The Concerns of Women

**Kim** · 15th-February-2010

I visited the website feminist.com today. The site is fairly extensive, covering all the usual "women's issues" and providing quite a bit of information and resources. While there, I noticed, unsurprisingly, that everything that fell under the mantle of "women's concerns" mimicked the typical 'women are victims/men are evil/down with the patriarchy' mantra.

There were, of course, multiple links on violence and a section entitled, 'Facts about Violence'. In any legitimate section entitled 'Facts about Violence', we would expect to see a comprehensive list of actual facts about violence. Instead, I was met with the usual skewed, distorted feminist version of "facts" about violence; focusing solely on violence committed by men against women.

I wasn't surprised, but I was a bit angry and frustrated. Quite frankly, I'm tired of seeing those who profess to speak in behalf of women completely neglect some of the most important issues facing women. I'm sick of the utter disregard of integral values for women....for the state of the female conscience and soul. If they want to discuss the concerns of women; if they actually care about women, then they should start addressing those issues that are really hurting and negatively affecting women.

I composed the following letter to feminist.com and I intend to send it to NOW as well. I doubt I'll receive a response but I'm sending it anyways. If they want to address helping women, then they should stop refusing to acknowledge some of the greatest of problems that women face today.

To Whom It May Concern:

As I was perusing your website, I took the time to check out the numerous resources on violence and other issues impacting women.

I noticed that, while every aspect of violence perpetrated against women by men was amply covered, I found nothing pertaining to violence committed by women.

The majority of child abuse with parents as perpetrators is committed by mothers(61.2% of cases involved the mother as opposed to 35.6% that involved the father). Mothers are also significantly more likely to kill their children (52.7% of fatalities involve mothers, while 35.3% involve fathers). Additionally, spousal abuse committed by women, while largely under reported, is hardly an unknown occurrence.

I would think that a comprehensive discussion of violence in regards to women would touch upon such statistics, yet, nowhere in your “Facts about Violence” did I see such statistics mentioned.

For clarification, I am a woman, and, as a woman, I am concerned with issues that affect the lives of women. How can we pretend to be concerned with the state and health of women if we completely ignore the fact that there is a real problem when it comes to women being violent?

While I appreciate that it’s much easier, not to mention infinitely more popular, to portray women as the innocent victims, and focus all negative energies upon the bad behaviors committed by a minority of men, I fail to see how this, in any way, is constructive or beneficial for women. Conversely, it is damaging. Damaging to men, to women, to children and to society as a whole.

As a woman, I am concerned that mothers are abusing and murdering their children. I am concerned that women are increasingly violent at home and in public. I am concerned that I can’t listen to the news without hearing of yet another incident of an adult woman in a situation of authority taking advantage of and sexually abusing a minor that has been entrusted to her care. I am especially concerned that those who purport to speak in behalf of women, who claim to further the causes and concerns of women, continue to completely ignore these issues.

Some of the gravest issues facing women do not come from their husbands, boyfriends, or strangers on the street, but from themselves. If you want to help women, why not attempt to help them better themselves.

Why not address the myriad of false rape allegations being made by women? Shouldn't we be discussing this disturbing trend and the appalling lack of moral integrity it implies?

How about we address that, in order to feel “empowered”, our young women are walking around looking and behaving in manners frequently attributed to those employed in prostitution?

THESE are issues that concern women. There is a plethora of information, laws and resources that address any evil done to women by men, but what about the evil women do? Is this not a concern of women….should this not be among our greatest concerns? It is impossible to truly address the concerns of women while blithely ignoring such issues. If we would begin to address these issues instead of simply disregarding them, we might truly begin to help women.

Yours truly,

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**6ame** · 15th-February-2010

I agree, ignoring women's bad behaviour and faults while claiming to look out for them is doing women a disservice. Maybe there is just something natural about some women wanting to be viewed as victims, since males, the protectors, will be attracted to females who need protecting, I don't know, it's annoying anyway.
I wish more women were like you Kim, this is great stuff, sometimes I think a woman's opinion is 50 times louder to other women than a man's opinion, they tend to sit up and take a bit more notice when women confront them, if only more would.

**shaazam** · 15th-February-2010

I expect you letter was received in askance by the new age gals as their life is dedicated to the black armband ethos and there is always a male violence perpetrator - even unwantd stares are violence right !!

**nivek** · 15th-February-2010

Great letter Kim. Unfortunately i fear you are right and will receive no response other than a few death threats for daring to speak such heresy, feminism is a cushy little number isn't it, violence by men is just that but violence by women is justified or brushed under the rug.

**julie** · 15th-February-2010

Very NIIIICE, Kim.

Bravo!

**Marx** · 15th-February-2010

Quote from Kim

THESE are issues that concern women. There is a plethora of information, laws and resources that address any evil done to women by men, but what about the evil women do? Is this not a concern of women….should this not be among our greatest concerns? It is impossible to truly address the concerns of women while blithely ignoring such issues. If we would begin to address these issues instead of simply disregarding them, we might truly begin to help women.

You forget that in the eyes of feminists, as proven by their very own websites & agenda-driven 'studies', women are practically perfect in everyway. If a woman has committed a misdeed - it surely must be a man's fault - somehow.

**Kargan3033** · 15th-February-2010

Well done Kim, very will done, who knows if this gets one women to open her eyes for a moment and see the truth then it would not have been in vien

**RobYork** · 15th-February-2010

Feminism was never set up to help women, rather, it was designed to destroy society from within.

Feminism is doing exactly what it was meant to do !!!

**6ame** · 15th-February-2010

Quote from Kargan3033

Well done Kim, very will done, who knows if this gets one women to open her eyes for a moment and see the truth then it would not have been in vien

One at a time, whether it's a comment online, interrupting someone distributing bogus information, sending a letter of complaint, or just simply raising the issues to start discussion, it all adds up, the Internet is without a doubt the greatest weapon against feminism, and we should use it when and where possible to correct those who spread misinformation.

**Kargan3033** · 15th-February-2010

Quote from 6ame

One at a time, whether it's a comment online, interrupting someone distributing bogus information, sending a letter of complaint, or just simply raising the issues to start discussion, it all adds up, the Internet is without a doubt the greatest weapon against feminism, and we should use it when and where possible to correct those who spread misinformation.

I agree with you on that, might as well play it to the max while we can

**omegaflux** · 15th-February-2010

Great letter. In the off chance that you do receive a response, please post it here.

**Kim** · 16th-February-2010

Thank you for the positive feedback everyone. I'll definitely post them if I recieve any responses.

**Zuberi** · 16th-February-2010

Quote from Kim

Thank you for the positive feedback everyone. I'll definitely post them if I recieve any responses.

At least you sent them a letter. but something tells me that you will be bombarded with cheap insults for speaking out against those morons.

**Zuberi** · 16th-February-2010

Quote from RobYork

Feminism was never set up to help women, rather, it was designed to destroy society from within.

Feminism is doing exactly what it was meant to do !!!

You already know what's in store for those women who've sold out their humanity to the government. An believe me, it has nothing to do with peace nor liberation.

**Percy** · 16th-February-2010

Quite frankly, I'm tired of seeing those who profess to speak in behalf of women completely neglect some of the most important issues facing women. I'm sick of the utter disregard of integral values for women....for the state of the female conscience and soul.

At the beginning of the 'Early Feminist' era, back in the 20's and 30's, barely two decades after the suffragettes, women were adjusting to the reality of having to stand on their own two feet as adults. In Britain one third of adult, marriageable men had been removed from the gene pool and women had to look after themselves. It was a time of 'flowering' for the very issues you allude to, Kim.

Women looked 'outward' and 'inward'. They explored their inner womanliness in the arts and literature; they set up businesses; they sought education; they adventured around the world. There were as many famous women aviators as there were men. Authors, lawyers, doctors, accountants were increasingly female. The numbers of women in University remained pretty well at parity with the men to within one or two percent.

But such women, 'getting on with it' and becoming adult, with adult values and sense of personal responsibility, these women 'leaders' were soon outnumbered by the whiners who could not or chose not to keep up and who simply blamed men for not being alive to marry them and 'take care' of them. By the 40's their voices were not heard anymore.

They have barely been heard since.

Those 'inter-war' years women were real women. They 'did' things. They stepped up. The were creative and energetic. They cared for themselves but not themselves alone. They contributed to society in a direct and constructive way. Their femininity was given room to develop and grow along with other aspects of 'soul'.

But today such women who could have been as constructive and creative are now found running women's magazines and leading the whining that has reached ear-splitting volume.