Another man's life, destroyed by feminism.

**le jacquelope** · 8th-May-2012

Daily Kos: I May be Going to Debtor's Prison

MON MAY 07, 2012 AT 01:11 PM PDT

I May be Going to Debtor's Prison

My wife of 7 years left in late 2008. If I had known why she was leaving, I would never have let her take the children with her. I'd just landed a great job doing home performance auditing. The days were often 12 hours long, so it made sense to let her take the kids with her 'to her parents'. I figured she'd get over whatever it was, we'd talk, and she'd be back on the inside of a month. But she wouldn't talk at all about why she was leaving. I suggested counseling, she refused. I tried to get it out of her, told her there was nothing we couldn't work on or fix.

Nothing. I found out the truth later: she met a guy who inherited a VERY lucrative manufacturing business from his famous industrialist father. He promised her everything, and she took him up on it. Right when it looked like I'd finally be able to take care of everything, the floor dropped out from under me. It wasn't the first time, it wouldn't be the last. It might not have been so bad if it weren't for horrible sense of betrayal. The anguish of finding out that every promise to weather hardship, to love forever, and every card and letter iterating devotion and support was a lie was unbearable. The agony was like a scarlet flow of magma filling my head and washing away all comfort and respite from the realization I had been deceived so profoundly and personally and for so many years.

I didn't sleep, my job performance suffered, and I lost the job. It was my responsibility to distance myself from my anguish and not let it affect my work, and I failed. In truth, I hadn't been doing that badly on the job, but I think the owner of the business saw my internal conflict and it colored his impression of me for the worse. It's hard to blame him, it was a difficult time. I had been with someone who worked very hard at pretending to be someone they weren't. The real her gladly abandoned the commitment and responsibility of her marriage in order to live without the inconvenience such commitment carried. She couldn't very well tell her new boyfriend it was his money she found most attractive, so the role of scapegoat/bogeyman/deadbeat was superimposed upon me in order to quell reservations he may have had about her motives.

Twelve months, one disinterested attorney, and a generous helping of perjury against me later, I was on the bad end of a divorce. I tried to get the kids back, but even though I had a (different) decent job, I also had a penis. In family court in Erie county New York, such a thing counts as two strikes against with no balls. I know that men are partially to blame for the generally anti-male sentiment in family court, and it makes me furious when I hear about men who skip out on their kids and deliberately withhold support. But given my experiences, and there are some stunning examples among them, it's not a far stretch to imagine that the court tends to vent its frustration with them on men who are trying very hard to do the right thing. Which brings me to why I may be going to jail without actually or deliberately having committed any crime other than being broke.

**Marx** · 8th-May-2012

Wow, please use that really big key with the left-pointing arrow on it.. It's called a return and it breaks up long, long texts into more manageable portions. We call these, "line breaks".

**Percy** · 8th-May-2012

Some experiences need complex sentences, Karl. I found them digestible.

It might not have been so bad if it weren't for horrible sense of betrayal. The anguish of finding out that every promise to weather hardship, to love forever, and every card and letter iterating devotion and support was a lie was unbearable

antimisandry.com Another man's life, destroyed by feminism.

Maybe a comma before the last two words would have helped your mind take a breath.

**FloatyBoaty** · 8th-May-2012

Quote from Marx

Wow, please use that really big key with the left-pointing arrow on it.. It's called a return and it breaks up long, long texts into more manageable portions. We call these, "line breaks".

I prefer to think more and talk less, but some people need to talk in order to think. The original article was quite long.

Quote from le jacquelope

My wife of 7 years left in late 2008. If I had known why she was leaving, I would never have let her take the children with her. I'd just landed a great job doing home performance auditing. The days were often 12 hours long, so it made sense to let her take the kids with her 'to her parents'. I figured she'd get over whatever it was, we'd talk, and she'd be back on the inside of a month. But she wouldn't talk at all about why she was leaving. I suggested counseling, she refused. I tried to get it out of her, told her there was nothing we couldn't work on or fix.

At this point, I could tell she never truly married you. The rest of the story showed that her "husband" is greed.

**Marx** · 8th-May-2012

Quote from Percy

Some experiences need complex sentences, Karl. I found them digestible.

That's because I've already edited them to break it up... What you see now isn't what I saw. I was confronted with an excessively lengthy wall of text in the form of one mega-paragraph.

Quote from FloatyBoaty

I prefer to think more and talk less, but some people need to talk in order to think.

Oh that's me alright - I talk to myself a lot too lol...

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At this point, I could tell she never truly married you. The rest of the story showed that her "husband" is greed.

Indeed, and she won't be the last woman (or man for that matter) who marries this sod.

**Zuberi** · 8th-May-2012

Quote from le jacquelope

I had been with someone who worked very hard at pretending to be someone they weren't. The real her gladly abandoned the commitment and responsibility of her marriage in order to live without the inconvenience such commitment carried. She couldn't very well tell her new boyfriend it was his money she found most attractive, so the role of scapegoat/bogeyman/deadbeat was superimposed upon me in order to quell reservations he may have had about her motives.

Then she was a serpent from the very beginning.
He didn't have the street smarts to see through her pretentious facade.

**Popadibs** · 8th-May-2012

Enough experience with women will up your street smarts, though, if you aren't a mangyno.

**Douglas** · 8th-May-2012

My wife of 7 years left in late 2008. If I had known why she was leaving, I would never have let her take the children with her. ... The days were often 12 hours long, so it made sense to let her take the kids with her 'to her parents'. I figured she'd get over whatever it was, we'd talk, and she'd be back on the inside of a month. But she wouldn't talk at all about why she was leaving. I suggested counselling, she refused. I tried to get it out of her, told her there was nothing we couldn't work on or fix.

Ah yes, that great "I need some time to work things out" which ALWAYS means "I'm about to screw you rotten and need some distance to be able to work on this with privacy." I don't know whether men pull this shit, too, but I've seen this time and again on marriage support, counselling, and relationship web sites and books.