Women's Infidelity....What every man should know and remember.

**Tyrael** · 23rd-December-2006

Posted on this blog What Men are saying about "Women".

Women's Infidelity....What every man should know and remember.

posted by Christianj @ Saturday, December 23, 2006

On the odd occassion I stumble across something that is so profound and so revealing that I find I should have been well aware of it already. As usual, some of these issues about women had to be learned or studied as they really are a different kettle of fish.

This book may be of interest to some of you whom are unable to see women as the brazen hussies they really are. One that believes that they are really "good girls" and that they would not stab you in the wallet at any given opportunity and for any reason, either good or bad.

Read and weep...

An excerpt...

Women's Infidelity....

Unable to end their extramarital relationships, the women concluded that their lovers were soul mates. Unaware that they had become addicted to the high caused by chemicals released during the initial stages of a relationship, they were unable to choose. Many lived in a state of limbo for years. “Should I stay married or should I get a divorce?” was the question continuously on their minds. Some of the women attempted to initiate separations. In most cases, their husbands launched futile attempts to make their wives happy by being more attentive, spending more time at home and helping out around the house. Regardless of these women’s past and present complaints, the last thing they wanted was to spend more time with their husbands. Many women successfully gained separations.

The reason many gave for separating was a “search for self.” They convinced their husbands that they might be able to save the marriage if they could just have time to themselves. They continued to tell their husbands that time apart was the only hope of improving the current situation. Several of these women said they wanted to free themselves of the restrictions of marriage and spend more time with their lovers. Most thought that eventually their confusion would disappear and they would know with certainty that they either wanted to stay married or get divorced in order to be with their lovers. By separating, these women were able to enjoy the high experienced with their new partners without letting go of the security of their marriages. The husbands were still unaware that their wives were having affairs. Their lack of suspicion was due in part to their wife’s disinterest in sex and their belief that she was a “good girl.”

Several women at this stage were ending an extramarital affair. In most cases, it was not their decision. The majority were involved with single men who either lost interest because the relationship could not progress or were attracted to other women who were, in most cases, single. The women whose affairs were ending experienced extreme grief, became deeply depressed and expressed tremendous anger toward their husbands. Unaware that they were experiencing chemical withdrawal due to sudden changes in brain chemistry, many felt that they had missed their chance at happiness due to their own indecisiveness.

However, these women did not return to their husbands, at least not emotionally. Believing they had become more aware of what they wanted and needed from a mate, many placed the utmost importance on finding a relationship that gave them the feeling they experienced in their affairs. To these women a new relationship with a new partner represented a clean slate, a chance to regain their “good girl” status. Some searched for new partners during their separations. Others returned to their marriages, but still continued to search. Some women resumed sporadic sexual relations with their husbands in an effort to safeguard the marriage until they made a decision. Although most were not sexually attracted to their husbands, desire was temporarily rekindled when they suspected their husbands were unfaithful, were contemplating infidelity, or when their husbands showed signs of moving on.

No link but the authors name (Michelle Langley) is there to search...

**Janus** · 23rd-December-2006

Why am I not suprised? If there is a problem with the relationship most of the guys I know will go out of thier way to make it better by spending less time with their friends and more with the woman. 99% of the time she will dump him anyway and have a new boyfriend within a week. Not hard to see what was going on.

Why do women have to lie so much? Why not just be honest and say what they feel/mean? All these lies and affairs etc. Up until recently I thought women were the more honest and emotional ones, now I know that is simply not true. They are the more cunning and deceptive ones, who use that misconception to further the deception and gain the trust of men so it's just easier to lie to them and stab them in the back later.

I know this isn't always the case, but damnit, it sure feels like it.

**Commander_Riker** · 25th-December-2006

Anyone think that older civilzations already knew this and used religion to curb female behavior? Monogomous relationships ARE more beneficial to society and far less chaotic.

Unregistered · 2nd-June-2010

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Anyone think that older civilzations already knew this and used religion to curb female behavior? Monogomous relationships ARE more beneficial to society and far less chaotic.

Riker,

Yes. That is exactly why these older "archaic" societies learned. Unfortunately it does neither sex any good to know this stuff. If you stifle womens urges with religion, it still comes out. If you let women be free to express their urges, it becomes uncontrollable, as I believe we are starting to see in our society of 70-80% of divorces being initiated by women. I really don't see any forseeable answers to this delima.(sp?)

**shaazam** · 2nd-June-2010

I have alwys maintained wimyn are addicted to clewless conduct - following dar nostrils wherever they may lead her

**themanonthestreet** · 2nd-June-2010

It never ceases to amaze me that whenever there is a piece like this - about women being not so nicey-nice - two things are ever apparent. Excuses for the women's actions and it is WRITTEN by a woman. For we all know what would happen if such words were even thought or spoken, nevermind written by a man...

TMOTS

Unregistered · 21st-December-2010

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Riker,

Yes. That is exactly why these older "archaic" societies learned. Unfortunately it does neither sex any good to know this stuff. If you stifle womens urges with religion, it still comes out. If you let women be free to express their urges, it becomes uncontrollable, as I believe we are starting to see in our society of 70-80% of divorces being initiated by women. I really don't see any forseeable answers to this delima.(sp?)

... which is why archaic (and some modern) societies stifled women's urges by death and not just by religion. Presumably, death reduced repeat offenders and served as a greater deterrent than, say, divorce with 50% plus alimony.

Ttt · 26th-June-2011

Whether it is what you want to hear or not, women cheat for a reason. The reason is not always Their partners fault rather their own personal struggles and problems. Of course there is research done on this and it doesn't matter if it is by a woman or man the facts are there. If anyone had actually read the book you would see they were not excuses to cheat they are reasons. The first question most men who have been betrayed by a woman will ask is "why" but then don't want to really know why. And you want women to talk to you more, stop shutting them down when they try and talk about their feelings, and don't get aggressive when they are critical and don't complain about her nagging because most likely she is trying to communicate something to you.
There is never an excuse for cheating but there are defiantly reasons. Women are just as sexual as men, they have just as many desires as men but their desires are complicated and they are not often tempted because fewer men can understand the desires of women. But when a man who does understand these desires comes along and presents himself to a women in the right way the female equivalent is a naked Victoria secret model throwing herself at you and just wanting you and only you. So ask yourself truly would you be able to resist before completely writing off a women because she has made a mistake and given into temptation in a moment of weakness. Listen to why she has done what she did and if you feel she is truly remorseful she most likely is.

**James Huff** · 26th-June-2011

Personally, It's a one strike and your out policy. Why the heck would I want someone who has cheated, regardless of reason? I have never cheated, and never will. I demand the same. It won't me make me any lonelier to cut her loose than to keep her because the trust is already broken. Even if she is "remorseful", she can go be so without me.

**The Possible Human** · 26th-June-2011

Same here, one strike and yer gone. Being remorseful doesn't mean a hill of beans to me. The implicit trust is shattered, that lovin' feeling is gone. Be realistic, could you or would you ever trust a woman who did that to you? I surely would not.

**Marx** · 26th-June-2011

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And you want women to talk to you more, stop shutting them down when they try and talk about their feelings, and don't get aggressive when they are critical and don't complain about her nagging because most likely she is trying to communicate something to you.

Do you hold similar expectations of women when their man has cheated? To listen to him, to try and understand, to not be angry with him, etc.?

**christianj** · 26th-June-2011

I did update that blog post just recently and here is a sample..

Biochemical research points to a natural four-year sexual cycle for the human female. This apparently allows enough time after childbirth for the average mother in a state of savagery to regain her ability to survive with*out male provisioning. In the absence of any system of marriage, a woman’s natural tendency is to “liberate” herself from her mate after that point. When her hormones prompt her to reproduce again, she simply takes a new mate.

For the rest of the post have a look here..
Monogamy: Not Part of the Female's Chemical Option..