I'd like to hear some happy endings too. So much negativity going around.

I personally know men who have had happy endings (and I know their wife well enough to know she isn't pulling a fast one). That is my only hope because I have had no success personally either because I detect misandry/male disposibility/please me only early or disinterest. One reason I have an issue getting a girl is because most girls immediately box you as either a friend or a romantic partner. Sure there are exceptions but most females I know (then again I live in California) will never want to date a friend because they tell their friends alot more about themselves than their romantic partner (to win him over and to look good for them). They keep a guy "friendzoned" and use the excuse "I don't want to ruin our friendship" to avoid dating him...

That contrasts with me and man smart guys who want to be friends first and then partners. In my experience couples who have a happy ending are those that knew (really knew) each other before they got into a romantic relationship. Knew not just how to please each other in sex and have a similar or "compatible" personality but they knew each others spiritual, mental, and physiological core. I will not date a woman I have not known first as a friend or colleague because it is when they are not trying to impress you that their true character comes out. Sure people change, but a relationship based on solid cores and values seldom breaks up even through drastic change.

Most women who want to start out exclusively romantic do not reveal their character until after the wedding or the man has "paid the price"...

I am finding through observation and through experience that men who want to marry tend to invest too much. They believe in the promise of marriage. The fairy tale. Women have the wedding fairy tale, and men have the marriage fairy tale. Men who enter relationships with women with their eyes open have a better chance at a happy ending. For some of us our fathers had this, and others it was our grandfathers. As men have lost their spaces, so have they lost their ability to communicate how to engage women. They have lost the passing down of knowledge that was passed on for ages. The Internet provides some opportunity for this, but too often this is happening through men who have been burned, and are in some way anti-woman. Whether personal or in general. I mean this related to relationships. The only reason I am not, is I have two daughters. I had to find hope. I am dating a woman who is great. I don't know if it will last forever, but my expectations are different. I am not betting my everything on her, ever. My grandfathers never did. They left the final transfer of everything to their beloved wives until the very end. My father has done much the same. He is dying and is finally letting my mother have the keys to the kingdom so to speak. These women were all very happy with their husbands. It tickled the part of them that wants to be protected. They want to be protected, but the balance is they can never be made to believe that we as men believe they have to be protected. There are happy endings, but it takes risk to find them. The question will be are you or I willing to take that risk.

MY marriage has been a success from the word go! but then I picked a woman with religious convictions and values which she transferred to my to children one is a successful chef in Sydenham London the other is still in high school doing quite well !

no drugs sex n rock n roll so to speak

with kids the early years 1-3 are critical in their development ! a bit like fresh concrete initially it can be fashioned to any shape with ease later you need a jackhammer - the parent must nurture a positive self image for his kids and reward effort lavishly with praise n commendation, this the kids incorporate and fix and live up to in life

lousy parents nurture criminals and psychopathic or at best neer do wells types that in the end are a blight on society

when selecting a woman observe how she reacts to being stymied ! it is a good indication of later reactions when she is severely bilked !