Want to get your woman in the mood? Try doing housework

**Tyrael** · 15th-February-2008

Want to get your woman in the mood? Try doing housework

By HELENA OLIVIERO
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Published on: 02/12/08
Every night after dinner, David Zinck scoops up his two young daughters and escapes into the "jam room" where they rock out to Rush or Queen.

Meanwhile, mommy gets 30 minutes of alone time.

Holly Zinck turns on the computer. She flips magazine pages. The clamor fades. Serenity creeps in.

And, behind that feeling, something else. Holly gets ...

... well, highly interested in David. Let's put it that way.

Forget crimson roses and chocolates.

Grab a broom. Unload the dishwasher. Play with the kids.

Now, that's hot. That's choreplay.

Parenting Magazine recently coined the term after its survey revealed 15 percent of moms said their idea of foreplay is their hubby doing chores.

"Flowers, candy, all that stuff — it's just an expense," said Holly Zinck, a working mom from Woodstock. "It's more important to take time off from working and doing things like spending the day as a family at Amicalola Falls ... Or when he draws a bath for me. That's romantic."

Traditional turn-ons can be common romantic gifts, such as champagne, chocolate or lingerie. Or something physical, a kiss, for example. But the unexpected gift of time – and that's what many choreplay examples amount to – can reveal a deeper connection. And that can be downright sexy.

"I call it the new romantic gesture," said Scott Haltzman, professor of psychiatry and human behavior at Brown University and author of the new book, "The Secrets of Happily Married Women." "Women are looking for something that gives them the message they've gone the extra mile and they've done something that matters to them. Being in the kitchen and emptying the dishwasher is a real clear signal you are fighting for her love."

It's not that women get turned on watching their sweethearts iron sheets, but they respond to being relieved of work and having time to relax.

And that down time helps switch gears.

But choreplay can also backfire if the deeds are calculated moves to get lucky. Many women are secretly resentful of the prospect of their husband pitching in around the house expecting something in return.

"If that's the case, he'd be better off with roses," said Jen Singer, editor of MommaSaid.net. "They act like there should be a parade down Broadway for making the bed. I hear from moms, 'Of course you should help, it's your underpants on the floor.'"

Still, Singer believes a well-intentioned husband who really makes an effort

will see his wife naturally become more amorous.

"The best present you've got is that person," said Tracey Cox, co-host of the former HBO show, "Sex Inspectors," and sex expert for iVillage. "You've got their dreams. And it would be more meaningful to skip the flowers and do something that would make her life easier. What would she really need? Is it a massage? Or is it a nap?"

And while she suggests husbands and wives avoid any bartering for sex, Cox urges couples who engage in a conversation about choreplay (ie. see those two loads of choreplay?) do it playfully.

"It's OK if you can have a sense of humor about it," she said. "Better yet, say what you really want."

On a recent Saturday, Singer's husband took the kids to get their hair cuts and then ran some errands.

Singer had the morning to herself. She read the newspaper and took a shower.

And that, she said, was very romantic

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This is what feminists tell you to think. They don't count other household chores that men typically do such as lawnmowing, gardening, heavy yardwork, home maintenance etc.

Dylanfish translated this article well:

Translation:
"I will fuck you if you do the stuff I tell you to do."

Sexiness has nothing to do about it. Actually the woman will probably loose all sexual interest in you because she bosses you around and you take it. The downside is that if you tell her to go piss up a rope she will get pissed, start fucking a guy who works at Denny's and take your house and kids in the divorce.

DONT
GET
MARRIED!

And help restore the marriage laws.

**Wallet** · 15th-February-2008

I used to 'love' doing chores coming home from work after an 11 hour day while my ex was on Face book and neopets all day expanding her butt size. She was sure lazy I tell you. The place was only cleaned when I did it.

As much as I miss my kids I really don't miss those days and all the bitching and complaining that started the moment I walked in the door....

**bachelor tom** · 15th-February-2008

It's the same old crap the media have dished out for years: women are goddesses, grovel and cajole and MAYBE you'll get a treat - f**king insulting

**Aug9th-LiveOrDie** · 15th-February-2008

I will clean up when the mess bothers me and I feel like it not one minute before, If she wants it clean before then, then she has two legs just like I do

**musicman.2** · 15th-February-2009

Women don't DO ANY Real housework

-Who kills the spiders
-Who changes the lightbulbs
-Who takes out the trash
-Who pushes the furniture
-Who carries the groceries
-Who drives on road trips while women relax
-Who shovels the snow
-Who cleans the gutters
-Who mows the lawn
-Who gets the car when its raining
-Who checks on the noise downstairs risking his life while doing it

Feminists like to rant about women doing more housework. But that’s because the “male housework” is not counted by the feminists.
When the family is driving to their vacation and everyone is tired at the end of the day/trip, the man will almost always drive the car, often for 5-8 hours in the middle of the night as he’s fighting not to fall asleep. The wife is sleeping or reading or talking. So are the kids. The husband is also tired, but this is his responsibility. Is it not housework?
A weird noise is heard downstairs at 3 am waking up everyone. The wife takes the kids and locks the door. The man goes downstairs to check if they are being burglarized. He may get beaten. He may get shot. But he’s out there protecting his family. Not housework?
A sofa that needs to be moved. A painting that needs to be put on the wall. A bag of sugar that needs to be picked up from the shelf way on top. Not housework either?

http://guywhite.wordpress.com/2008/0...k-that-men-do/

So men not only have to proivde, protect, nurture we also have to DO ALL THE difficult and disgusting housework?

What the fuck do women do? We should be telling them to do some of this work.

**shaazam** · 15th-February-2009

ha hah hahahhah

**outdoors** · 15th-February-2009

i did all the housework for years-never got me anywhere--unless i missed a speck of sugar on the counter-then i got in shit and she would redo the whole house as if i never did a thing-fuck it!

**Marx** · 15th-February-2009

Quote from outdoors

i did all the housework for years-never got me anywhere--unless i missed a speck of sugar on the counter-then i got in shit and she would redo the whole house as if i never did a thing-fuck it!

Similar here when I was a SAHD. I'd be on my knees scrubbing the floor clean because we had no mop & bucket and no carpets. I'd clean & tidy - but it was never good enough.

**Incognito** · 15th-February-2009

Quote from bachelor tom

It's the same old crap the media have dished out for years: women are goddesses, grovel and cajole and MAYBE you'll get a treat - f**king insulting

Agreed.

**haahoo** · 18th-February-2009

Aye, great stuff eh?

While hubby is doing the chores, wifey is relaxing, getting in the mood and surfing the internet looking for someone she can meet up with that evening..

After all, she has a baby sitter at home who will be very eager to welcome her home if she fails to score?

"Thanks for doing the housework hun, is it ok if I pop out this evening with the girls?

, You can take it easy tonight, relax and have a few beers on your own, no need to further wear yourself out trying to give me the big "O" for an hour.. There may be a special surprise for you when i get back !"

Aye, Creampie for supper anyone?

**Male-Rights-Network** · 19th-February-2009

Why accept any advice from the Judeo-Feminist media? It is irrelevant and full of bogus information.

They say what they say to advance a specific agenda, not to advocate truth.

**LSBeene** · 20th-April-2009

See, I actually "GET" this message.

It's simple - the woman is playing to her audience. She's not going to say something like this:

"Your man complains about you not being in the mood? Tell him to do some chores! But, not let's be fair ladies, after he's worked 8-10 hours and commuted, that's 9-12 hours. Let's suggest that he cut back on work, and his paycheck, so that his life is more fulfilling.

I mean, YOU'LL get more time with him, and he'll know you appreciate him by showing him you're grateful for his contribution. And, in the end, he can share in extra chores.

Or equally sexy is how about YOU work those long hours, and when you get home you do some chores to get HIM into the mood, and then count yourself lucky if he wants you. I mean, c'mon, do some chores, draw him a bath, bring him a beer, dress up sexy, and MAYBE you'll get some affection.

Sure it might mean a smaller house, and only 1 car - but what's more important: The love of your life being less stressed, more fulfilled, and showing your love - or more money? We girls know the answer: we're the loving, giving, and nurturing ones - it's time to clean the house, draw him a bath, put on some lingerie, and bring him a drink to get him in the mood."

Does mine sound "attractive" or "charming" to ANYONE? (male or female)

Steven

bababob · 20th-April-2009

Quote from LSBeene

See, I actually "GET" this message.

It's simple - the woman is playing to her audience. She's not going to say something like this:

"Your man complains about you not being in the mood? Tell him to do some chores! But, not let's be fair ladies, after he's worked 8-10 hours and commuted, that's 9-12 hours. Let's suggest that he cut back on work, and his paycheck, so that his life is more fulfilling.

I mean, YOU'LL get more time with him, and he'll know you appreciate him by showing him you're grateful for his contribution. And, in the end, he can share in extra chores.

Or equally sexy is how about YOU work those long hours, and when you get home you do some chores to get HIM into the mood, and then count yourself lucky if he wants you. I mean, c'mon, do some chores, draw him a bath, bring him a beer, dress up sexy, and MAYBE you'll get some affection.

Sure it might mean a smaller house, and only 1 car - but what's more important: The love of your life being less stressed, more fulfilled, and showing your love - or more money? We girls know the answer: we're the loving, giving, and nurturing ones - it's time to clean the house, draw him a bath, put on some lingerie, and bring him a drink to get him in the mood."

Does mine sound "attractive" or "charming" to ANYONE? (male or female)

Steven

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It sounds like the old tit-for-tat, "How would you like it, if the situation was reversed?!" It sometimes seems like there's an epidemic of petty, mean-spirited, childish jealousy and one-ups-manship. Where's the love gone?

**musicman.2** · 20th-April-2009

If you read some of those answers it seems mens chores are harder than womens.

Even worse the male chores are the man's job and the female chores are shared.

I guess this is a reversal of women's position on money.

What's his is his and what's mine is ours.

Maybe we should extend this policy to money as well.

**musicman.2** · 20th-April-2009

Quote from LSBeene

See, I actually "GET" this message.

It's simple - the woman is playing to her audience. She's not going to say something like this:

"Your man complains about you not being in the mood? Tell him to do some chores! But, not let's be fair ladies, after he's worked 8-10 hours and commuted, that's 9-12 hours. Let's suggest that he cut back on work, and his paycheck, so that his life is more fulfilling.

I mean, YOU'LL get more time with him, and he'll know you appreciate him by showing him you're grateful for his contribution. And, in the end, he can share in extra chores.

Or equally sexy is how about YOU work those long hours, and when you get home you do some chores to get HIM into the mood, and then count yourself lucky if he wants you. I mean, c'mon, do some chores, draw him a bath, bring him a beer, dress up sexy, and MAYBE you'll get some affection.

Sure it might mean a smaller house, and only 1 car - but what's more important: The love of your life being less stressed, more fulfilled, and showing your love - or more money? We girls know the answer: we're the loving, giving, and nurturing ones - it's time to clean the house, draw him a bath, put on some lingerie, and bring him a drink to get him in the mood."

Does mine sound "attractive" or "charming" to ANYONE? (male or female)

Steven

Perfect.

You forgot the big dinner she should make. He will surely build up a very large appetite when he is relaxing at home.

As long as men work long hours to support women they can have no claim to be the nurturing ones.

Also does it seem like the woman also drives the nicer car? Men are the ones who like cars. Why do women get the better ones?