"Momblocked" mothers feel edged out by dads

[myce]

Mothers have always been the primary caregivers who had the closest relationship with the children. Dads may have felt left out because they worked all day. But now that the shoe is on the other foot, someone writes an article about it.

Two months after giving birth to her daughter, Jen McClure-Metz received a phenomenal job offer. If she wanted to become a producer ona hit television show, she’d have to start in a month.

McClure-Metz and her husband talked it over and made the same decision many families are making: Dad would stay home full time and take care of their daughter.


“While I never thought that I would end up staying home with Sarah, I knew that I was fully capable of doing so,” says Brian Metz, McClure-Metz’s husband.



But almost four years into it, McClure-Metz began to feel her husband was maybe too capable. He had become more competent and assertive in the child-care arena and it showed in small ways. Metz took over when his wife struggled with the car seat, or put the kibosh on plans when he thought their daughter needed down time.


“Basically, he was the parent in charge and I often felt trumped,” says McClure-Metz.


More and more dads like Metz have become so confident in taking care of the kids that moms can feel edged out, or "momblocked."
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Well Duhhhhhh. If Dad spends 24/7 with the child, of course he is going to know more about how to care for that child. Of course he doesn't do things exactly the same as the mother would. This couple had to have marriage counseling because of the mom's jealousy of her husband's relationship with the children!

From what I read of the comments, the majority thought this was BS too.

[Marx]

And it's the above type of scenario why my wife was oh-so eager to put our daughter in daycare, as oppose "allowing" me to care for her.

[christianj]

Notice how the selfish, self-serving bitch wants it all. Typical female. Boohoo.

Wants a career and then when that's done, wants to be involved in something she has not bothered with for 4 years.....

Piss the bitch off....

Let her rot in her "career".

[Rebadow]

Such women don't like it, because this makes it obvious and undeniable to them, that they're not an absolute must to the equation. And this goes totally against everything they (and us) were being fed with for the last couple of decades (anything female anywhere anytime = absolute must / anything male anywhere anytime = unwanted at best).

They think that there is no way a child could really be raised successfully without them. After all, they have a vagina. I don't know, I guess they think their child will just have to wait with all that growing until they find some time to give a child a chance of being privileged to be allowed to feel attached to them.

[Fruit_Cake]

i notice quite

[Fruit_Cake]

i notice quite alot of men with their children in kids places these days, parks, librarys etc.

i think they tend to be really good with kids, but then i suppose, they are the men who want to be with kids. The women there are more representative of the general population of women because they arent stepping out of their role.

are we going to start hearing feminists blame men for staying with the children now i wonder... first they blame men for not letting them work, then they blame them for not letting them be with the kids?

they really are an embaressment to women, just like rapists are an embaressment to men, suicide bombers are to muslims, and george bush is to every thing that breaths on this planet...

[FFFF]

Yip, Its good of women to recognise that they sometimes have to accept consequences from their decisions that are maybe not quite what they wanted..

Since this is starting to be more openly accepted, and even the old stalwarts like G Greer are starting to voice regrets, we are seeing realistic recognition of the undoubted fact finally coming home to the women..

Feminism has fucked women over bigtime!!

Now, as we see the mainstream (ie, every fathers and mens group you could mention) mens groups attempting to ape the failed feminists, will they see ( I doubt it) that men really do not want the sort of "equality" that these dumb mangina led groups are asking for?

In particular, no one with a few functioning brain cells can really believe that most men want "50-50" equal shared parenting post seperation..

And those who dont have that, and desire it, and truly believe it is the answer to all, are as stupid and shortsighted and as over-optimistic about the reality of what they think they want as the women who blindly believed a "career" would be their nirvana state..

Until men ditch that sort of "equality based" belief system that will never be adopted anyway, because the folk asking for it do not really want it anyway (it just sounds good).. we wont learn from the mistakes of the feminists..

Dont ask for things you cant handle.. Those who indulge your desires may just be doing it to have the last laugh when you cant handle it!

[bola]

Originally Posted by Fruit_Cake

i notice quite alot of men with their children in kids places these days, parks, librarys etc.

i think they tend to be really good with kids, but then i suppose, they are the men who want to be with kids. The women there are more representative of the general population of women because they arent stepping out of their role.

are we going to start hearing feminists blame men for staying with the children now i wonder... first they blame men for not letting them work, then they blame them for not letting them be with the kids?

they really are an embaressment to women, just like rapists are an embaressment to men, suicide bombers are to muslims, and george bush is to every thing that breaths on this planet...

Fruit_Cake said something sensible! Gentlemen treasure this post, print it out! Frame it, hang it on the wall. It can cheer you up in your darkest hours.

[Rebadow]

Originally Posted by bola

Fruit_Cake said something sensible! Gentlemen treasure this post, print it out! Frame it, hang it on the wall. It can cheer you up in your darkest hours.

I think I'd have to start framing a lot of other people's posts first. Yan Yan's , The Sad Geek's, Yours (no, I'm not just brown nosing), etc.

[Percy]

How a particular man and woman, mother and father, want to organise their own life, is their business. Who goes to work and who cares for the kiddies is their business.

What we see here is Mrs McClure-Metz being enabled to exercise her empathy - and making a complete hash of it. She feels incompetent or at the least less competent at child care. Not that Mr has made her feel that way. But most men ARE made to feel incompetent at home. Most men recognise the constant belittling, the sniping, the criticism from their wives, their children's mother.

How many men have heard allusions to them being the 'second child' in the family? I have never heard a man say that about his wife. Women - most women - can be very demeaning, deliberately or automatically.

When it comes to divorce of course, women try to have it both ways. The 'absent' father, away at work, is seen as non-primary with the children. When the man stays at home to care for the children, she of course has 'been denied' her 'natural' place with the children.

When women stop simply claiming empathy and actually experience it, maybe things will change. But I doubt it.

[bachelor tom]

Originally Posted by Percy

How a particular man and woman, mother and father, want to organise their own life, is their business. Who goes to work and who cares for the kiddies is their business.

What we see here is Mrs McClure-Metz being enabled to exercise her empathy - and making a complete hash of it. She feels incompetent or at the least less competent at child care. Not that Mr has made her feel that way. But most men ARE made to feel incompetent at home. Most men recognise the constant belittling, the sniping, the criticism from their wives, their children's mother.

How many men have heard allusions to them being the 'second child' in the family? I have never heard a man say that about his wife. Women - most women - can be very demeaning, deliberately or automatically.

When it comes to divorce of course, women try to have it both ways. The 'absent' father, away at work, is seen as non-primary with the children. When the man stays at home to care for the children, she of course has 'been denied' her 'natural' place with the children.

When women stop simply claiming empathy and actually experience it, maybe things will change. But I doubt it.

Thank you, I'm so sick of wives and girlfriends treating their mates like a child - this article has the same tone, "Oh my, hubby can actually do grown-up things, isn't that amazing" - and how many TV shows/advertisements/songs/movies display the same attitude?

Empathy? that's a pretty scarce commodity isn't it?