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I am wondering if anyone has any experience dealing with the wife/children of a father paying child support. When money is taken, it is not all his, you know?? Part of earned income credit is from our children. Without these children, he wouldn't be getting this much back on his tax refund. And the stimulus check?? $300 per child is for my children, not my husband, yet they take the whole @%^*(*^%# thing!! How can this be legal. Don't me and my children have any rights to our part of this money?? Help!!

Welcome aboard the merry ship... now, hand over 1/3 of your income or else we'll throw ya in jail.

Not really... we're quite against the government intrusion into people's affairs here really

The reasons you've explained above are why the C$A is not about 'best interests of the child', as feminists and government officials claim it to... Clearly, it is about, in the words of Polly Toynbee, transferring money from wallet to handbag (the ex's, that is).

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Type here to start your introduction post...I am here because I am tired of all of my families' extra money(tax refunds, earned income credit, stimulus check, etc.) being taken to pay my husbands back child support for a child he will never get to see. This looked like a place to vent.

Welcome. We do a lot of venting here!!!!

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Welcome. We do a lot of venting here!!!!

Indeed we do

That really sucks.

That's the problem with marrying a man who already has children, unfortunately.

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I am wondering if anyone has any experience dealing with the wife/children of a father paying child support. When money is taken, it is not all his, you know?? Part of earned income credit is from our children. Without these children, he wouldn't be getting this much back on his tax refund. And the stimulus check?? $300 per child is for my children, not my husband, yet they take the whole @%^*(*^%# thing!! How can this be legal. Don't me and my children have any rights to our part of this money?? Help!!

That is really terrible. I can only state the obvious in that your situation would probably depend on the country and state you live in. Have you talked to a lawyer and an accountant?

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That really sucks.

That's the problem with marrying a man who already has children, unfortunately.

Indeed so.

I recall in my younger years reading, what I now know to be pro-feminist, articles complaining that men wouldn't look at single mothers.

And, as with everything else... an absolute shift to the complete opposite has occured with the awesome power of the government interferences.

Now, I don't believe that a red-blooded man would not look at a woman who had children... That just sounds bizarre. But, we are seeing the opposite of feminist perceived problems. Now, men who have children don't get looked at. For fear of his income being reduced - and her income being reduced if she hooks up with him.

This has made men unattractive to many women.

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That is really terrible. I can only state the obvious in that your situation would probably depend on the country and state you live in. Have you talked to a lawyer and an accountant?

Not yet. Money is an issue, obviously. I know the first consultation is usually free, it is just so frustrating, and there are extenuating and private circumstances that we are tired of all digging up. Thanks.

That's the problem with conflating the spiritual union of marriage with the legal designation of "married." If you can both handle it, try this: get legally divorced, but remain spiritually married in your own eyes and the eyes of your friends and family. Make sure that you live in a non-common-law state. Then you can become the primary breadwinner, and he can earn his money under the table. You'll keep more of your money, your family will benefit, your marriage will benefit, your husband's Ex will lose out, and so will the government!

Welcome Blondie.

So, you have a problem with child support payments and Guvmunt interferences. You don't like your money being taken and given to some other woman to support her lifestyle. Hundreds of thousands of men have been having this problem for two generations.

Er.... did you notice? Did you speak up back then? Even say, ten years ago? ( I don't know how old you are or how long you have been married).

Join in here and learn if you didn't know much before, but don't expect a huge amount of sympathy for a while. You need to prove you are part of the solution rather than just someone feeling the consequences of their own actions, words, attitudes and feelings against men, and whining.