Hello to all!

I'm a new member here and yes, I'm a woman. Hope that doesn't make me an automatic enemy in the eyes of other members here. I was just looking through some of the newer posts and I just want to say I hope this website really is working on issues of inequality, but it seems that there's a whole lot of female-bashing going on. Every woman you encounter in life is not your enemy: nor is every woman a man-hater, even if she is a feminist. That being said, I just wanted to tell you all a little bit about myself.

I'm a single mom (divorced after 15 years of marriage.) I have three kids. I'm a full time college student, just finishing up a degree in chemical dependency counseling. I just applied for a job as a domestic violence counselor and am continuing my education as of next fall, as well. My focus (or major) has been and will be in the field of clinical psychology. I'm a survivor of an abusive relationship. I've overcame my own issues with chemical dependency. I joined this website to offer my own views on issues that relate to men as well as to offer alternative perspectives on issues that relate to women. I'm an equalist. I am a critical thinker.

You don't have to tell me that domestic violence isn't just a women's issue. I know that it affects men, as well. I'll be working with both men and women and both perpetrators and victims of DV. I hope that I can get to know some of you a little bit better, and I hope that I can learn a bit from all of you.

Welcome to Anti Misandry.

Glad to see you arrived safely, Tera... No, no one will 'hate' you just because you're a woman... the 'feminist' element 'may' cause issues for some here though.

Get stuck in, and have a thick skin. There's a good few other women here too, so get stuck in.

Thank you!

Stick around, keep an open mind, dont play the man=bad/woman good mantra, and maybe WE all can learn a little...\

TMOTS

welcome Tera. Live long and prosper.

No, just being female doesn't make you an enemy of men. But lets read farther.



You didn't get very far. Denying the misandry of feminism does make you very suspect. Strike one.


Probably destroyed the family of some good man. Does that make you the enemy of men? Strike 2.


You intend to work in the anti-men hate program. Does that make you an enemy of men? Strike 3. You struck out, babe.



A "victim" who blames the nearest available man for her problems. The misandry continues. (Strike 4?)



No, you are a life long feminist misandrist who's life is devoted to misandry. You are NOT a "critical thinker." You are instead a mouthpiece for the usual feminist dogma and victimology. You proved that already. If you feel hated here it's NOT because you are female.



Sure you will. And sows fly.


I hope so too, but somehow I doubt it.

Blessings

Bob

Wow, Bob...you sure seem to have a very large chip on your shoulder. You don't "know me"...but thanks for the pseudo-psychoanalysis. I'm not a misandrist. I didn't ruin a good man's life. That "good man" is in jail right now, as he has been off and on for quite some time. Great role model for our kids. Loving father who never writes, calls, visits, or pays child support. Yet when he isn't locked up, I drive over 100 miles (one way) to take the kids to see him. He makes zero effort. Good man? You know not of what you speak. Does a good man hit his wife in front of the kids? And having this experience hasn't made me bitter toward all men. You see, I'm not like you. I don't judge and stereotype people. I don't presume to know someone I've never even met. Looks to me like you're the one who's struck out, babe. I've got the bat in my hand and I'm capable of hitting a few home runs.

If you had read my first post a little more carefully, you would have noted that I said I'd be working with both men and women, and not just victims of DV but perpetrators as well. That means there is no gender bias in my work. I've helped 3 men get out of violent relationships already. And I'm not even a counselor YET.

*peace*

A typical feminist shaming tactic.

All I know is what you post -- most of that was feminist misandry.

"I'm not a misandrist..." so typical of 3rd wave feminism.


I'm sure you can't see the huge contradiction in those two stentences.


Translation:

a) you took his kids when you destroyed his family. That's standard feminist

b) You took his kids but you expect him to support you and the family you destroyed. That's one of the most offensive parts of feminst misandry.


You use him as a "walking wallet," reduce his family to occasional visitation, call the pigs to send him to hell, and blame him for not kowtowing to your "visitation" demands. You get more and more offensive to men with every sentence.


Only when she richly deserves it. From what I've read so far that sounds like the most probable situation. You apparntly called the blue gun thug feminist Gestapo and sent him to hell. A lot of good men find that really offensive.


Obviously. From your description, you were bitter misandrist feminsit before that experience. It did not change you.


LOL. You're so deep into misandrist feminism that you blame men and pretend that your misandry isn't a stereotype.

On the other side, Bob has not judged you by anything except your own words and description of yourself and your life.


Threatening men doesn't make you into a friend of men, toots.



So you are "working with" female victims and men who are classified by the VAWA as "perpetrators." That's the most disgusting and hateful thing you've said yet.

Get back to us when the department you work for has a 50/50 split in victims and perpetrators.


Blessings

Bob

Bob, I just love how you "fill in the blanks" and presume things you could not possibly even know. My ex has been in and out of jail/juvenile hall since he was 14. His first major criminal offense (first one he was actually caught doing, anyway) was robbing houses with his friends and video taping it. I love how you blame me for his behavior. My ex was diagnosed with anti-social personality disorder while in prison. Not just anti-social personality disorder, but the psychopathic type. When I got sick of putting up with his abuse, he stalked me. He assaulted me with a knife in front of our two year old daughter and attempted to rape me. Our neighbors intervened and he ended up in jail.

Bob, if you think I'm trying to shame you, you're absolutely right.