Here is a column about a dad who is divorced and his children saw how it devestated him.

When you read this article look at all of the assumptions the columnists makes without information.

http://msn.match.com/msn/article.asp...id=7&GT1=26000

Every thing is somehow his fault and he is apparently according to the columnist a selfish person because he didn't hide his emotions enough {which if he had hid them he would then have been an emotional cripple and therefore still wrong}

MSN articles are riddled with misandry, and note they don't allow viewer input - so they have no one to answer to and are free to assume they're constantly right.

Here it is, How would you reply:

Dear Confused and Careful.

Your carefulness is slipping writing to Dr Gilda. Ask a mate instead; a male mate.

There is a wealth of good advice on Antimisandry.com

Your ex screwed up your life and you cannot expect a female 'Dr' to do anything other than screw it up more. It's the nature of the beast.

You have clearly shown in your marriage, from what you say, that you tried hard to adapt to your ex's wishes, were sensitive and helpful, and it clearly wasn't enough. It never is. I am guessing from your pain that you really loved her. That wasn't enough either. Again, it never is.

You care for your sons and they care for you. That, Sir, is great. They are possibly a little more wordly wise than you give credit for, so encourage them to ride point for you and go have some fun.

How do you now date you ask. Carefully and confusedly, I reckon. Keep being careful and lose the confusion with a couple of simple rules. For starters:

1. Make sure she pays for the dinners and taxis and theatre tickets.
2. If she tries to kiss you goodnight, pepper spray her and call the cops.
3. If she tries to take your arm, keep an eye on your legs as well.
4. There isn't a Rule 4.

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He shouldn't have to hide his emotions. He's not inhumane, or made of steel. He's a human being. But he should be careful how much he relies on his children to take care of him. But it sounds to me like he already sees that this was an issue...he recognized that fact without help from "the doc"...and he talked with his children about it. Big kudos to him! Sounds like he doesn't need this woman's advice (it's bad advice anyway)...nor does he need a therapist. He did exactly what he needed to do. He did what was right. He re-aligned his relationship with his kids. He's meeting his own needs now. On top of all of this, he has the presence of mind to think about and worry that his dating will impact his children. I think the doc's advice ("don't tell the kids what he's really doing...let them think he's having meetings instead") is horrible advice. She's suggesting he lie to them. Does she not realize that something like that would backfire on this man (and the kids, and their relationship with their father?)! What kind of counselor/therapist is this woman? It's my understanding that the number one ethical principle in counseling is to do no harm!

what? Doctor or social worker?

The courts pulled the same kinda feminazi crap with me---geeez....your kids know to much...they are not fuckin' BLIND,DEAF and DUMB and they talk...and they wanna talk...
Oh geez kids-sorry but if i talk to you about your feelings and concerns-i will be pasted as an abuser---FUCK_OFF

Sounds like the EXACT- FEMINAZI SS FATHER ASSASSINS-that i had to deal with--they must have a guide of some sort to pick any kind of fuckin' garbage they want--this is waay to uncanny to be a coincidence..


YES! this makes me angry.

No outdoors it's no coincidence. If you look at the divorce industry it is over whelmingly run by women so it by nature is gynocentric.

A ton of lawyers may be male but most social workers, CSA workers, shelters etc etc are run by women and the courts listen to them so if women in general are biased against men so will the women who run the industry and by default the industry itself will become anti male.

So there is no way it could be coincidence.

I know I don't do it very often but, NICE analysis TERA.

TMOTS

Tera-yes,u must lie to your kids ar have them blindfoled and locked up in a sound proof room-this way they cannot see the pain that dad is going through-if the kids ask you for help or just wanna talk about the divorce(they are not stupid)-You must smile,tell them,"no big deal", and buy their mother some roses and wish her well,for tearing your family apart.
This is what our FeminaziSS court system wants anyways.
God forbid a man going through emotional trauma after divorce and god forbid the kids running to Dad for comfort-this is just unacceptable.
Even if Dad was the one that was always there for his children-he is NOT aloud to cry,be angry,hug his kids or anything else that might make the "mom" be seen as anything but the perfect person.