Divorce Secrets For Women

**Kim** · 17th-February-2008

Prepare yourself.....it's pretty disgusting.

http://www.divorcedefense.com/

So tell me truthfully everyone...am I the only one who's still shocked by this kind of 'literature' (I use the term loosely)? Am I just ridiculously naive that when I happen upon such trash I feel disgusted and nauseous? Am I alone still horrified and appalled by such things?

It's just too long and too pathetic to copy and paste in it's entirety, but I will post some of the 'highlights'.

"Dear Frustrated Wife,
Good News! Right now, I'm going to let you in on the secrets you need to take the guess work and mystery out of divorce without sacrificing your lifestyle and financial security!
Hi. My name is Cathi Adams. I've written a book called "Divorce Secrets: What Every Woman Should Know!" I wrote "Divorce Secrets" because each year over 1 Million women suffer the same fate... often unexpectedly. They wake up one morning and BAM!
Life as they know it is over. Their marriage has ended and they're on their own. Often abandoned with little or no income to support themselves or their children."

Hmmm....that's an interesting scenario she relates considering 70% of divorces are instigated by women. I sincerely doubt it comes as quite the shock the author's portrayed....well, at least not to the women. The author warns women that they need to be prepared because they have no way of knowing when their husbands might come home and unexpectantly utter the phrase, "I'm not happy. I want a divorce." Now, I'm not saying that no man has ever said such a thing...but come on, let's be honest....what group of people in today's society has been led to believe that they have the inalienable right to BE happy? What group of people tend to believe that all and any actions on their part are excusable under the guise of "I'm not happy"? I'll give you a hint....it's the same group of people that are responsible for instigating 70% of divorces.

“Are you trapped in an unhappy marriage because you believe that you can’t afford to leave?”
What if I showed you step-by-step, how to not only survive your divorce, but actually thrive because of it? Would you be excited?
You should be!
With "Divorce Secrets" you will quickly and easily learn my proven, divorce tested system to maximize your financial security before, during and after your divorce."

Oh, good job, Ms. Adams. Way to get women all geared up and gung-ho over the end of their marriages. Way to trivialize the institution of marriage and the immensity of ending a marriage. This isn't something horrible and devastating...no, no, women should be "excited" at the prospect of divorce.

You owe it to yourself -- you owe it to your kids, to take the necessary steps and financially prepare.
So...
If you are desperate to get out of your marriage...
If you fear that your husband is cheating, or has lost interest...
If you are afraid he may file for divorce...
If you don’t know how to support yourself in the event of divorce...
If you want to file, but your afraid that you can't afford to live on your own...
...then it’s time to start planning your financial future. With "Divorce Secrets; What Every Woman Should Know" you will be provided with a step-by-step plan for getting out of your marriage and securing your financial future for the rest of your life.
Learning These Powerful "Divorce Secrets" Will Give You the Upper Hand!
Divorce is a dirty business that leaves many women with only a tiny fraction of their husband’s assets, forced to face an uncertain and frightening future alone. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
"Divorce Secrets" gives you a plan of action from A to Z. From making the decision to divorce, to holding onto the money, to starting a new life, you will be guided every step of the way.
You can come out of your divorce on top. Divorce may be the most difficult experience of your life, but with "Divorce Secrets" you will know how to maximize every advantage you have, and use them to build a wonderful, positive new life.

That's right, don't go into marriage with the unflinching conviction that it is for life. Instead, you should be furtively planning along the way how best to secure as many of the marital assets as possible, should you decide as some point that you're no longer happy.

But why should we take the author's word on things....why not hear what her satisfied customers have been saying?

Make HIM Pay for Your Escape...
"Just acting on only one or two of the many tremendous tips in this wonderful book will save (or make) you thousands of dollars before, during and after your divorce!
This book gives you all the tools you need to get BIG ongoing payments from your husband and even make HIM pay for your escape from the marriage! WOW!
I have 3 daughters and Divorce Secrets will be required reading for them before getting married. Not because I want them to get a divorce, but simply because your book is the best resource I have ever seen for protecting women from the financial devastation they will face from a divorce.
Thank you so much Cathi!"
- E. Graham,Kansas City, MO

O.K., this just makes me literally ill from start to finish. From making your husband pay so that you can "escape" your marriage, to how to get nice, fat payments for abandoning your marriage, up to the part where she's going to make it required reading for her daughters before they get married....because, what's a mother for if not to ruin any chance of her children being happy?

You Are Doing A Wonderful Service For Women!
"Cathi, You are doing a wonderful service for women! Great book! I really enjoyed it."
- Barbara, New York

Yeah, kind of like the service feminists did when they told women they could have the best of both worlds, that they had every right to expect the whole world to cater to them, that all the things that declared us women were worthless.....leading to a generation of women who don't know who they are or what they want and who are destined to be unfulfilled and unhappy. Yep, they've done us quite the service. The author teaching women to be conniving and dishonest, to view their husbands and their marriages as something to overcome and get the best of is not what I would call a beneficial service.

We Think It's Fantastic!
"My daughter and I are reading your book. We think it is fantastic!! We have learned so much. You are an angel sent from heaven. Thank you for helping us! Keep up the great work!! You GO girl!!!"
- Nancy, Virginia

Ah yes, no piece of literature for the modern, empowered woman would be complete without the familiar feminist call to arms...."You Go Girl".
Well, I'm going to counter 'Divorce Secrets For Women' with 'Kim's Secrets For Women', and it'll take about one short paragraph instead of an entire book and it's comes completely free of charge.

If you want to secure a happy future for yourself and your children, treat your husband and your marriage with the love and respect they deserve. Stop rolling your eyes, stop shaking your head, stop thinking you are somehow superior and entitled to preferential treatment. Start recognizing and showing appreciation for all the sacrifices your husband makes for his family. Start thinking of things you can do for your husband, start thinking of ways to make him happy, start trying to put him first. Stop faking headaches, stop acting like intimacy is some big chore you're doing out of obligation. Start enjoying your relationship and all the things you first loved, but quickly forgot, about the man you married.

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**Ledburian** · 17th-February-2008

Divorce and divorce settlements are quite topical in the news here in the UK right now all because of the very high profile case involving Paul McCartney and Heather Mills. Support for Mills unanimously comes from women, and certainly not all of them.

This is what a guy wrote in today's Sunday Times - he claims that Mills owes Sir Paul over £2.2million and not gazillions going the other way!

Article by Roy Liddle, Sunday Times, 17/02/08:

"Can anyone explain to me why Paul McCartney isn’t in the divorce courts asking for money from his estranged wife Heather Mills?
All I can see on display is the new British tradition that insists women should be able to trouser vast sacks of moolah from former husbands, apparently regardless of what their contribution to the marriage might have been. By my reckoning, Heather owes Paul £2.2m – a figure I worked out on the back of a beer mat last night down the pub, in the company of several misogynists.
What moral reasons we mused could there be for Paul, or any man in a similar position, paying his ex a single penny? Heather’s principal contribution to the marriage seems to have consisted of her allowing the former Beatle access to her undoubtedly fragrant body and wonderfully fertile imagination. If you think this benediction, which some of us would be willing to forgo, is worth even the 10m quid that Paul is reportedly offering, then to my mind you are espousing a very strange moral system.
Almost all Paul’s estimated £800m wealth was made before Heather appeared on the scene; it accrued at a time when his view of womankind was of the sweet and naive “I wanna hold your hand” variety, rather than his current, more nuanced, “I wanna rip your throat out” position. But such is love, I suppose. My point is simply that Heather contributed little or nothing to her husband’s material wealth, other than to spend it. What precisely did she sacrifice other than the sacrifice implicit in producing a daughter? Her stock as a Blue Square Conference league model and all-purpose done-little celeb – other than a bit of work here and there on prosthetics – has been massively enhanced by her marriage. And, as a consequence, so too has her earning power.
We are interested in her solely because of her previously close association with a respected national institution; merely the appendage of the name McCartney has enabled her to become an almost daily fixture in our lives, as ubiquitous as any of those other mannequins with a delusional high opinion of themselves – Posh, Jordan and so on.
Mills was a model, a job that tends to be confined to the under-30s. Even by the time of her wedding to Paul she was – as they say, rather cruelly – “on the turn”. Without Paul, it is doubtful she would have been given the time of day on even the lowliest chat show.
Before her marriage to a very famous person she existed as one of those strange and crepuscular creatures yapping away at the edge of our collective eyesight, desperate to make an impression.
Should she be rewarded with 10m quid or even more because she snared a former Beatle, has had their child and think she’s under threat from the paparazzi? Should her income enable her to live in the manner to which she was accustomed while with McCartney, or the manner to which she was accustomed four years previously? I have never understood the vagaries of our legal system but I and my misogynist mates reckon she requires a modest sum to help to look after their child, and that’s it. I reckon about £8,000 a year should do the trick.
Heather is an easy target – but this fact should not deter us from lobbing a hand grenade in her direction every so often. The point at issue, though, is much broader: the law suggests that she has a “natural” right to a slice of her exhusband’s fortune; even Paul has resigned himself to this. And yet what moral justification is there for such a claim? I dare say Mr Justice Bennett, with his long and noble legal training, will put us right on this."

**yohan** · 17th-February-2008

Quote from Kim

Prepare yourself.....it's pretty disgusting.
http://www.divorcedefense.com/
So tell me truthfully everyone...am I the only one who's still shocked by this kind of 'literature' (I use the term loosely)? Am I just ridiculously naive that when I happen upon such trash I feel disgusted and nauseous? Am I alone still horrified and appalled by such things?

This strange website is existing already since several months and was discussed somewhere in a MRA-forum before.

I do not know, if this is a hoax-site or for real...

I am not really shocked, as I am accustomed to men-hating slogans in US-feminist related webpages and blogs.

**Percy** · 17th-February-2008

Lawyer 'Cathi' is doing the usual 'drumming up business' with her repertoire of mendacious encouragements. She is breaking up families and casting children into the pit of enhanced school failure, delinquency, early pregnancy, crime and shorter life expectancy.

She needs to have the Feminist Misandry Justice medal ( FMJ) attached to her heaving chest in a high velocity ceremony.

Your reaction, position and advice are admirable, Kim, but few women are listening.

And Liddle is correct.

The point at issue, though, is much broader: the law suggests that she has a “natural” right to a slice of her ex-husband’s fortune; even Paul has resigned himself to this. And yet what moral justification is there for such a claim?

There is no moral justification. There is no justification for his child to have to live with the mother either. The little scouse git MacCartney is in a much better position to bring up the child. She should be paying him maintenance. His capitulation is all too typical of these rich guys who cave at the first hurdle. His lawyers have taken him for a ride just like 'Cathi' wants to. MacCartney could have her taken out with an FMJ or have the other leg cut off one dark night. Most of the fans would applaude.

**themanonthestreet** · 17th-February-2008

A quick search provided proof that she is a niche author. This is her niche; her bread and butter. She writes all sorts of shit about divorce.. of course the bulk being the typical poor women, protect yourself, men suck, they will leave you homeless, blah blah blah....

TMOTS