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    Equal But Different

    I have three amazing children. My youngest son is the sweetest thing you've ever seen. He's so full of life and joy and he is such a boy. He is seven years old and, in addition to cartoons, his favorite shows are 'How's It Made' and 'Future Weapons'. I can't even sit through an episode of 'How's It Made' and he's riveted. He loves to make things and he loves to build. One of the strongest testaments to me that gender differences are inherent came when he was 5 years old. We were watching The Lion King together and the part came where Simba's father, Mufasa, died saving his son. During this scene, I glanced at my son and could tell he was fighting back tears. Upon discovering my gaze, he quickly started rubbing his eyes, told me that he had something in them and got up and left the room. He was FIVE. Keep in mind that my husband and I never made our children feel that it wasn't o.k. to cry or insinuated in any way that a man shouldn't cry. Yet, while 8 year old daughter would freely burst into tears if you looked at her wrong, my 5 year old son felt he had to be strong. He also has always wanted to "save the day". He's not sure what he wants to be when he grows up, but whatever it is, it must include being a hero. While my daughter dreams of being a model, a singer and a mom, he goes back and forth between things like a soldier, a policeman and a secret agent.

    This is what my blog title's about...Equal But Different. Men and women are inherently different and NOTHING will change that. We are born that way and fighting against it only leads to unhappiness, bitterness and confusion. Feminism attempts to destroy the special dynamic that exists between men and women by insisting they're the same. I'm sure I'd enrage many a woman if I pointed out things that most women just can't do as well as a man by virtue of their gender. By the same token, I think there are things that a woman is inherently better at than a man. Am I sexist? I don't think so. I'd say I'm honest. All the arguements and the studies in the world won't change the fact that my daughter loved pink basically from the day she was born. She was more emotional, less physical and more verbal. My boys took longer to talk but could throw a ball accurately practically by the time they could walk, were louder but less temperamental. This isn't a random result. The same result is seen time and time again by mothers around the world. Are my sons better than my daughter? Nope, they're all intelligent, talented children (that's not my bias talking either ). They are, however, different. I teach them that our differences are what make us unique and special...I teach them to embrace them.
    "Every noble impulse, every unselfish expression of love; every brave suffering for the right; every surrender of self to something higher than self; every loyalty to an ideal; every unselfish devotion to principle; every helpfulness to humanity; every act of self-control; every fine courage of the soul, undefeated by pretense or policy, but by being, doing, and living of good for the very good’s sake—that is spirituality." -David O. McKay

    For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Ephesians 6:12

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    Re: Equal But Different

    Copied from a poster on a general discussion forum, this passage seemed to support your point well, expanding into the area of stereotypes:
    What seems the biggest issue to me is that society doesn't accept that men and women are fundamentally different. We're equal, and that's great - but don't try and say that men are the same as women. If you look throughout the animal kingdom, the males usually perform a role very different from the females; whilst it's important to recognise that everyone has the right to buck a gender stereotype, it's equally important to recognise that everyone also has the right to live up to one. Thus, if a woman wants a career, she can work towards one; if a woman is genuinely happy to be a home maker and look after the kids, that's what she can do. We should stop telling people that they should challenge the established order in this way: let people do what makes them comfortable, without telling them that by living up to a stereotype, they are doing their gender a disservice.
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