Your first experience with misandry or double standards.

**omegaflux** · 9th-July-2010

So I want to find out a little bit about where everyone is coming from. Though I haven't been on this forum for a significant amount of time, I can see the varying reasons that we're here. Some people have been screwed over by the unjust family court system. Some people don't like the way men are portrayed in the media. Many are here for a variety of reasons. Regardless of why we're here, one thing we all have in common is that we have all experienced/witnessed misandry and double standards.

If some people don't mind responding, I'd like to hear about your first experience/memory of misandry or double standards...

My first experience happened in the first grade. There was a rather annoying girl who, for whatever reason, was upset with me and was kicking me repeatedly in the shins. The teacher was only about 10 feet away and as I tried to maneuver away from the girls I could clearly see the teacher saw what was going on and choosing not to act. After about a minute of me being kicked and telling the girl to stop, I finally got tired of it. I pushed the girl away. The shove was in no way violent. It was just hard enough to get her back a foot to give me time to exit the situation. Within a second of the push the teacher, a woman by the way, grabbed me by the shoulders and pushed me against the wall. She yelled: "You never lay a finger on a girl!" I explained that I was being repeatedly kicked and she wouldn't stop. The teacher's response was: "I know. It doesn't matter. I don't care what she was doing. You never lay a finger on a girl."

I went home and told my mother about the incident. My mom considers herself a feminist. As a working class woman, she had a falling out with second the second-wavers after she realized that they only cared about improving the lives of the upper class elite. We don't agree on a lot of things, but she is fair most of the time. She believes in equality and thinks the way men are treated by the family court system is despicable. Anyway, she very clearly told me that I have every right to defend myself. She told me how lots of girls were brats and would use the fact that, as a boy, I wasn't supposed to stand up for myself as a license to do what they wanted. She said that while resorting to "violence" shouldn't be my first response, the one sure-fire way to get a girl to stop hitting you was to hit her back. What really had me mad was the fact that this teacher thought nothing of the fact that this girl was assaulting me. My response was purely defensive in nature, yet it was me she was mad at.

I'll also give my next experience since it is somewhat related. My next experience was about a year later on a field trip. A girl sitting in the seat behind me started pulling my hair. I had longer hair and she had a good handful and I wasn't able to maneuver away. I reached my hand back to try to pry away her fingers and felt something wet. When I looked at my fingertips, I saw a small smear of blood. This ignited something primal in me. I'd seen myself bleed before from falls and scrapes, but never had someone else drawn the blood. I think that was the first time I felt a real surge of adrenaline. Like I said, my response was primal.

With surprising force for someone my age, I swung full around and punched the girl in the only accessible part I could, her face. The punch landed on her forehead and she started to cry and ran to the front of the bus to tell the teacher. The teacher yelled for me to come up and started going off about hitting girls. I rubbed the area of my scalp and extended my hand to show her the blood on my fingertips and told the teacher she was hurting me by pulling my hair. Once again, the teacher (a woman, though not the same one from the year before) told me it didn't matter what she was doing, that it is never acceptable to hit a girl. The teacher said I would have to sit at the front of the bus for the rest of the trip back and consoled the girl, giving her a hug and telling her it would be okay, before sending her back to her seat.

That experience really stuck with me. This girl received no reprimand while my parents were called in. I was so confused as to why, even when someone drew my blood in an act of violence they initiated, I was unable to defend myself. I was mad that the girl who assaulted me was consoled and hugged while I was punished.

Anyway, if some of you can find the time to respond, I just wanted to hear about other people's first memories of misandry or double standards. You can go into as much or as little detail as you want.

Thanks

**Zuberi** · 9th-July-2010

Now, where do I start?

**omegaflux** · 9th-July-2010

With your very first memory of it. Something that you knew in your heart was wrong, but it probably took many years for you to fully understand it.

**Nynrah Ghost** · 9th-July-2010

I honestly can't recall my first experience with double standards... I've had plenty of them. The girl-hits-you scenario in school is a classic that pretty much any boy has encountered surely, me not being an exception (my stories however, often came with a twist as I could hit a girl back with near-impunity, being the teacher's favorite pupil).

**Greyshades** · 9th-July-2010

Mine is probably the same as many other men. I've constantly heard "ladies first" being said by both men and women over and over again. It never used to bother me too much, although I was sick of girls getting away with murder in primary (elementary) school.

As time grew further, I hated seeing most girls forming some sort of unspoken bond with each other, while most guys treated me like shit if they could. I thought this was normal, because it's what I was always taught and what the media portrays. Damn California...

Having to read short stories or complete novels where men were shown as violent and mindless did not help either (why aren't kids reading realistic books - about female sociopaths?). Women's history month and Mother's Day just added to the bullshit. Father's Day was practically a meaningless holiday in school and anywhere else I looked.

Back in 8th grade (yes I know what you're thinking, but I was rather mature for my age and most 13-14 year olds piss me off) I was emotionally abused by a girl whom I believe is a sociopath (there are a lot of symptoms there). No one said it was her fault, but rather I had to deal with the blame and depression which took me several lonely months to get over.

I think I've been unlucky when it comes to these things though. I hate most guys my age because they act like douchebags and perverts, and I hate most girls my age because they act like bitches and perverts. I hate getting caught up in all the cattle...

**rohara** · 9th-July-2010

Quote from samofsons

when i was born and the doctor sliced my foreskin off right off my dick , in
front of everyone.......things just went downhill from there

The perfect response !

The perfect response!

**omegaflux** · 9th-July-2010

Quote from samofsons

when i was born and the doctor sliced my foreskin off right off my dick , in
front of everyone.......things just went downhill from there

That too was my first experience. Luckily, I don't 'remember' it.

**senach** · 9th-July-2010

A lot of our first experiences with misandry and double standards started at school,yet many men will still insist on sending their own son's through the same,to be programmed and insulted by teacher's who really do not like male's,some even openly hate us,yet we persist in letting the state and their minions have control over these children of our's,we need to take our children most of all our boy's back.

**Zuberi** · 10th-July-2010

When I was young, an incident occurred where a girl put her hands on me. I told my mother and the little brat told her mother that I hit her. To this very day, I've
had very little trouble figuring them out.

**byslexic_danana** · 10th-July-2010

Quote from omegaflux

Within a second of the push the teacher, a woman by the way, grabbed me by the shoulders and pushed me against the wall. She yelled: "You never lay a finger on a girl!" I explained that I was being repeatedly kicked and she wouldn't stop. The teacher's response was: "I know. It doesn't matter. I don't care what she was doing. You never lay a finger on a girl."

"You never lay a finger on a girl", but it's quite acceptable to grab a first-grade boy by the shoulders, and push him against a wall? Yeah, that teacher sounds like a fine feminist.........

**haahoo** · 10th-July-2010

My younger sister would be able to complain much more about double standards than myself, the golden boy and eldest son who got everything new while she got second hand..

My fathers rationale for that was "He rides his bike everyday so its worth buying him a new one, you hardly ever get yours out, so there is no point spending money that will be wasted.."

Her response "Im not riding that scruffy second hand bike, everyone laughs at me.."

She had a point.. I dont think I would have taken kindly to a second hand wreck..

Her jealousy of me continues to this day, one of the major ways she was jealous was that I went to the posh private school and she went to a not quite-so-posh one..

"He passed the entrance exam, you didnt.., but you passed the exam for the next best one, and thats the same one I went to, which is why I dont want my son going there, its the same headmaster!"

I dont think she could argue with that one, especially since the boys school had much more competition for it anyway.

I recall at primary school age the advice from my mother.. "Hit them back twice as hard as they hit you" if I was hit by a bigger boy.. As for girls "you dont hit girls"..

I didnt take any notice of either bit of advice! I was a good runner, and a good shot with a twatapult! (which was why I was always getting hit in the first place!)..

Then from the teachers..

"You should not play with fireworks, you may get injured and for a girl, that is even worse, because her looks will be damaged and she could be scared for life.."

I was also pretty frustrated at school because the girls could wear pretty dresses and I had to wear silly shorts..

**senach** · 10th-July-2010

I was also pretty frustrated at school because the girls could wear pretty dresses and I had to wear silly shorts..[/QUOTE]

Well you can wear all the pretty dresses now sir.

**haahoo** · 10th-July-2010

haha! I forgot to put the winky smiley on there! What I was alluding to, of course, is that there is always going to be an element of doublestrandardry when genders are differentiated..It really gets obvious though when it comes to the post puberty stage, when practically everything regarding sex and child raising etc is in womens interests, not mens! I mean AT THE EXPENSE of mens!