Classic PAS. Parent Alienation Syndrome.

Tony,

Are you presently in the process of divorce? Or is there a 'decree' already in place. If you are in the process, she may be setting up her 'story' now. And if so, then it is wise for you to begin documenting every little situation like this.

If you are already divorced with a custody order, she may also be working on a full custody action. Again, documentation is crucial. You need to make sure that you have you childrens best interests - that being an involved and present father - at hand.

Of course, she could only be doing it out of vindictiveness and nothing more as well.

Lastly, if it were me, I would challenge her statements when made. Calmly and respectfully, ESPECIALLY in front of the kids. A simple "what do you mean for you own safety?" etc.

Eitherway this is PAS, and it is quite detrimental to children.

TMOTS

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Classic PAS. Parent Alienation Syndrome.

Tony,

Are you presently in the process of divorce? Or is there a 'decree' already in place. If you are in the process, she may be setting up her 'story' now. And if so, then it is wise for you to begin documenting every little situation like this.

If you are already divorced with a custody order, she may also be working on a full custody action. Again, documentation is crucial. You need to make sure that you have you childrens best interests - that being an involved and present father - at hand.

Of course, she could only be doing it out of vindictiveness and nothing more as well.

Lastly, if it were me, I would challenge her statements when made. Calmly and respectfully, ESPECIALLY in front of the kids. A simple "what do you mean for you own safety?" etc.

Eitherway this is PAS, and it is quite detrimental to children.

TMOTS

Why not also report her to the CPS? Especially if they're in a process of divorce.

Tony, find out your state laws about taping phone calls. In a lot of them, only one party needs to know they're taped - YOU. So tape your phone calls and get her to talk about it. Leaving all the rigged family courts aside, a testimony in her own voice about brainwashing the kids would be epic and I doubt she would expect you taping it and not discuss it over the phone. Just saying.

EDIT: I see now that you're from England. So I don't know how phone taping is there. You could just have two-three people over when you call her and put it on speaker.

Thanks for the support.

We are separated and living in two different houses.
I would not accept divorce on the grounds of my unreasonable behaviour (this the term UK women use say "I don't need this loser anymore, just his money) so the plan was to wait two years and apply for a "no blame" divorce.

The problem I have is, I was mentally ill through relentless verbal and psycological torture when I agreed the terms of the equity split, brace yourselves, I walked away with less than 25%.

I am now struggling to make ends meet while she can still afford to drink Starbucks with Danish and relieve the guilt of such decadence by going to her £800 a year membership health spa.

Can you guess wht type of mood I am in at the moment? go on, have a guess.

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It came to light on Sunday the 15th of this month that my wife is slowly brainwashing my two youngest (who live with her) into believing I am dangerous and a threat.

"" Speaking through a gap in her car window. She responded with, in front of my son "I am keeping my address from you for my own safety".""

aren't wimyn accomplished past masters in deception and better than the worlds best acadamy award winning actresses !

they are nothing if not convincing at the beginning but for only as long as it takes to reel in their mark

this is the same wimyn you could not get outta your mind and was willing to sacrifice your future for her company

but it begs the question what was she thinking all the time

I guess about keeping you at arms length and away from her kids just about as soon as possible

nothing to do with any failings on your part

wimyn are natural born callous calculating con artists of the first order

they just want equality ya know

wimyn's to the core of her genes treacherous nature was portrayed in the Bible aka Sampson n delilah

Record everything Tony.

Don't worry about 'phone tapping' laws or secret recordings laws.

Just have the evidence and give it to your solicitor.

Keep a log. Dates and times and conversations.

Note what the children say too. Record it all either by voice or writing.

Check your Yellow Pages for technology shops where you might be able to get some small recording thingos. Voice, phone, video.

Talk with John Dias too. ( a member here) He knows about that sort of thing.

Be patient and calm in all your dealings with her and the kids.

Do not rely on the police to back you up. They are NOT on your side and Truth is neither here nor there to them.

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Talk about use the kids as a weapon.

DO NOT GET ANGRY AND ACT OUT OF YOUR ANGER!!!! That is EXACTLY what she wants.
Take every bit of advice thus far and document every little thing-and I mean everything. Start this instant and do not let up. Depending on what this woman is like you may want to intimate that you are documenting everything and she may stop her behavior but it may be best to do everything surreptitiously. Be sure to get ammunition first before you make that decision.