she is a crazy c#$% who lives to make you miserable as some sort of vengeance.


Wow-i know a guy who has gone thru a very similar experience with his psycho ex'.

He is now barred from ever seeing his kids again, he thought he actually had rights to his children-even after the rules were written by the courts--

-be careful how you tread with this woman.

Mate I totally sympathise with you, I have had a shocking two weeks of my ex's shit to last me a life time [Sorry not to take away from your pain or to derail your thread].

My ex is going for 100% of everything we owned, she is already in contempt of court over non compliance to court orders, but guess what she will have an extention of time because she forgot she had to submit papers. Her mentality is she knows better than anyone, and at times she thinks she is above the law.

On the upside for me was a case won by a close friend. After coming to AM I got a little wiser and decided to help out a friend who was seeking custody of his two kids and 40% of assets. His ex another f*king know it all decided she wanted custody and 100% of everything. His lawyer was a total w*nker and said he should just give in, I wasn't having any of it. I steered him to my lawyers, paid his bill and long story short he won custody and ended up with 60% of everything and is in the house.

Keep your chin up pal there has to be brighter day...

btw thanks to Missy A who gave me a good pick me up y'day.

I am extremely careful how I tread with this woman. She is certifiable since the separation. I wonder what got her this way. Cuz I spent a decade with her and this just was not foreseeable in her behavior. Maybe I was blind to that fine body and all. We are talking FINE. But the price I am paying now for this whole piece of mess is way to high for me to ever remotely think of ever hooking up again.


Maybe this is what makes her tick. She wants to ruin me while I just want whats best for both households. That is why I left her EVERYTHING!! I can make back my stuff in a flash, it's just stuff. But to destroy a bond between parent and children just cuz you don't like the fact that I LEFT YOU, is beyond me.

I will edit this just because I came to realization, she knows I just found a awesome job, she knows I just found better lodgings, she knows I have a good lawyer, she knows I am on the market for better ass than hers ever was. Aha, as Sherlock Homes would say!! When you eliminate the impossible, the rest is feasible. Shes jealous even after so many years. Wow.

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I am extremely careful how I tread with this woman. She is certifiable since the separation. I wonder what got her this way. Cuz I spent a decade with her and this just was not foreseeable in her behavior. Maybe I was blind to that fine body and all. We are talking FINE. But the price I am paying now for this whole piece of mess is way to high for me to ever remotely think of ever hooking up again.


Maybe this is what makes her tick. She wants to ruin me while I just want whats best for both households. That is why I left her EVERYTHING!! I can make back my stuff in a flash, it's just stuff. But to destroy a bond between parent and children just cuz you don't like the fact that I LEFT YOU, is beyond me.

I will edit this just because I came to realization, she knows I just found a awesome job, she knows I just found better lodgings, she knows I have a good lawyer, she knows I am on the market for better ass than hers ever was. Aha, as Sherlock Homes would say!! When you eliminate the impossible, the rest is feasible. Shes jealous even after so many years. Wow.

Document everything, get a bound notebook stiched binder, and document every conversation, save the emails and texts, push the issue with the court if she represents herself. She will fuck with you in every possible manner in regards to your son. Document, Document, Document, and present the evidence when needed. Stick with it Nick, your son needs a Dad.

@TPH, this is being done as we speak and every thing has been flying in her face since 2007. I have absolutely kept all since the beginning. My family even documents for me so much they think this is crazy. Even the judge grows tired of my thick sheaf.

It's just that canadian family court is inherently biased towards men, even with volumes of proof. The MOTHER/FEMALE/WOMYN can do no wrong. She ticks because the system allows her to tick!! Simple.

As for me trying to find comprehension in it all, a kind man once told me to try not to comprehend but to acknowledge, but my mind needs and craves understanding as to my predicament. I simply do not understand the motivation, even after so many years of useless shit, why this is still going on.

I THINK she is histrionic and Bi-Polar. But I am no doctor. I think the thrill of having this type of useless power get chills up a spine in some of these cases. I prefer to move on, yet I am obligated to stay and sometimes back-peddle for her ego and pride. It sucks.

Sometimes its up with her, some times it down. I want to let go, but it is my son in the balance, my choice is to fight to the end.

No wonder men die young!!

'Recorder' is a Rank, not a task.

A Recorder is the first step on the Judge Ladder. A 'Junior' Judge.

I understand this Percy, the court reporter is a notary public, but they are forbidden by law to give out legal advice, buy in my province they are civil law notaries. They are vastly different. It is still my understanding that they may not give out legal advice while in the function of "Greffiere". I may be wrong. They would know of the practice of law way more than I.

He is now barred from ever seeing his kids again, he thought he actually had rights to his children-even after the rules were written by the courts

The reason i stated this,is because after my friends ex' was forced to hand over the children by a family court judge after she repeatedly denied visitation,she then went an alternate route bypassing the family courts and getting the cas and police involved by claiming sexual and physical abuse against her children.

The cas believe her like she is some kind of god-The cas refuse to look at the family case history or the court orders where she had already accused him of these crimes and the judge threw them out.

When my friend asked about his rights-That was about all cas needed to paint him as violent and abusive.

My friend cannot afford a lawyer anymore as her false accusations have pretty well bankrupted him.

My friend(i hear) has just finished a parenting course in an effort to see his kids but the cas just keeps throwing roadblocks in his path.

He has givin' up on seeing his children untill they are of age.

I think the thing we do as men is take the honorable road, we follow the system which we still believe in, albeit flawed in so many areas. Have look at outdoors statements, the said woman took an alternate route. I think men live by on honour whereas women choose to deceive [and not all women I may add]. Maybe more men should pre-empt women and use the same tatics i.e. lay claims against women of sexual abuse on children. Get DVO's against women for mental torture etc., use the very system women use. If these bum polishers in their chairs get inundated with DVO's from men sooner or later someone will have to start doing something.

Sadly I feel this delusional woman will withhold my son from me for my weekend with him which I have been preparing for sooo long.

fraid so ! the feminit legal system is there only to inconvenience and defraud menfolk - wimyn can do no wrong ! it is all about false accusations and freeloading for the new age gals

men PFFFFFFFFT

in fact the feminit legal system connives with wimyn even if they are arrant liars aka Duke Lacrosse


men nowadays are in the same position as were the Jews in the Nazi order - that is sacrificial lambs and scapegoats

I hope there are some alert young men reading this forum and noting the machinations perpetrated agin sincere men by the crapulent feminit new order and drawing the conclusion that marriage nowadays is for cockatoos,dodos and tweety birds

Nick, I fully understand you. I have been in my divorce case for 5 years - during that time my wife "isolated" me from my son once for a period of 3 months, and another time for 6 months.

My concerete advice to you is:
1/Right now you are in a panic - remember that - she WANTS to hurt you, so take a deep breath, have a few drinks, get yourself a girlfriend, or go clubbing to get things out of your head and get some rexalaxtion

2/While she might and in indeed, in the future will block your contacts with your child (simply out of spite) your kid remembers you and sees things totally difrerently, and will not forget you. I spoke to a good psycholigst about all this stuff, and bascially, even if she tries to brainwash your kid saying daddy is a drunk etc, that wont affect the kid so much. When you see your kid next, he will say "mummy says you are a drunk thats why she wont let me see you". Your reply should be, "that's rubbish" and "now, lets do some fun thing....swmimming, vidoe game, good film.... The whole idea is NOT to let the idea consolidate in the kids head - dont over react, just brush the attack aside as something stupid. Yor kid will simply rember you from the last interation you had (so I hope it was good!).

3/One tactic might be to play it cool - remember she WANTS to hurt you - and by the look of it, she is succeeding!

4/Ok, lets say she goes balistic, as wont let you see him. Your next step is to go to school, if the court has not allowed contact/pick up after school, then simply leave littel suprises/presents in his school locker (to get into school you can alwasy say your kid left some books at home that he will need for that day...). I used to leave my son bits of lego, or little lego models taht he built with me, so he knew I was thinking about him. It was a coded way I communicated with him, and the mother never noticed a bit of lego in his school locker....

Ok, am busy as hell for the next 48 hours so cannot write too much more, hope my post is of some help.

Update!!

Just came back from my weekend with my boy. All went well. The ex was adequate. Even though she withholds my telephone access to my boy, I made him call his mom last night before bedtime. To show her I am all for this type of stuff and do not hold grudges that will affect my son. I think it is good for the boy to call his mom when he sleeps elsewhere to comfort him and her while he is out of his natural environment.

The attorney e-mail she received was enough to scare her into producing the boy for my scheduled weekend. I was at liberty to do what we had planned to do without taking my own mother hostage for the weekend. We had a grand time and I am sure this will be more of many if only she will keep a head about herself.

I ran into old friends of ours, from back when we were going out as couples. They saw me with the boy swimming and lunching. They were extremely happy to see us. I was informed by these friends of hers(and mine back then) that she has been out of the loop and being quite isolated(my ex).

I think there is more at work than just a vindictive female, I think there is a jealous man around. That puts a wrinkle into things. If she is willing to put her boyfriend in front of my sons interests for further contact with his natural father, what will she do next? This takes this thing to a whole new level. I will have to wait and see. These are rumors from long time ago friends, so I am not putting stock into them until I gain more perspective.

At least now I am seeing my son on the terms AGREED upon in court.

For now, the attorney game has played in my favor, at cost to me. Important thing here is... My boy had a great time with his Dad and really digged his weekend!! As did I!!! Another bond was shared and accentuated. That is what I do all this for!!

Update, there have been no e-mails flying back and forth.

Could this be reason?

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Update, there have been no e-mails flying back and forth.

Could this be reason?

Could be--the less the ex' and i talked the better we got along,untill we got to a point where we both grew up and started thinking of the kid' best interests.