Thread: early misandry experience

Welcome to this forum.
Your experiences must have been incredible to have to endure, all those adults taking advantage like that - gender regardless.
I don't have much to offer in the form of advice, but I will say that in my life I've found men to be more genuinely understanding of real abuses. Almost like they relate far better with your experiences. Naturally, this isn't PC to acknowledge as women are claimed to have superior empathy & communication skills etc.
Anyway, I hope you find some comfort in this forum and it's members. Your observations, re: women hating men but men not hating women, seem to be fairly accurate in my mind & experience. Slowly though, our cause is becoming more heard & even more understood.

BTW, if you don't mind me prying some - were you taken into care (for protection, of course) and how old are you now...roughly? I don't mean to overly-pry in your personal affairs, just curious as to you've dealt with life since moving on from those who abused you.

ps - i moved this into the 'introduce yourself' forum.

Hello BRM, it's sad to hear about such influential female characters who could have influenced your life positively, have proven to be otherwise.

Firstly don't disengage because you don't immediately gain all the answers you so crave. Stick around and speak to other members here (no charge) who are more than happy to indulge. There's a wealth of knowledge here, not to mention people who will listen (myself included).

I am 50. had 14 years of al-anon, lots of theripy I se a psychitrist for post tramatic stress, on antipsch meds. Paranoid personality. I had no support growing up and thought I was stupid, ugly, fat and unlovable. I never felt powerfull and had no confidece that I could defend myself. I am very insecure about someone continuing to love me. I used to be very angry. I had hodgkin's lympoma and chemotherapy and fell apart emotionally have not worked since 1993. When I had cancer I found that there is compassion in the world. That word was not in my SOP before that. I'm pretty happy now. One more thing I have found I cannot say I was molested in public without someone fearing I am a molester. Funny that women can say thay were molested and people feel sorry for them. I just get suspicion. I would never do what was done to me. misandry hurts.

BRM, don't look to get all your righteous mini-exorcisms disolved in one go. Take your time and listen to the excellent advice here. Yes "misandry hurts" and with awakened good people such as yourself - we will change things!

Welcome to the forums BRBM, that's a really sad story. I hope you can overcome those awful memories of those events and are able to move on with your life.

BRBM, welcome!

May I ask - how did you find our page/forum?

Howdy BRM and welcome. Jesus Christ, I am sorry to hear about your childhood. Celtic Druid is so right. I have been studying psychology myself for over 4 years now and have always had an interest in it. I would be happy to give whatever support you desire (information of course) and advice. It sounds as if you've made progress and have come to the point where you are trying to be proactive about your abuse. Furthermore, it is excellent to see that you are reaching out and exploring different avenues to cope with your stress.

I hope the therapy is working well for you. There is a book that I have found to be very helpful for understanding the human mind. It's called Choice Theory by Dr. William Glasser. If you have time, and are so inclined, check this book out. I believe that it is filled with many provacative insights and will be very helpful for you.

In closing, welcome to the forum. I hope you will become a permanent and active member.

Aw Jesus, BRM, I'm so glad you found us. That was a really brave way to introduce yourself. Misandry is so painfully destructive, and it hurts us all. I'm so glad you survived your early experiences. Hell has a special place for animals like that, whether you've forgiven them or not.

As you say, it is possible to have been abused as a child and not grow up to be an abuser. I don't accept that excuse, and it seems to be the one most used.

You are most welcome here.

Welcome BRM
See the good people on this forum care!
I find this a great place to sound off !You will get encouragement on this site and understanding that is so absent in the heartless world of today.

The fact that you maintain your dignity after such awful experiences and dont resort to hating.You are an example to us all.Justice will triumph the truth will out.
Keep in touch with us sir God bless you.

thankyou for the support. My parents, grandmothers and uncles are all dead now. Two Years after I found out mother and father were dead I began to feel safer and don't have to take as much antipsychotics. I don't hear or see things that are not there I just watch my back too much and see danger where there is none. Paranoia. I have always been afraid of women and one has to almost sign in blood that they want sex for me to get the hint. Even then it is a fear and guilt experience. I need alot of support after the sex. Id rather not have sex.
When I tell someone of what my mother did they say well think of what she must have been thru. some seem to automattically jump to her with sympathey and forget about what she did to me. Last time i was molested was at age 37!! I was at grandmothers house and both uncles there. Not enough beds for all of us so uncle said we could share fold out couch. I thought well thats just a brotherly type thing and anyway I was not under the covers with him. Stupid me. I woke up feeling arousal and pressure. btoh of my uncles were sitting next to me. I felt I had done something wrong and was embarassed. Later I figured it out. I found this site by looking up misandry.

thankyou for the support. My parents, grandmothers and uncles are all dead now. Two Years after I found out mother and father were dead I began to feel safer and don't have to take as much antipsychotics. I don't hear or see things that are not there I just watch my back too much and see danger where there is none. Paranoia. I have always been afraid of women and one has to almost sign in blood that they want sex for me to get the hint. Even then it is a fear and guilt experience. I need alot of support after the sex. Id rather not have sex.
When I tell someone of what my mother did they say well think of what she must have been thru. some seem to automattically jump to her with sympathey and forget about what she did to me. Last time i was molested was at age 37!! I was at grandmothers house and both uncles there. Not enough beds for all of us so uncle said we could share fold out couch. I thought well thats just a brotherly type thing and anyway I was not under the covers with him. Stupid me. I woke up feeling arousal and pressure. btoh of my uncles were sitting next to me. I felt I had done something wrong and was embarassed. Later I figured it out. I found this site by looking up misandry.

That is horrible,BRM. I'm glad to see that this forum has been a help to you. Please, talk whenever you need to. We are all here to listen and comment on what you have to say. I'm happy to hear that you are feeling safer now. Hopefuly you will continue with your progress. Paranoia is nothing to live with.

You mentioned in your post that others glossed over your experiences and went straight to sympathizing with your mother. Sadly, that is the norm in our culture. People just don't care about men as much as they care about women. I haven't had any horrible experiences to come to the realization that men are discriminated against in our culture, thank God. One day, I realized that I was prejudiced against men and I AM a man! :slap:

Stories such as yours bring forth the painful truth that women can be just as cruel as men in every respect. Don't be afraid to keep sharing. And don't be afraid to get angry when people seem to ignore or trivialize your experiences. You were abused and deserve the same sympathy and compassion as a woman!

That is horrible,BRM. I'm glad to see that this forum has been a help to you. Please, talk whenever you need to. We are all here to listen and comment on what you have to say. I'm happy to hear that you are feeling safer now. Hopefuly you will continue with your progress. Paranoia is nothing to live with.

You mentioned in your post that others glossed over your experiences and went straight to sympathizing with your mother. Sadly, that is the norm in our culture. People just don't care about men as much as they care about women. I haven't had any horrible experiences to come to the realization that men are discriminated against in our culture, thank God. One day, I realized that I was prejudiced against men and I AM a man! :slap:

Stories such as yours bring forth the painful truth that women can be just as cruel as men in every respect. Don't be afraid to keep sharing. And don't be afraid to get angry when people seem to ignore or trivialize your experiences. You were abused and deserve the same sympathy and compassion as a woman!

Im horrified to hear of your experiences and equally horrified about how the "professionals" seem to have related to your experiences.

Welcome to the board, you're amongst friends here.