Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Society hands women so many privileges, that this is often the case scenario. Times like this make me feel helpless for not being able to offer more advice. You have us all here for support.

wimyn and their feminit movment don't operate by any logical principles !

your dealing with a narcissist who never accept any blame or obligation for anyone but are alert for any unearned benefits one may shower on them or which they can rip off of anyone

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Why is it that because my wife wants to start a new life with my kids (she feels she deserved more) do I have to admit to unreasonable behaviour?

I struggle with this as:

If I were to divorce her she would be able to tell the children this was all their fathers doing.

or

If she divorces me, she can tell the kids I admitted to unreasonable behaviour.

So.... I shit out either way.

This is why you should never get married in the first place.

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Why is it that because my wife wants to start a new life with my kids (she feels she deserved more) do I have to admit to unreasonable behaviour?

I struggle with this as:

If I were to divorce her she would be able to tell the children this was all their fathers doing.

or

If she divorces me, she can tell the kids I admitted to unreasonable behaviour.

So.... I shit out either way.

Yet another reason to ride solo!!!!

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Yet another reason to ride solo!!!!

I agree 100%

Quote from Tony Castle

Why is it that because my wife wants to start a new life with my kids (she feels she deserved more) do I have to admit to unreasonable behaviour?

I struggle with this as:

If I were to divorce her she would be able to tell the children this was all their fathers doing.

or

If she divorces me, she can tell the kids I admitted to unreasonable behaviour.

So.... I shit out either way.

Shit was a bad deal that is, the best bet and advice I can give you is to get a good lawyer to minimize the damage that will come when your wife dumps you and make sure to fight as hard as you can to have access to your children, other then that all I can offer is moral suport
*Hands you a good stiff drink*

Dont be a dick.

You don't have to do what the cunt says!

If you want to lose the cunt, then divorce her, if she wants to go, she will, if you want to keep her, then you need to do what is correct.

Grow a pair!

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Shit was a bad deal that is, the best bet and advice I can give you is to get a good lawyer to minimize the damage that will come when your wife dumps you and make sure to fight as hard as you can to have access to your children, other then that all I can offer is moral suport
*Hands you a good stiff drink*

No, that is precisely what NOT to do!!

Lawyers are scumfux!

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Why is it that because my wife wants to start a new life with my kids (she feels she deserved more) do I have to admit to unreasonable behaviour?

I struggle with this as:

If I were to divorce her she would be able to tell the children this was all their fathers doing.

or

If she divorces me, she can tell the kids I admitted to unreasonable behaviour.

So.... I shit out either way.

Tony, logic would dictate that the unreasonable behaviour is hers.

An unashamed sense of entitlement is the hallmark of modern woman, which is nurtured from childhood as if it were a right. The media reinforces the grasping idea relentlessly to an audience of restless and gullible women that they deserve more, such as L'Oréal ads declaring "because your worth it."

Despite the protestations of equality, women still expect men in sexist fashion to furnish them with not only an endless pile of meaningless consumer crap, but also be the sole provider of their happiness.

Of course, when the man is deemed to have reneged on his socially indentured arrangement, and the bloated expectations of the woman are unfulfilled, the man is expected to placate her further by chivalrously accepting blame where none is actually attributable.

The best advice is to limit the involvement of the state and it's affiliated parasites to an absolute minimum.

Tony, its acting as the perfect gentleman that gains respect. If not from your wife, then from your family and friends. If your wife insists on divorce, then the coming months are going to be awful, but your family and friends will be there to help pick you up and keep you going. Fight to see your children and don't give up that fight, however awkward your wife becomes. The children need their father just as much as they need their mother, and one day your children will appreciate this, believe me. My husband was accused by his ex-wife of unreasonable behaviour, but its through his gentlemanly manner that kept his family and friends around him to help him through such an awful time. He fought to see his kids despite his ex-wife being as awkward as possible and then, one day in the supermarket, his eldest child phoned him out of the blue to thank him for always being there. Hope this helps.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, Tony. Stay true to your love for them and persevere. Kids are smart. Eventually they'll figure out all the lies they've been fed.

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No, that is precisely what NOT to do!!

Lawyers are scumfux!

Lawyers are scum, but when you're forced into legal dispute you put yourself at a great disadvantage without one. You might as well tell him to just hand over everything he has without a fight. Would you tell someone accused of a crime not hire a lawyer, too? Do you think people should fight alone against the power of the state?

You may want to file for divorce first, if you are certain that she is going to divorce you. If she does manage to file for divorce first, in order to get sole custody of the kids (which it sounds like she's after), she'll do it by making bogus allegations against you such as domestic violence or child abuse. So if you file for divorce first, any subsequent allegations that she makes are less likely to be taken seriously because they'll be perceived as retaliation for you filing.

It's also possible that, after filing for divorce, you can present such an aggressive legal front that she may consider backing down. It's at that time that you can suggest marriage counseling to her from a position of strength. Think of it this way... If she no longer has the advantage to hang bogus allegations over your head, then a legal battle then becomes costly to her and she'll have to start accruing billable attorney hours. Oftentimes what gets people in a divorce to stop fighting and settle their differences is the prospect that they'll no longer be able to fund their attorney.

On the other hand, if you're not certain that she's going to file for divorce, then tread lightly. Seek to avoid unnecessary conflict and above all don't be provoked.

If you are worried about being judged negatively by your kids and/or others, do the opposite of whatever negative thing you anticipate they are thinking. Be a strong role model for your kids. You can do this, even at a distance. Dads who see their children on weekends seem to believe that they no longer have any positive influence in their kids' lives (my own dad struggled with this). But, it is so not true! How you behave during and after the divorce influences your children every bit as much as how you behaved while you were married. It shapes their life experiences and who they are. Others can "talk" about you and you have no control over that. It is painful if the talk is negative. Time tells the truth, my friend. Prove them wrong. Be the person you want your kids to see and believe in. You may not get instant results (instant positive feedback or approval) . In fact, it may be years until you come to see the fruits of your labor- but do not let this dissuade you from doing the next right indicated thing. Your strength, determination, and above all- your love- will show through. Actions always speak louder than words.