a young man going bald

**Fruit_Cake** · 15th-June-2007

i watched a program on BBC3 last night, about a young man who was going bald, did anyone else see that?

i thought he was really brave, he went around asking people what they thought of him, trying on wigs, taking them off.

he went speed dating and did quite well in the end he shaved his hair off, and looked TOTALLY different.

it must be very difficult for a young boy of 16 to lose his hair (i think he said thats when he lost it?)

i do find it fascinating how mens opinions of they way they look, differ from the way i see them. I mean, i think im unusual in my tastes, but i dont think men who go bald, look unattractive at all, as long as they look after themselves, keep it tidy and dont carry it around too much as a problem, i certainly wouldn't notice it at all.

it was interesting though because he was reading a magazine that had made famous men, like brad pitt and jude law bald, and it was saying how much worse they looked. i think it really made him feel bad, as if losing your hair somehow made you invalid as a person. He went into to see her, and she explained that for someone like jude law, losing his hair, meant losing his heart-throb status, and therefore his career? i dont really think she's right, there are lots of men who lose their hair and go on to be even more successful, for example bruce willis is bald isnt he?

i think it is a very big compliment to men, that they can lose their hair and still carry on being happy, confident etc, but i think the way this young man had managed that, was by being in touch with his emotions and the way going bald had made him feel. i suppose im trying to point out why understanding how you feel, might sometimes be a strength for men.

**Marx** · 15th-June-2007

I didn't catch this programme you refer to, as I tend to avert my attention from the television with only the rarest of exceptions.
However, I began losing my hair a little in my early/mid 20s - and wasn't over keen about the fact. The way I delt with it was by making fun of it before someone else could. The joke was done, over & finished with - the subject would move to interesting things. If someone else brought it up, they'd only repeat the obvious.
Once I got married, various things happened - one being a considerable and noticable increase in hairloss, as noted by many friends.
Conversely, since departing the company of my wife & her weird family, my hair appears to be thickening up again. I doubt it'll ever be as it was prior to marrying, but any extra is a good thing in my opinion

**chevalier** · 15th-June-2007

I am balding my self and I like to tell jokes about my bald head like I call it a landing strip for mosquitos while I am fishing. Or if one of the kids asks me why I'm bald I'll either tell them I switched to solar power or that I didn't lose any hair it just migrated down my back like geese do in the winter. Stuff like that. But what hair I have left I just shave off every two months or so. I don't even own a comb for my head but I have a bunch for my beard.

**NHY** · 15th-June-2007

I first noticed my hairline was receeding when I was 17, I didn't really take it too well at first, considering all the crap I have to put with with and then to have this happen, I wasn't too happy.

Now, I kind of accept it and don't really care about it, its really noticeable now but once it reaches a certain point, I'll more than likely shave the lot off, I'd rather be totally bald than look like a freaking lecturer!

**Marx** · 15th-June-2007

It is said by some tha baldness is a sign of virility... I have three kids

**FFFF** · 16th-June-2007

I have a billiard ball bonce.. But that is 90% choice..

I have the usual thinning/receding, but if I was to grow my unruly curls back, I reckon I could get away without being identified as a classic "baldy"..

The hair issue is a way of getting money etc..

Women, fickle creatures as they are, may make a big deal about hair with some guys, then off they fuck with some shaven headed lunatic a few days later..

End of the day, if it bothers a gent, then the women will pick up on that and make a big deal of it..

Women are so keen to identify any area a man may have that may affect his confidence..

Onefact of life..

If you want to succeed politically, they say you need "presedential hair"..

More ammunition the the argument that the majority female voters go for looks more than substance..

**Fruit_Cake** · 16th-June-2007

More ammunition the the argument that the majority female voters go for looks more than substance

er... and thats why the voted for bush?

well actually, he doesnt do very well in either category looks, or substance

Women, fickle creatures as they are, may make a big deal about hair with some guys, then off they fuck with some shaven headed lunatic a few days later..

a big competent looking man who is bald, is far more attractive than a weak gangling little thing with lots of hair?

**Rob** · 16th-June-2007

The WORST part about losing your hair is... LOSING YOUR HAIR!

Bald is a snap once you get through the "losing process!"

What I mean is, the actual physical process of watching your hair get thinner and thiner over a 10 to 15 year period is AGONIZING!

It really is an awful experience - and one in which women and also many men, but mainly women BOUNTIFULLY display how little they actually know about men while at the same time professing to be "emotional/relationship experts."

First off, women don't seem to realize that men pride themselves on their looks just as women do. So men feel about EXACTLY the same way about losing their hair as a woman would if she started progressively losing more and more hair, knowing that one day she will be bald. Women seem to think that bald men are jolly about it - and many are, but it "took something" for them to get that way about it. It is not a characteristic that comes naturally from being bald, but rather as a response to it.

The worst part of it all, though, is LOSING it. I mean, a guy can notice that his hair is getting thinner, so he gets it cut shorter so it is less noticeable. Then it gets even thinner yet, so he is FORCED to change the way he combs it - remember, he is not bald yet, he is GOING bald... this process goes on and on, until, finally, the guy says fuck it, and shaves his head and defeats nature in his own way. THEN he becomes jovial about it.

While I was slowly losing my hair over 15 years, however, I was horrified over OTHER people's reactions - and yes, it did cause me a lot of grief and worry. It was things like being at parties and some fucktard of a guy blurting out "Holy Crap, your hair is thin! You have to do something about it!" (Like what, asshole? Invent a cure for baldness? - While 15 people are suddenly examining your thinning mane.) or it is some THOROUGHLY insensitive bitch, who announces that she would never date someone who is bald, and then looks over at you in a guilty way, realizing what she just said. (The only proper response to comments like that are to remark how well her ass is wintering as she gets older - and watch her shut up real fast!)

Three years ago, I finally said "screw it," and shaved off my hair, even though I still have hair on the landing patch - it is just thin and see-through.

Some people made comments about me doing such a "stupid thing" as shaving my head - but they were made mainly by guys who were into the whole metro-sexual scene, and so it was easy to counter their comments by quickly reminding that them that they had gotten blond streaks/highlights, or had gotten a perm in the past - at least bald is normal, you fucking fairies.

As for women finding bald men viril and sexy, I can understand that. Virility is not so much "looks" in a man, as it is in women, but rather confidence and strength. Once a man decides to "go bald" he is making a VERY confident statement about himself: "This is the way it is and screw you if you don't like it!" After the decade or so of feeling unconfident because of thinning hair and the comments and remarks about it, for a man to embrace his hairless crown and proudly display it is as empowering for men as it is for a women to get her first divorce! This is when men become comfortable and jovial about it.

GOING BALD is far worse than being bald!

**Fruit_Cake** · 17th-June-2007

Virility is not so much "looks" in a man, as it is in women, but rather confidence and strength. Once a man decides to "go bald" he is making a VERY confident statement about himself

i totally agree, i think guys with bald heads look alot more confident than ones with hair, there is something very masculine about it.

**FFFF** · 18th-June-2007

Quote from Fruit_Cake

i totally agree, i think guys with bald heads look alot more confident than ones with hair, there is something very masculine about it.

Oddly, when I first started shaving my head, I just thought I looked like a brute.. That was probably the main reason I did it!

Then I noticed that I suddenly had not more female attention, but definately attracted a better class of woman!!

**dad_savage** · 18th-June-2007

I have very long hair for a guy; I heard once short hairstyles for men came about as a result of WWI (long hair was impossible to care for in trench warfare; becoming a magnet for filth and disease) I don't know if that's true. Either way I'll be sad when I loose my hair, but I think that this is something of a rite of passage, you come through it stronger.

**FFFF** · 18th-June-2007

I used to have a mane like a lion as a young lad of 18, then decided to shear it all off, change of image.. then went through the nextfew decades with the standard 80's short back and sides and big quiff..

Soon as the thinning started in my 30's, I figured that it was too much keeping the unruly curls in order..

they says it heredited, male pattern hair loss, but my dad, when he let his hair grow after 4 decades of skinhead and shaven, had not a sign of hair loss..

Apparently, dairy products acellerate hair loss..

**musicman.2** · 21st-June-2009

Quote from dad_savage

I have very long hair for a guy; I heard once short hairstyles for men came about as a result of WWI (long hair was impossible to care for in trench warfare; becoming a magnet for filth and disease) I don't know if that's true. Either way I'll be sad when I loose my hair, but I think that this is something of a rite of passage, you come through it stronger.

I don't have long hair but it sure grows fast. Hopefully that won't change.