Thread: "Shout at your spouse and lose your house" A frightening reality in Ontario

"Shout at your spouse and lose your house" A frightening reality in Ontario
-Father thrown in jail will lose job and family home for shouting at his wife.-
By Mike March
Monday, 6 May 2002


Last year, under pressure from women's shelters and radical feminist organizations, the Ontario Government passed its domestic violence Bill 117 in order to appease those ruthless and relentless government funded feminist organizations.


Those in the legal system familiar with the anti-father bias in Ontario's court system quickly labeled this law as the "shout at your spouse and lose your house" law. The danger to public liberties was readily apparent to lawyers and leading parliamentarians from Ottawa.


In a recent case involving a couple from Burlington, Ontario, the awesome and destructive power of Ontario's draconian domestic violence legislation was made readily apparent.


This husband and wife got into a verbal altercation late one afternoon in their home when the kids were home. There was no alcohol or drugs involved. As with many other families, they were under the day to day pressures of life and trying to cope with finances and the kids. An additional factor causing stress was that the couple was dealing with the possibility of separating.


In the heat of the argument, the mother left the home and walked to the neighbour's home to end the argument. The father followed shortly thereafter to speak to his wife but when she refused to speak to him, he ended up leaving in the family car with the couple's four-year-old child.
Angry at her husband and distraught over the whole incident, the woman called police and told them her husband had threatened her and the children and that she was worried because he had their young daughter with him.


In come the Halton police with guns ready, looking for the bad guy. In tears, and not able to think straight, the mother is pressured into signing a statement saying that there were issues concerning guns, drugs and that her husband was always a violent man. The police added to their report that the father kicked in the neighbour's door. To anyone looking at the police report, especially a judge, this person would appear to be a most violent individual. In short order, he is arrested, handcuffed, fingerprinted and thrown in jail almost immediately. Bail is refused.


In reality, however, there were never any drugs or guns and the father never kicked the door. Not once that day did the father ever physically touch the mother, even the kids testified to that. The mother repeatedly said that her husband was a good father. The police notes simply did not reflect the facts but were an exaggeration, which made the father look far worse than he really was. Of course, this information got him tossed in the slammer and the key thrown away.


The mother advised the Crown Attorney that the police report before the court is wrong and admits that police pressured her to sign at a time she was not thinking rationally. Other witnessed present at the time of the incident, submit affidavits contradicting the police report as well.


After three weeks in jail and just when the Crown looks like it might have some compassion on the poor father, in come advocates from the Halton Women's Shelter insisting on a private meeting with the Crown. After the meeting, the crown backs down and decides to keep father in jail. After all, most shelter advocates would like to see all men in jail till they rot in hell!


To make matters worse, along come social workers from the Halton Children's Aid Society. They tell the mother that if she lives with the father again, the CAS will take away her children. It does not matter if the children had a loving relationship with their father, the only thing that matters is that she gets dad out of her life. It seems that the policy of social workers is: guilty until proven innocent. Fearful of what the Halton CAS will do, the mother has resigned herself to the fact that the family is now destroyed.


The end result


The family is now in the process of losing their home and all the assets that they managed to accumulate since coming to Canada. The lawyers will get their money from the family's assets first but in the end everything the family had will be lost.


The kids are crying and distraught over the loss of their father. The couple's little boy, especially, is turning angry and rebellious and demanding to see his father. Chances are these very kids will grow up with hate and disrespect for the authorities for what they remember was done to their dad, knowing that he was not deserving of this treatment.


The mother will move into a home and have all her bills paid for by the welfare folks, as planned by the women at the women's shelter. For the other, going on to the welfare system was better than being married and having to worry about having to pay bills.


In fairness to the father and in the sense of true gender equality, the taxpayers will also be supplying the father with free housing at the nearby men's shelter, known locally as the Milton jail.


The children will grow up on the welfare system without the benefit of a father. Dad's job is toast. Working at his profession with a criminal record is a no-no.


The Halton Children's Aid Society will collect money from the taxpayer as fees to monitor the mother and children who will now struggle without a father to help. Although statistics show that children raised in single parent homes will have significant emotional problems throughout life, it seems that those in the system have no second thoughts about creating more single parent households in the community.


From jail, the father states, "I have nothing left in this country. As a result of one phone call to police we've lost everything. When matters are resolved the only option I have is to go back to leave Canada and never come back again. I have had enough of Canada. Canada is not the place for a father to raise a family."


A hard working father with no previous criminal record and no history of violence and whose only wish was to raise his family in Canada will now be disposed of. His surmise will be chalked up as a victory for women and he will be labeled by society as yet another "deadbeat dad".
Whoever coined the phrase "shout at your spouse and lose your house" sure knew what they were talking about.

"Shout at your spouse and lose your house" A frightening reality in Ontario

Frightening....