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PUA's - friend or foe?

This is a discussion on PUA's - friend or foe? within the Dating, Love and Sex anti misandry forums, part of the Advice Corner category; I did a quick check to see what had been written about the PUA 's (Pick Up Artists) on this ...

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    I did a quick check to see what had been written about the PUA's (Pick Up Artists) on this site. It seems there is a lot of negative opinion connected with them. I believe that the PUA's offer great insights into men and women and on how to be a "man".

    I think that PUA material is a bit like a gun - a gun can be used to kill an innocent person, or to kill a dictator. A gun is neutral initself, it is the person behind the gun that determines the nature of the gun, and the same is true with PUA materials.

    I started to explore the PUA world during my divorce and did I learn a lot about human/man/woman nature! It was among the best time I have invested and woke me up to a lot of realities and hidden truths in our society.

    I used some of the material to meet women - hell, at 40 I was getting back into dating and needed some advice! I did not abuse the material. I ws happy to date one woman, be with her for sometime, but when things ended, it ended and I went back into the field to look for the next one. I learned how to be confident, a good man and spot the stupid women who were not worth my time. I guess I became a "serial monogamist".

    I met many other men who had problems with women, took them out, and showed them a trick or two and set them on the right road. They were amazed that the stuff worked.

    Women's magazines have no problmes talking about how to use/manipulate men, but if men begin to look at the mechanisms of attraction we are accused of all sorts of things. PUA material makes you conscious of these mechanism and helps you steer your life in the direction you want it to go, and to better understand what woman want, say and are all about, as well as what it means to be a man and have respect for yourself. I learned that at least half of this world is made up of women, and if the one I was with got on her high horse, I had no problems saying goodbye, knowing that the next one would be around the corner. In fact becuase I had this "abundance mentality" and did not hide it, all the women I dated were good women and our relationships were based o respect. Alas, most women want marriage, ec, and I was happy to have dates, etc, but not looking to live together, etc. I think a lot of the material should be taught in high schools to boys, it would solve so many problems we have!

    I friend of mine, a rich friend, had a "few" problems and I told him about some of the PUA schools. He laughed at it, but I got a DVD out, put it and he listened to it for 30 mintues. Within mintues he stopped laughing and was listening attentively. He heard a description between women looking at men as either lovers or providers - and this hit his bullseye. He realized many of the mistakes he had been making and changed his whole strategy.

    A lot of PUA stuff is not good, some is good, and some is VERY GOOD. I would certainly recomend David Deangelo or the RSD stuff - it is ethical PUA stuff.

    MOST PUA stuff is NOT pick up lines, but on learning on BEING A MAN - and this fact is often forgotten. After all who teaches us what it is to be a man - hollywood films?

    If you are down in the dumps, getting divorced, picking up the pieces in your life. Get some PUA material. If you can, buy it online, support the community, if your are poor/broke/unemployed, well, it can be downloaded for free, but try to put something back when you get your act together.
    The greatest enemy of the truth is very often not the deliberate lie - but the persistent, persuasive and unrealistic myth that the lie creates

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    Re: PUA's - friend or foe?

    The one's I have encountered have only served to give MRA's a bad name... they use vulgar language and get angry if you don't agree with every word they speak - this has happened on this very site.
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    Wife : "And how much for the ones like mine?"
    Husband : "That's where they held the auction."

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    Hi Marx, yeah, I noticed some ofthe posts on this site, jesus, it was as though some women haters were using the material to attack women. The David Deangelo stuff I used 95% of the time talks about "on being a man". He belieives that if you have learned to be a "man" then you dont need pick up lines, and he warns people about being ethical. PUA materials are very powerful and one has to learn how to respect it and use it wisely, otherwise men just end up hurting women, who then become the new recruits to man-hating feminism.
    The greatest enemy of the truth is very often not the deliberate lie - but the persistent, persuasive and unrealistic myth that the lie creates

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    Re: PUA's - friend or foe?

    I dislike PUAs they tend to be dicks of the worst kind.
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    Re: PUA's - friend or foe?

    Some are. That's like saying all those into kinky sex are wierd - and I am sure some indeed are.

    PUA's materials it a bit like a gun, it is neutral - the iditobehind the gun determines the nature of the gun, I guess you met some gunhappy rednecks.

    I would challange you to get some RSD or David Deangelo DVD's and listen to it and formulate your opinion based on the actual material

    I have yet to hear of alternative ways/schools of educating men how to be men and how to go about meeting women, unless we listen to feminist how bad we are.
    The greatest enemy of the truth is very often not the deliberate lie - but the persistent, persuasive and unrealistic myth that the lie creates

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    I think PUA's are useful in demonstrating the false-innocence and double lives of women--where otherwise the culture assumes women women are good, pure, caring, and deserving of protection. Surprise surprise! Ms. sweet heart will in fact let an asshole into her pants if he promises a good time.

    And just other things than that. The issue of dating and female sexuality and others things is very complicated. But I think PUA's are useful in demonstrating the immoral animal side to women.

    That said these are often the "rough" type of men who will stab you in the back--so they aren't really useful to an organization trying to push for the rights of men. They tend to be more interested in p***y (I write vulgarly to be in line with their essential vulgarity).

    Women still enlist the help of men with the pedalling of this image of innocence and vulnerablity. It's becoming more and more laughable to see them do this, what with the reality being seen increasingly in the culture every day. A guy who still buys it in this day and age is a gushy, fruity idiot. If he distances himself from it and thinks: "Hey, it's women's lib and I'm all for equality!" He probably hasn't seen divorce yet or been cheated on (or maybe he has a cuckoldry fetish).

    My favorite statistic from this semester's Human Sexuality class: In America, 10% cuckoldry rate (that means that 1 in 10 guys thinks his child is his--WHEN IT'S NOT.

    Second favorite statistic: 41% of the women in my class reported having once cheated on their primary partner.

    To my mind, PUA's demonstrate this one, important thing: There is no reason to spare women from frontline combat, many of them will prove excellent killers.

    Male soldiers--who can be expected to be among those who resist female integration of all levels of the armed forces--should wake up, smell the coffee, and remember that MILITARY WIVES ARE NOTORIOUS ADULTERERS. While you're acting the part of noble, chivalrous desert hero, your wife is likely back home perverting the conjugal bed with another man. You're trash--the male in this society is trash--wake up to it and be pissed man.
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    Re: PUA's - friend or foe?

    Here's a good article on misandry with references to "the Venusian arts". It quite long, but a good read.

    The Futurist: The Misandry Bubble

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    My favorite statistic from this semester's Human Sexuality class: In America, 10% cuckoldry rate (that means that 1 in 10 guys thinks his child is his--WHEN IT'S NOT.

    Only 10%? In the UK the rate is an average 15%, and in some deprived areas double that.

    If you want to read about this, follow up evolutionary psychology - women are programmed to look for "Mr Good Genes", if he can play the role of "Mr provider" then even better, if not some other sucker will do. Its nothing personal, it biology. Good PUA schools talk about this trap.

    The "one honest parter for life" model is an illusion, and always was. It comes as a shock, but we need to accept biology and stop utting women on a pedastol and worshipping them - and again, this is a message of PUA's, but alas, some take it as a message to mistreat women. Treat women with respect, as you would any other person, and expect respect back, prepare for love and happiness, but remember, things can turn sour, so be ready for that.

    If you are a student - have a read of - or find a review - of the book "Sperm Wars" - that really gives a wake up call.

    In my humble opinion paternity fraud is digusting and premediated. Such women should be put of a sex offenders register.
    The greatest enemy of the truth is very often not the deliberate lie - but the persistent, persuasive and unrealistic myth that the lie creates

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    Re: PUA's - friend or foe?

    I'd say PUA's are foes.
    I'd say they are lower than dog shit.
    A huge chunk of it is based off dishonesty.

    Greed is for amateurs.
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    Quote Quote from Richard
    That's like saying all those into kinky sex are wierd - and I am sure some indeed are.
    We are. Why deny that the fact that I enjoy pain is weird to most people.
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    Exactly, it was wierd to me as well, until I met a woman who was into that, taught me the ABC, and now I am tolerant and sometimes engage in such activities. What I am sayig is don't judge a book by its cover - this applies to SM or PUA.

    It is not the techniques that are bad - they are neutral, but if you can an idiot in SM or PUA the results are disasterous.

    Similarly psychiartry can be used to cure people - in Poland, as a newspaper editor, I came across cases where it was used for political torture. So do I say all psychiarty is bad?
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    Uneeded rant.
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    Uneeded rant.
    Ranty McRant's at it again!!!
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    The most offensive thing you can do to a feminist is treat her with FULL equality.
    Wife : "I dreamt they were auctioning off dicks. The big ones went for ten dollars and the thick ones went for twenty dollars."
    Husband : "How about the ones like mine?"
    Wife : "Those they gave away."
    Husband : "I had a dream too...I dreamt they were auctioning off pussy. The pretty ones went for a thousand dollars, and the little tight ones went for two thousand."
    Wife : "And how much for the ones like mine?"
    Husband : "That's where they held the auction."

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    I once briefly dabbled in PUA ideas. I signed up for David deAngelo's mailing list for about a month, and I read Neil Strauss' "The Game" from cover to cover. I have found that the most successful PUAs (such as Tucker Max) tend to give off the worst image. But, I know better than to let a few extremists define the whole of a group. I mainly like PUAs because they piss off feminists no end. I can't help but wonder--what do they find so offensive about them? Does it really bother them that there are men out there who know how to get a woman to sleep with them without making a six-figure salary? If so, then they've just exposed themselves as not being true believers in equality. If not, then they're just butthurt that women are no longer the ones who totally control the mating game, in which case they've again exposed themselves as against true equality.

    Richard, I think you've rekindled my interest in the field. Do you have any recommendations for PUA writers to read, or websites to view?

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    Quote Quote from Marx View Post
    Ranty McRant's at it again!!!
    This one was pretty bad, I have some moral issues with some PUAs(Roissy comes to mind). I decided to leave it alone.

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    Does it really bother them that there are men out there who know how to get a woman to sleep with them without making a six-figure salary?
    It doesn't bother me, but then again my main attraction goes against the normal grain.
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