Being legally destroyed in a feminine controlled justice system

**georgev** · 7th-August-2012

Hi,

I signed up this morning, hoping to be able to get some advice in a tough and inhuman case.
I can write a series of books about it, but in short.
Married to a Chinese, money always more important than everything else, extremely controlling, addicted to the internet, home all day, son born in 2009. The problems started immediately after birth. She stopped fixing me food, and I was not allowed anymore to fix food for myself. If I did try, screaming like hell, and all that with my son present. To protect him, decided to quit the evening meal, and only take one meal a day at work.
I am a diabetic, and as a result, severe hypoglycemia followed, where you are unable to control muscles and end up unconscious. If it happens, all what happens to be done is give me a shot with a hormone, making the liver release glucose. She always refused to help me, put my son in his high chair to watch me, took pictures with her camera, and waited till I was unconscious. Then she called the emergency crew. many times the floor and walls were covered in blood, from me hitting my head in trying to rescue myself.
Comment from emergency and cops: inhumane. Nothing else.
My son, being treated like a machine, eating up to the minute at a certain time, eat when she says to eat and the quantity with she found in the internet he has to eat. If not, screaming. He vomits, screaming, I have to clean up, immediately feeding him again, up to 3, 4 times.
I was recommended to contacted the Child Protective Services. They did an investigation and confirmed my report. A first hearing with the judge, and she could not make a decision, wanted a deeper investigation to be done. This dragged on almost a year, half of my son's age.
New hearing and the judge doesn't want to hear anything about the evolution of the situation, only look at the results from the investigation. Psychiatric: 30 minute talk with psychiatrist: nothing found. Social assistant: report filtered and everything against my wife removed. No mention of 2 letters which I wrote, her begging to please take action and stop the brain washing of my son and turning him against me. And this continues up to today, with true psychological pressure. No mention of the day that my wife put with all of her force a sharp piece of wood in my neck, while I was playing and having my son on my lap. The judge did not do anything, but decided for an educational service to protect my son.

The divorce. Took an attorney, supposedly the best in town, a woman, and was lied to for 6 months that the demand for divorce had been done. But no reply when I asked for a copy of all documents. I changed attorneys to another women, specializing in tough cases. The 6 months delay gave my wife the opportunity to request divorce, and my new attorney filed immediately after.
I found out that, who knows how, my wife empties my swiss back accounts, emptied a bank account with a loan which my father gave me, in order to purchase property in 2006.
In addition, my wife's attorney went to the judge asking 50,000 euros from me. The judge accorded her 12,000 and in order to guarantee that the money would be there, the judge had my bank accounts blocked, leaving me with 1000 euros, in the time that I had to pay my taxes.
As a result, I am fully broke, don't have money to buy food, don't have money to even go see a doctor.
I live in France and the average duration of a divorce is 2 years. There are 2 hearings, a first hearing for conciliation to make sure that you want to divorce, setting conditions for a separation, and a 2nd one, the real divorce.
Had the 1st one, and I had a big file of proof against my wife. My wife had only one thing, a job offer in China, and she is supposed to start the job Oct 8th. I had the impression that the judge did not even read my file. She gave my wife's attorney 45 minutes to talk, and interrupted my attorney after 10 minutes, saying that she had run out of time. decision if my wife can leave WITH my son to china will be made Sept. 17.
The job offer is fake, I had it translated myself, and turns out to be her brother's friend. and is a free ticket to China, with all the money she took. What is given me is 2x 2 weeks a year to visit my son, UNDER SUPERVISION.
My wife refuses me to take my son with me to see things. He is all day locked inside the house. she has 2 rooms locked, sleeps with my son in the same bed, locks his room after he sleeps and gets on her PC.
she has my son completely brain washed, tells him something in chinese and he slaps me in the face. Then he starts crying. She tells him something in chinese and he destroys what is dear to me. She tells him something in Chinese and he tells me to go to the baker, 200 ft away, to buy bread. If I don't he cries. She eats the bread, he doesn't touch it.

It is much more complicated and cruel than I write. I am exhausted, half dead. Is there another option than a gun to finish this?

**FloatyBoaty** · 7th-August-2012

to the forum, georgev. I moved this to the introduction thread as it seems to be your introduction.

It is sad times we are living in.

Can you tell us more about yourself? And I'm sure there are several on here who can give you support. It would help to know what country you live in.

If you live in China, can you tell us how things are over there?

**outdoors** · 7th-August-2012

It is much more complicated and cruel than I write. I am exhausted, half dead. Is there another option than a gun to finish this?

antimisandry.com http://antimisandry.com/introduce-yo...#ixzz22tnMj73k

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**Rof L Mao Esq** · 7th-August-2012

Damn, son, that's quite a story.

No reduction in this woman's accountability implied, do you find a pattern in this of making yourself vulnerable to women who despise you? If you can figure out how you got here, it may help you get through and not repeat these kinds of dynamics with anyone else again.

You seem young, so I hope your strength and courage will emerge and help you, you'll need it.

But somewhere in there it sounds like you missed a step, the one where you set your boundaries and make it clear you will defend them. Not easy, and my heart breaks with the familiarity of much that you recount.

But injustice or no, your survival, and role as a father, begins with you.

Believe me, I've made every mistake in this book, so it is in solidarity that I write this, not judgment.

God Bless, and BTW:

WELCOME ABOARD!!!!!

**FloatyBoaty** · 7th-August-2012

My bad, I didn't read it very well. So, you live in Europe. Bad place to live. I'm still curious about China; and why would she want to move back there. (assuming she came from there)

**Rof L Mao Esq** · 7th-August-2012

FIVE-SIX-SEVEN-EIGHT,

A buzzard took a monkey for a ride in the air
The monkey thought that everything was on the square,

etc, etc,

Everybody dance....

http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j...OWcMVx1pKO1aWQ

**wh666** · 7th-August-2012

Quote from georgev

Hi,

I signed up this morning, hoping to be able to get some advice in a tough and inhuman case.
I can write a series of books about it, but in short.
Married to a Chinese, money always more important than everything else, extremely controlling, addicted to the internet, home all day, son born in 2009. The problems started immediately after birth.

Sorry to hear that. Many people do change after marriage/procreation unfortunately.

Quote from georgev

She stopped fixing me food, and I was not allowed anymore to fix food for myself. If I did try, screaming like hell, and all that with my son present. To protect him, decided to quit the evening meal, and only take one meal a day at work.
I am a diabetic, and as a result, severe hypoglycemia followed, where you are unable to control muscles and end up unconscious.

I'm no lawyer, but to deny one food is tantamount to torture and a form of medical abuse inflicted upon you.

Quote from georgev

If it happens, all what happens to be done is give me a shot with a hormone, making the liver release glucose. She always refused to help me, put my son in his high chair to watch me, took pictures with her camera, and waited till I was unconscious. Then she called the emergency crew. many times the floor and walls were covered in blood, from me hitting my head in trying to rescue myself. Comment from emergency and cops: inhumane. Nothing else.

So didn't your legal representation make it clear that she was capable and had excised cruel and inhumane treatment on you and petition the courts to block her taking the child out of the country? I know you mentioned the events below, but it's ludicrous they didn't do more than just a protective report/educational service!

Quote from georgev

The divorce. Took an attorney, supposedly the best in town, a woman, and was lied to for 6 months that the demand for divorce had been done. But no reply when I asked for a copy of all documents. I changed attorneys to another women, specializing in tough cases. The 6 months delay gave my wife the opportunity to request divorce, and my new attorney filed immediately after.

I found out that, who knows how, my wife empties my swiss back accounts, emptied a bank account with a loan which my father gave me, in order to purchase property in 2006. In addition, my wife's attorney went to the judge asking 50,000 euros from me. The judge accorded her 12,000 and in order to guarantee that the money would be there, the judge had my bank accounts blocked, leaving me with 1000 euros, in the time that I had to pay my taxes.

Sorry I know this is bitter hindsight, but I wish you had come across sites like this or received better legal advice. In such cases, freezing assets and accounts is always advisable.

Quote from georgev

As a result, I am fully broke, don't have money to buy food, don't have money to even go see a doctor.
I live in France and the average duration of a divorce is 2 years. There are 2 hearings, a first hearing for conciliation to make sure that you want to divorce, setting conditions for a separation, and a 2nd one, the real divorce.

Your English is good, so have you considered a place like the UK? You could get the healthcare you need and work to recoup money for tax bills. Don't let that linger, always pay the taxman.

Quote from georgev

The job offer is fake, I had it translated myself, and turns out to be her brother's friend. and is a free ticket to China, with all the money she took. What is given me is 2x 2 weeks a year to visit my son, UNDER SUPERVISION.
My wife refuses me to take my son with me to see things. He is all day locked inside the house. she has 2 rooms locked, sleeps with my son in the same bed, locks his room after he sleeps and gets on her PC.

Doesn't surprise me at all. Expect her to disappear off the grid once she moves there and is settled.

Quote from georgev

she has my son completely brain washed, tells him something in chinese and he slaps me in the face. Then he starts crying. She tells him something in chinese and he destroys what is dear to me. She tells him something in Chinese and he tells me to go to the baker, 200 ft away, to buy bread. If I don't he cries. She eats the bread, he doesn't touch it.

It is much more complicated and cruel than I write. I am exhausted, half dead. Is there another option than a gun to finish this?

Please don't think of ending it all.

My advice would be:
Even though it goes against all feelings, it may be best just to let it go. You probably won't get to see him and if you do, he will be so scared of you after all this crap, that it will confirm his brainwashing, even if you're nice to him.

Instead I would attempt to contact him as an adult or leave the door open for him to contact you beforehand. Write him letters/emails that you never send and store, letting him know the timeline of events and that you never stopped thinking about him. Try not to demonise his mother too hard but explain the story from your side. Once you're solvent again, put money to one side in savings for birthdays, etc, as a nest egg for him.

He will at some point want an explanation, so when he does, you will have one for him. Then it is his choice, but in my opinion, that is the best way to stay out of prison and get a chance of a relationship with him as an adult.

Stay strong.

**FloatyBoaty** · 8th-August-2012

Quote from dinohip51

FIVE-SIX-SEVEN-EIGHT,

A buzzard took a monkey for a ride in the air
The monkey thought that everything was on the square,

etc, etc,

Everybody dance....

http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j...OWcMVx1pKO1aWQ

Reminds me of grocery store music....

**Rof L Mao Esq** · 8th-August-2012

Quote from FloatyBoaty

Reminds me of grocery store music....

You younguns don't know what music is...

**That Nordic Guy** · 8th-August-2012

Dafuq did I just read 0_o

**julie** · 8th-August-2012

Hi Georgev, it's nice to meet u and welcome

IMO, you have done well in your introduction. I hope you feel a bit lighter for letting out some of your story even if it looks allot.

I can relate to parts of your story and believe me when I say I felt just as much a mess as you may feel (I say this to cheer you up

)

Please stay and please don't feel bad.

Quote from FloatyBoaty

If you live in China, can you tell us how things are over there?

Lol. What has China got to do with anything? Don't you know MRA brainwashed men to marry Asians for men to only learn the greed and dishonesty of Asians? Get with the program, lol (I am not upset with you by the way, but it would be good for you to talk to other men)

**nevosopelo** · 9th-August-2012

I can not tell you what to do because I am not familiar with French family courts. However, it sounds like your chinese wife pulled a fast one on you. I do not think your wife can take the child out of the country without your consent. If she does, the french government has a legal duty to find the child and repatriate him as an abducted French child. There's european legislation covering the abduction problem. As for the money, god knows if you ever will recover it. Even in a water tight case of child abuse perpetrated by the mother, I guess that the mother will get custody of your son unless you manage to prove she is a nutcase, made oficial by Doctors. Here in the UK. many deranged women still are getting custody under the mantra that the bond between mother and children is unbreakable. This is, of course, feminist claptrap bought by judges. I feel sorry for your plight what makes it even sadder is that a child is being use against you with the full knowlegde of the judges.

Unfortunately this twenty first European justice!!!

Men should take precautions before taking the marriage step into oblivion!!!!

NEVO

**shaazam** · 9th-August-2012

all these marital disaster accounts from men on this forum come from their delusional trust in wimyn's integrity

basically they have none but only dissemble to such extent they believe they really do possess some ; a wimyn set on deceit is better than the finest stage or screen actor - however once they perceive they have their mark in their grasp it is finis la musico for the sap - a bit like the scene of a lion kill; the next day

**wh666** · 9th-August-2012

Quote from shaazam

all these marital disaster accounts from men on this forum come from their delusional trust in wimyn's integrity

basically they have none but only dissemble to such extent they believe they really do possess some ; a wimyn set on deceit is better than the finest stage or screen actor - however once they perceive they have their mark in their grasp it is finis la musico for the sap - a bit like the scene of a lion kill; the next day

Many men and from the sounds of it, the OP, had trust in women, hence getting married, having kids and their bank accounts emptied before they even realised it. They had trust and it was broken. Is it delusional to believe in love?

Then, rather than move that she should be indited for fraud, men like the OP wanted an amicable solution so they could still be a good parent.

I feel you could be a little nicer to the OP, rather than kicking him while he's down.

**shaazam** · 9th-August-2012

men like the OP wanted an amicable solution so they could still be a good parent.

I bet men do; but reality is cold

my message to any young men reading these posts is to try and dissuade them from committing in the new age of gynocracy to a financial and emotional predetermined wipe out beguiled by romantic delusions about wimyn in the new age ; sadly it is too late for him