I am re-introducing myself because people change in 'time'

**julie** · 3rd-July-2012

My name is Julie Whitehouse and I am a single parent of 2 wonderful, awesome, incredible young men. I feel like the luckiest person in New Zealand (where I reside) because my sons were stuck in the government child system for 9 years and no matter what they did to break my family, .... we endured and thus have much respect amongst leading feminists, and more.

I came to approach the online men's movement because I started a single parent group back in 2006 and was encouraged to become a trust by smart people in the community that used trusts to give neat things to beneficiaries of trusts that the beneficiaries would not normally have.

I was told I could do what I wanted and refer men and women to others who could help them more than me which sounded real beneficially. I failed 3 times with the paperwork until a well-known Maori organisation aided me through their lawyer and the CEO told me to be careful for many people try to take over the hard work someone like me was prepared to do.

I learned about the internet through a wonderful American man/father who made my first site for just cost, but was extradited back to America because he owed child support. He was trying to start a new life with his new wife and children here in NZ where her family belonged.

When the American government forced him to go back to America, it was almost instant, and they didn't care at all about what he owned in New Zealand and so I watched scavengers take 100's of 1000's of dollars of capital and destroy all the hard work this man created. I phoned him once and told him that I had a picture of his that you see when you enter my front door. It says, "Ponder on the lives of men, what they do and where've they been. Stop to question asking why, some men walk and some must fly". It has an eagle underneath the words and he told me that picture was his inspiration..... Oh, gosh, here was the kindest man I ever met.... he was soooo beautiful and understanding of young and old...... and yet all he worked for was divided by people who were just aweful and didn't understand the hard work he endured to have what he did.

Anyways.... isn't this a bitch.....It's already too long and I haven't told you yet how I couldn't find anything offline to help men so my first encounter with the internet was finding the online men's movement.

I owe soooo much, I really do. I expect that people know me and I don't mind. Hey, shush, I know a thing and two about them also.

I won't bore you with other details xxx

**Trauma Fried Brains** · 3rd-July-2012

Julie, very interesting re-intro’. However it feels odd because when I read it, it actually makes understandable sense.

It’s a touching account and I hope you feel more in tune with your new changed self. However if this comprehendible style of writing continues, I’m not sure how many of your posts I’ll read in the future. In the right gaga mood, I used to enjoy reading your crazy undecipherable posts.

**julie** · 3rd-July-2012

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Julie, very interesting re-intro’. However it feels odd because when I read it, it actually makes understandable sense.

It’s a touching account and I hope you feel more in tune with your new changed self. However if this comprehendible style of writing continues, I’m not sure how many of your posts I’ll read in the future. In the right gaga mood, I used to enjoy reading your crazy undecipherable posts before.

Hmmm, I have to think about your response. You bring me into your life with your comment and you must respect me enough to know I KNOW A THING AND TWO ABOUT YOU. (you don;t HAVE to respect me, but I still know u).

Why can't we grow together? Why must my madness be acceptable only if I stay the same? Are you afraid of change?

**Trauma Fried Brains** · 3rd-July-2012

Ahhhh, don’t fret Julie; you’re doing just fine. We’d always develop and ‘grow together’, nobody can stop such natural processes, they just happen and you grow along with them. I can’t help it if much of my respect for you is based on being enchanted with your classic nonsense can I?

Besides, as you’d probably guess, the only thing I’m afraid of is to keep on breathing for too long.

**felixblue** · 3rd-July-2012

I liked Julies post simply because I like nonsense and silly people who don't pretend to be something they are not..

Practically admittting she is a feminist, makes her the enemy of the antifeminists and most MRA's, or does it?

**outdoors** · 3rd-July-2012

felix,it is my understanding that Julie helps single parent's.

Men and women.

**felixblue** · 3rd-July-2012

Nothing wrong with helping people who are in a bad position.. Indeed many folk are so well helped when in that position it has become a more than valid alternative to having to raise a kid with the other person.. Its a growth area for sure..

**KellyMac** · 3rd-July-2012

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Nothing wrong with helping people who are in a bad position.. Indeed many folk are so well helped when in that position it has become a more than valid alternative to having to raise a kid with the other person.. Its a growth area for sure..

Passive aggressive much?

**Yan Yan** · 3rd-July-2012

Julie just sees it all from a personal/emotional perspective and doesn't give a shit about the politics.

She's more interested in repairing the damage than fixing the cause of the damage.

She's more concerned about taking care of her own and innocent victims - just like most of us here.

That's no bad thing.

**felixblue** · 3rd-July-2012

A wise young man well experienced in the fathers cause once told me some years ago..

"I see all these seperated men and women with kids, and the fathers are struggling to try and see their kids, and the courts are wringing their hands not knowing what to do.. But with those people all those experts, court orders and the rest, one person alone has the power to put it all right, one person can fix it all, get rid of all the need for the court, all the messing about and adversity, and that can be done immediately at a stroke by one person.. That person is the mother.."

This is startlingly true in most cases..

The reason there are so many single mother families, may well be in some way influenced by the nature of changing society, feminism, etc.. How parents are led astray by the temptations of the world and forget what their families are about..

But, there is no getting away from the fact that it is because many women make that choice to become single parents..

If it is easy for lawyers and others who profit from family destruction to persuade the selfish and the stupid to break their families up for whatever petty reason (and most reasons ARE petty, and temporary, at least compared to the rest of the childrens lives)..

It is because women are far to willing to want to change their lifestyle if they see others seeming to be having a great time now they are rid of that lump of shit bloke who never earned enough, never fucked them how they liked it.. etc..

Fact is, as we often note..

Most divorces are initiated by women..

Following seperation, most fathers are grovelling round and sucking up to their ex's. especially if they go to court..

Many fathers would like to get back with their ex's,. sort things out..

Lets get real about things. Women are single mothers, mainly because they WANT to be..

Sorry, but saving themselves for Johnny Depp to shack up with them is NOT a good enough excuse for choosing a lifestyle that is basically parasitic on folk that would rather not be supporting this sort of thing in the main..

**felixblue** · 3rd-July-2012

Quote from KellyMac

Passive aggressive much?

Not at all. Just stating it as I see it.. I just note the irony of it.. Tis one of those many paradoxes..

**FloatyBoaty** · 3rd-July-2012

Rewelcome!

**julie** · 6th-July-2012

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Ahhhh, don’t fret Julie; you’re doing just fine.

One day at a time TFB.

That's all that is expected when you know life like you and me. It's a real hard day at times, for it's real hard to like the environment we live in. Sometimes, yes, I know, it's like "What was this day about or week or month". Existing is hard but a good day is good is it not? If all you have is a breathe, is there not some hope to make you breathe?

I’m afraid of is to keep on breathing for too long.

You won't if it the choice is taken away from you.... you will fight for your life.

What you need to find is a reason to live. Tell me of your reason to die but backwards from today.

**julie** · 6th-July-2012

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I liked Julies post simply because I like nonsense and silly people who don't pretend to be something they are not..

Practically admittting she is a feminist, makes her the enemy of the antifeminists and most MRA's, or does it?

I like you more than you like me. I've come to learn the men that have a go at me have it all.... You are in control of your life, you need nothing and will succeed greatly. Good for you buddy. Be what you are. It suits me well.

**felixblue** · 6th-July-2012

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I like you more than you like me. I've come to learn the men that have a go at me have it all.... You are in control of your life, you need nothing and will succeed greatly. Good for you buddy. Be what you are. It suits me well.

I suck seed like a toothless budgie..