Mike,
What a tragedy! I am sorry for your suffering. Your wife is right: "the person that told the lies and especially her mum and dad who made everything 100 times worse in my mind should all be burned at the stake".

I have heard of similar horror stories. The parents of a family my family knew were accused of molesting their own kids by the neighbors. Of course, it was "guilty until proven innocent." The whole process, of course, took years, so the kids wound up growing up with their grandparents. In the end, the parents were exonerated, but I'm sure the family was irrevocably damaged and the kids lost their childhood.

I do tutoring for work and my boss expects me to sit in a room with a female high school student while no one else is present in the office. I explained that this was unwise and that I was unwilling to be alone in the office with teenage girls. I am willing to tutor one on one in the rooms as there are windows in the rooms as long as there is someone else in the office, which is rather small. I am just not willing to be alone in the office with girls- afternoons, evening, Saturday mornings, etc.

When I explained this to my boss, I knew he was going to twist my concerns into something against me. Of course, he responded, "What's the problem? You're not going to do anything, are you?" I had to explain that of course I wasn't going to do anything but that I didn't want to be accused of anything. (If I wanted to do something, would I ask not to be put in a situation that would allow me to? Duh!) His retarded response was that if I were accused, it would reflect bad on the school and not me, so there was nothing to worry about. Interestingly, though, he did not volunteer to go to jail for me if something happened. He also called the company PR person or legal counsel or something or other. It was a woman, and she, of course, said that there was nothing to worry about as there had never been any problems in the past. How comforting. I'm not interested in being first.

Of course my mangina boss told me I was being paranoid and told me I would lose half of my work load if I did not comply. I refused. He still asks me to work alone with girls. I just say my schedule does not permit it.

Dude that sucks that this happened to you. I understand about false accusations my first wife told a judge in court that I beat her every Friday whether she needed it or not. When my lawyer objected the judge rolled her eyes and overruled him.

My second {we were never married} called the cops on me for DV because I was arguing with my brother which resulted in an overnight stay in jail for me and an over jealous police officer getting his behind whupped.

The officer failed to identify himself properly and pepper sprayed me so I defended my self.

But in both cases the false accusations were acted on by authorities before any investigation had been done.

Granted I wasn't accused of pedophilia but what I went through gives me a strong sense of sympathy for you.

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Our story
From a wife of an accused man

It was the 8th April 2007 Easter Sunday morning my husband and I were in bed, the phone rang my husband answered it and said its for you, I took the phone off him and familiar vice said " something has happened and you need to come round ASAP" it was my daughters friends mum (my daughters friend had slept at our house on the Friday night). My heart sank, I don't know why but I knew what I was about to face when I got there, when I did reach her house I sat on the settee and A?????? had been crying I said "whatever is the matter" A????? (the mother) said your husband has been touching my child, I asked to speak to the child and she told me that my husband had pulled her trousers down and smacked her bum, the child was 10 at the time, I was absolutely gob smacked and in shock at this point A?????'s husband and her brother wanted to go round to my house to beat my husband up but I stopped them because there were four children in my house my two and my husbands two, G????, A?????s brother was hell bent on calling the police I tried to talk him out of but he was on a witch hunt,

anyway the police were called and I stayed in the house because I wanted to know what was being said the child told the police exactly what she had told me, that was it the police went round to my house, I followed by the time I had got there my husband was already in handcuffs and being taken out the house, the police then preceded to take all the bedding the girls had been sleeping on my husbands daughter had been sleeping on the bottom bunk, my daughter and her friend had been sleeping on the top bunk they took everything, they also took the computers we had in the house I just wanted to scream "STOP IT MY HUSBAND IS NOT CAPABLE OF ANYTHING LIKE THAT SHE IS A LYING LITTLE COW!" but of course you cant you have to sit there quietly while the police do their thing, the police van with my husband in was still parked at the front of our house, when they had finished they just went, my life had started to fall apart it felt like someone was ripping my heart out with a spoon i spent about two hours crying.

When I finally pulled my self together I started to gather all the facts. I knew the girl had crush on my husband and I had already said to him Friday tea time don't be on your own with her because it was an accident waiting to happen everywhere he went she followed, I got the children together and asked what happened yesterday morning when you dad came into your room (this was on the Saturday morning before Easter Sunday) I asked my husbands daughter first who was 12 at the time and she said "he came into the room and he said "right come on everybody up I have a lot to do today" but she wasn't feeling well so he sat on the bottom bunk with her gave her a cuddle and said that if she wasn't feeling any better later on he would take her to the doctors, he then stood up pulled the quilt off my daughters friend who was on the top bunk and said "come on j????? I have a lot to do today I haven't got the time to be messing about waiting for you" he then went down stairs and that was it till I got the phone call on the Sunday morning but what I didn't understand and still don't to this day is if my husband had humiliated her in my house on Saturday morning why then did she go home get changed and got in the car with him and rest of the kids and went into the town centre Saturday afternoon it was n the town that he shouted at her for slapping my daughter across the arm, which Is why I think she took her revenge by accusing him of doing something he didn't do.

My husband was arrested at 11am Sunday morning by 2pm the jungle drums had started and my husband was a paedophile, people turn into the devil when something like that is said about someone but when your on the receiving end it makes you feel like your on your own everyone was talking about it friends and family included but not one of them came to see if me or the kids were ok, my husband was released at 11.30 pm the same night 12 hours in custody, he had been bailed for 4 weeks, he came home shaking and crying he was mortified, a broken man he had gone from being confident and full of himself to a shrivelled up wreck

On Monday morning he wouldn't get out of bed because he said everybody thinks I'm a paedophile he just wanted to curl up and die, as I did as well, so I told him to get out of bed and start packing, I made the decision to go to my sisters 180 miles away in Oxfordshire so we bundled the four kids and anything we could carry into the car and away we went….while we were at my sisters the police rang me and made an appointment for the children to attend a video interview so I took my daughter and my son to the video interview centre, where the social service were waiting for me I was told by them my husband had to remove himself from our family home or she would get a child protection order and have my children removed, I was absolutely fuming at this point al I kept thinking was what sort of a mother do they think I am I would die for my kids and I certainly wouldn't let anyone else harm them, just when I thought things couldn't get any worse they did. so I went back to my sisters on my own with my children, my husband stayed with my mum 180 miles away and praying for the for date when his bail was up, he went back to the police station and they bailed him again for another 4 weeks they did this a further 3 times so we were actually apart for 5 months, then when he told me they were not charging him I was ecstatic we got a house and started living as a family again.

While all this was going on I had absolutely nowhere to turn, no-one to talk to every web site I went told stories of men who have been charged without any evidence what so ever just on the word of a child, the authorities view of this is that children don't tell lies well "hello" what planet are you on, of course they tell lies…. our lives have been turned upside down, abuse being shouted at my children in the street, my husband being branded a paedophile, the person that told the lies and especially her mum and dad who made everything 100 times worse in my mind should all be burned at the stake, but sadly we don't live in a society that condones that kind of thing. The thing that upsets me the most is that they are sitting pretty, nothing in their lives has been altered everything is still the same these poor excuses for human beings should be punished, making false statements, wasting police time, using up resources that could have been used for a genuine case, they are worse than the rats that rummage about in the rubbish, I am still very bitter and resentful but try not to let it take over my life.

Lord I hate HATE HATE CPS! My daughter told a lie to a CPS worker, a lie that caused a lot of chaos, particularly for me. When I asked my daughter to come forth with the truth, she did, but the CPS worker refused to believe her. The worker told me that I had "coerced" my daughter into changing her story. There were many repercussions to this. It's a story I won't get into here. But let me just say it took months to finally unravel, for the truth to finally be believed by the state...and in the meantime our lives were a living hell because of one CPS worker who had shit for brains.

I can empathize completely to what you are talking about.

I only wish I could say or do something to alleviate the pain you've all gone through. Maybe knowing that others have gone through similar things is not enough. But I hope it helps, even if only a little.

Good luck to you...

It's exactly like the Salem Witch Hunt. They reward girls who testify lies about neighbors, and then hang the neighbors.

Today the total number of destroyed lives are far more than the old witch hunts ever accused.

Blessings

Bob

fuck-off!!!
natural human re-action as long as it is not them!!!


get a gun and protect your-self!

this is why i set up our web site to help so it may help someone in the right direction

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Mike,
What a tragedy! I am sorry for your suffering. Your wife is right: "the person that told the lies and especially her mum and dad who made everything 100 times worse in my mind should all be burned at the stake".

I have heard of similar horror stories. The parents of a family my family knew were accused of molesting their own kids by the neighbors. Of course, it was "guilty until proven innocent." The whole process, of course, took years, so the kids wound up growing up with their grandparents. In the end, the parents were exonerated, but I'm sure the family was irrevocably damaged and the kids lost their childhood.

I do tutoring for work and my boss expects me to sit in a room with a female high school student while no one else is present in the office. I explained that this was unwise and that I was unwilling to be alone in the office with teenage girls. I am willing to tutor one on one in the rooms as there are windows in the rooms as long as there is someone else in the office, which is rather small. I am just not willing to be alone in the office with girls- afternoons, evening, Saturday mornings, etc.

When I explained this to my boss, I knew he was going to twist my concerns into something against me. Of course, he responded, "What's the problem? You're not going to do anything, are you?" I had to explain that of course I wasn't going to do anything but that I didn't want to be accused of anything. (If I wanted to do something, would I ask not to be put in a situation that would allow me to? Duh!) His retarded response was that if I were accused, it would reflect bad on the school and not me, so there was nothing to worry about. Interestingly, though, he did not volunteer to go to jail for me if something happened. He also called the company PR person or legal counsel or something or other. It was a woman, and she, of course, said that there was nothing to worry about as there had never been any problems in the past. How comforting. I'm not interested in being first.

Of course my mangina boss told me I was being paranoid and told me I would lose half of my work load if I did not comply. I refused. He still asks me to work alone with girls. I just say my schedule does not permit it.

In this day and age, I cannot believe you were questioned this way.

Male teachers in NZ say how the principals tell them on their very first day, "do not be one on one with a female student".

It is basically a law for foster male parents to not be one on one with girls especially since they are considered from dysfunctional homes. It has been going on for at least 20 years now.

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In this day and age, I cannot believe you were questioned this way.

Male teachers in NZ say how the principals tell them on their very first day, "do not be one on one with a female student".

It is basically a law for foster male parents to not be one on one with girls especially since they are considered from dysfunctional homes. It has been going on for at least 20 years now.

That's a good system. My boss is an idiot.

mikewitney, I too am sorry to hear what has happened to you.

I am onto my second child going through this also.

It looks as if the girl who said it about my second son has his picture up on the net stating he is a rapist.

It was pretty scary when her father came down but in the end he said she has lied about this sort of thing before. She has 3 older brothers who are very big. I think I will have to see the father again this weekend. I gave my son time to sort it out himself because that is what he wanted to do.

My eldest son was accused while on holiday. He wasn't arrested because the women in charge worked with the police and was actively angry and stated that he was with her the time this supposedably happened. The girl admitted lying about it.

Your website is a great tool to help wake people up to what is going on.

What a terrible, tragic story.

I can't imagine what you went through, Mike. My heart goes out to you and your family.

It's very, very scary that this 12 year old girl is allowed to destroy lives like that on a vindictive whim and not be held accountable.

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this is why i set up our web site to help so it may help someone in the right direction

link please...

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What a terrible, tragic story.

I can't imagine what you went through, Mike. My heart goes out to you and your family.

It's very, very scary that this 12 year old girl is allowed to destroy lives like that on a vindictive whim and not be held accountable.

Where does a 12 year old learn to do such a thing? From her mother? Is it innate?

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In this day and age, I cannot believe you were questioned this way.

Male teachers in NZ say how the principals tell them on their very first day, "do not be one on one with a female student".

It is basically a law for foster male parents to not be one on one with girls especially since they are considered from dysfunctional homes. It has been going on for at least 20 years now.

Why isn't it a requirement for female foster parents not to be one on one with boys? What gives?!

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Why isn't it a requirement for female foster parents not to be one on one with boys? What gives?!

lol!!!

because the "gentler sex" knows how to raise boys better--its called ritalin.