Thread: The term, "mangina"

You may like to remind this woman who takes such a perverse pleasure in intentionally upsetting her boyfriend to the point of tears, that she is gloating - and thus proudly guilty - of mental abuse.

Sadly, I know not who coined the term, but it's been around a good while.

My question is, why does he put up with it?

because he chooses to?

More likely learned helplessness.

And a worldview that is not conductive to male assertiveness. Why did the slaves in ancient Rome accept their lot (mostly)? Why did the Jews in Nazi Germany?

The most effective weapons of the oppressor are the minds of the oppressed, as Steve Biko said.

He was raised by a single mom or lesbians. He didn't have a dad around to stimulate his ceribral cortex via the glutius maximus, thus producing the required amount of common sense and self respect to stand up and be a man.

That or to much female hormone exposure.

My soon to be ex-wife used mental abuses regularly... Betrayal was part of everyday life, from supporting her brother who attacked me from behind - despite being twice my size, to sharing my most intimate secrets with her friends, family & online communities, even when she knew full well the "family" members would use these to their advantage as weapons of hate.
Practically every situation you can muster was a double standard, from her calling her so-called mom on our phone daily and lying about what was going on (or at least exaggerating to phenomenal degrees) on a daily basis - while screeching at me and throwing the phone at me because I once told my Sister what was happening in our home... or stopping 'our' daughter from being able to meet my half of the family because she lacks trust to disprove her unfounded fears that I may 'kidnap' her while in England, yet she has done all in her power to hold our daughter as hostage at every moment since she was conceived. After one of her so-called mom's verbal barrages at me (plus the huge build up to), I broke down. I was on the edge - and my head was spinning with horrible thoughts of how I could escape the hatred in that home. At that moment, I only saw one option. I tried to talk to my loving wife, and instead of giving even a few words of comfort - she turned on me because of her brother's betrayal in repeating a conversation we'd had a good while before about sex. (not that i was sharing our sex life details with him, that was her job, not mine). And so, while I was on the brink of suicide - she wanted answers as to why I would even contemplate a wank when her feelings were so much more important... even more important than putting herself out for a just a while to help out a fellow human being.

Why did I put up with it?

Because I loved her, madly even. I still do in so many ways. But the longer I stay away from her and her alcoholic/druggy family - the more my mind settles back into normality and I see clearly the damages she inflicted with 'help' from the animal she refers to as 'mom'.

Having seen the environment she has been dragged up in, it's not shocking to see her abuses thought of as 'normal' behaviours. Of course they're not, but in her eyes - it's all ok. In so much as I tolerated endless emotional, verbal, mental and occasional physical abuses from her, probably makes me a mangina too.. I can only say how difficult it is to walk away from someone you love to the point you would have given your life for them...at one time, anyway. This is the mother of one of my children (assuming I'm not the victim of paternity fraud, and given her integrity & honesty - even that I wonder about now) and yes, I would have put up with a lot more so long as there was some form of benefit in return. I slowly realised - there was not a single benefit from being in her company, aside from being 'allowed' to be a part of our daughter's life.

All I can say on the matter, is that walking away is considerably harder than allowing it to continue. I've learned - I learned the hard-way even. She has taught me so much about women that I had never known possible before. She has displayed the very worst attributes of humanity - and femininity.. Yes, I'm educated now for sure. No one will allowed to repeat what she has inflicted upon me. Any more children is out of the question, I've seen (experienced) how they are used to manipulate the Dad to get anything she wants, knowing her threats will be heeded.

Kind of feel sorry for the guy that skank bitch is abusing to be honest. It wouldn't be tolerated if it was the other way around, and rightfully so.

Karl, I find that all pretty sickening. It's a hard pill to swallow, but I doubt you'll make the same mistakes again, and then you can find a proper woman.

Quote from Annette1313

My husband came home from work tonight, and told me he popularized the word "mangina" at his place of employment, thanks to me.

Great. Creating awareness by introducing previously unheard words or expressions, ignites curiosity, and people inquire as to their meaning or/and origins. It's a variant of activism.

Activism doesn't have to be overtly in you're face, so rather than subjecting the unawakened to a bombardment of facts and figures (usually ineffectual). You can intersperse everyday conversation with words like mangina or gynocentrism for example, and let the uninitiated in the language of the MRA movement, approach you for further clarification of meaning/or expansion of it's definition.

Also, comedy is an excellent means of giving the concerns of men a platform to be heard. A good activist will change like a chameleon, dependant on which approach/tactic will be the most effective given the situation. Study you're target, and customize a plan of action that best exploits the weaknesses and likes of the target.

I use the word femcunt all of the time. It's catching on. lol

I don't like the term "mangina" much. It's fine if its used for a man who works against men's rights. But I don't like how it's applied to men who are effeminate by nature, or sympathetic to women, or worse to male victims of abuse. Druid has a point about it being a term popularized for the sake of activism, but just as likely it could be used against men to shame them for not fitting into a box that the shamer thinks they should fit into.

I know that the word "mangina" ORIGINALLY had gay connotations... something to the tune of referencing the anus of a gay man or some such. as for todays meaning, I seem to recall that I had heard that Rush Limbaugh coined it's new definition. I could be wrong...

TMOTS

It's just a useful shorthand and means slightly different things to different people.

Why quibble about a precise definition?

"By their works ye shall know them".

I agree with, Myce. It should only be used to manginas like Michael Flood who work against men. Just liking women isn't enough to justify the tag.