I have three amazing children. My youngest son is the sweetest thing you've ever seen. He's so full of life and joy and he is such a boy. He is seven years old and, in addition to cartoons, his favorite shows are 'How's It Made' and 'Future Weapons'. I can't even sit through an episode of 'How's It Made' and he's riveted. He loves to make things and he loves to build. One of the strongest testaments to me that gender differences are inherent came when he was 5 years old. We were watching The Lion King together and the part came where Simba's father, Mufasa, died saving his son. During this scene, I glanced at my son and could tell he was fighting back tears. Upon discovering my gaze, he quickly started rubbing his eyes, told me that he had something in them and got up and left the room. He was FIVE. Keep in mind that my husband and I never made our children feel that it wasn't o.k. to cry or insinuated in any way that a man shouldn't cry. Yet, while 8 year old daughter would freely burst into tears if you looked at her wrong, my 5 year old son felt he had to be strong. He also has always wanted to "save the day". He's not sure what he wants to be when he grows up, but whatever it is, it must include being a hero. While my daughter dreams of being a model, a singer and a mom, he goes back and forth between things like a soldier, a policeman and a secret agent.

This is what my blog title's about...Equal But Different. Men and women are inherently different and NOTHING will change that. We are born that way and fighting against it only leads to unhappiness, bitterness and confusion. Feminism attempts to destroy the special dynamic that exists between men and women by insisting they're the same. I'm sure I'd enrage many a woman if I pointed out things that most women just can't do as well as a man by virtue of their gender. By the same token, I think there are things that a woman is inherently better at than a man. Am I sexist? I don't think so. I'd say I'm honest. All the arguements and the studies in the world won't change the fact that my daughter loved pink basically from the day she was born. She was more emotional, less physical and more verbal. My boys took longer to talk but could throw a ball accurately practically by the time they could walk, were louder but less temperamental. This isn't a random result. The same result is seen time and time again by mothers around the world. Are my sons better than my daughter? Nope, they're all intelligent, talented children (that's not my bias talking either ). They are, however, different. I teach them that our differences are what make us unique and special...I teach them to embrace them.