she turns out not to be what you are looking for, dont be frightend to split up and look further. The first couple of times will be a bit strange, but soon you wil get used to things.
Feel free to PM me if you like.
Last edited by Richard; 1st-July-2011 at 01:53 AM.
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