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Sometimes (3 times this year) you can go out and meet someone who seems really nice and you decide, "Hey, I'll keep in contact with you" only to find a txt as soon as you get home saying, "Nice to meet you, sleep well", then in the morning, "Good morning", then during the day, "How's your day going?", then at night, "Good night, blah, blah".

Sadly, when this happens it doesn't take long and you're wanting to push the person away. Before you know it there's txts and phone messages and emails asking what they did wrong, why are you ignoring them and 'Are you OK" and it can even go as far as attacking you. It's a shame because most are genuinely neat people but before you know it, you're enemies .... and for what?

Shudder... this malfunction is not gender-specific. (Not that you said it was... 't is just that I've gone through the same)

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Shudder... this malfunction is not gender-specific. (Not that you said it was... 't is just that I've gone through the same)

Lol, nice to know you see the same.

Here's a question for you. "Have you ever had your eyes fixed on a woman's eyes and there's no reason for it to happen?" It's like your eyes just meet their eyes, and vice versa and you feel like you're under some sort of spell no matter how much you try not to let it happen. "If so, do you know what that means?"

Now that I'm at it, "Have you ever been attracted to someone who you don't get on well with?" I bet this sounds silly but have you? Like you don't even get along with them.

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Here's a question for you. "Have you ever had your eyes fixed on a woman's eyes and there's no reason for it to happen?" It's like your eyes just meet their eyes, and vice versa and you feel like you're under some sort of spell no matter how much you try not to let it happen.

Yes I have experienced that... tried to send you a PM with the story, but apparently your PM box is full.

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Yes I have experienced that... tried to send you a PM with the story, but apparently your PM box is full.

Oh, thanks for telling me about my PM box being full. I haven't been deleting old messages and I'll get onto it.

Please send one again if it's not too much trouble.

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Lol, nice to know you see the same.

Here's a question for you. "Have you ever had your eyes fixed on a woman's eyes and there's no reason for it to happen?" It's like your eyes just meet their eyes, and vice versa and you feel like you're under some sort of spell no matter how much you try not to let it happen. "If so, do you know what that means?"

More times than I'd like! I think it means the two who made eye contact have a strong emotional attraction, completely disregarding physical attraction.

Now that I'm at it, "Have you ever been attracted to someone who you don't get on well with?" I bet this sounds silly but have you? Like you don't even get along with them.

Not really. The funny thing is that the more I can't get along with them, the less attractive they become.

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More times than I'd like! I think it means the two who made eye contact have a strong emotional attraction, completely disregarding physical attraction.

Ah yes, I was saying something very similar in a reply to Ambiorix.

Not really. The funny thing is that the more I can't get along with them, the less attractive they become.

Agree also. It can easily go that way. Sometimes I think maybe we become attracted to the behaviours of others though. Like the strength they have, the way they stand by their words or other action and can forget we don't get a long.

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Agree also. It can easily go that way. Sometimes I think maybe we become attracted to the behaviours of others though. Like the strength they have, the way they stand by their words or other action and can forget we don't get a long.

I know from personal experience that I find certain words and behaviors much more attractive than simple looks or sense of style. Am I weird for thinking that anyone who uses the words "ample", "elegant", and "queer" (in its original meaning) is attractive?

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I know from personal experience that I find certain words and behaviors much more attractive than simple looks or sense of style. Am I weird for thinking that anyone who uses the words "ample", "elegant", and "queer" (in its original meaning) is attractive?

Hehehe, I don't think I can say you're weird for being attracted to words because I think we all can be, but the words you are attracted to are, let's say ...... interesting.

I hadn't given thought to what words I find attractive but I think I could work out words I'm not attracted to. Do you have an idea what's behind the attraction to "ample", "elegant", and "queer"? I think elegant is a nice word.

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I know from personal experience that I find certain words and behaviors much more attractive than simple looks or sense of style. Am I weird for thinking that anyone who uses the words "ample", "elegant", and "queer" (in its original meaning) is attractive?

Yeah that's weird :P

I find certain accents to be a turn-off... for instance the "Gooische R" in the Dutch language, and the use of "doei doei" as goodbye.

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Yeah that's weird :P

I find certain accents to be a turn-off... for instance the "Gooische R" in the Dutch language, and the use of "doei doei" as goodbye.

Ah, but I bet you also find some accents attractive.

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Hehehe, I don't think I can say you're weird for being attracted to words because I think we all can be, but the words you are attracted to are, let's say ...... interesting.

I hadn't given thought to what words I find attractive but I think I could work out words I'm not attracted to. Do you have an idea what's behind the attraction to "ample", "elegant", and "queer"? I think elegant is a nice word.

It's more how they are said, I suppose. There's more than just those words, but I like it a lot when people use uncommon words that you don't hear every single day ("valor", for instance). I hope that clears things up a little

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Ah, but I bet you also find some accents attractive.

I really like the Mexican and Indian accents. They just seem to be the most carefree yet fastest talkers around.

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It's more how they are said, I suppose. There's more than just those words, but I like it a lot when people use uncommon words that you don't hear every single day ("valor", for instance). I hope that clears things up a little
I really like the Mexican and Indian accents. They just seem to be the most carefree yet fastest talkers around.

This makes sense to me.

.....I was at an event that was like a workshop with a few other hundred people years ago and this male speaker came on and started sharing differences between men and women. He was very entertaining and had us laughing at ourselves. One was the difference between men and women shopping and how women like to window shop and take their time trying on clothes, buying specials etc while men like a list and go shopping with the attitude, "Shoot it, bag it and take it home".

He also expressed the difference between men and women being attracted to each other and one thing was that men like looks and women like words.

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Lol, nice to know you see the same.

Here's a question for you. "Have you ever had your eyes fixed on a woman's eyes and there's no reason for it to happen?" It's like your eyes just meet their eyes, and vice versa and you feel like you're under some sort of spell no matter how much you try not to let it happen. "If so, do you know what that means?"

Now that I'm at it, "Have you ever been attracted to someone who you don't get on well with?" I bet this sounds silly but have you? Like you don't even get along with them.

Sounds like something out of a Nora Roberts novel.

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Sounds like something out of a Nora Roberts novel.

Interesting lady and a number of books.