I have a friend, John is his name. And he has been telling me of some of the things going on. Of course, i have only got John's version of events and i'm certain his extended family would be able to justify everything he discusses. He rarely discussed his private life, but it was so common for his in-laws to impose their opions and demands, John simply got tired of it and began sharing his views on what he saw in his life.

Some of us know full well that abuse is the act of physically causing pain, say for example beating a young child's ass with a belt repeatedly. Then there is the act of abuse in the form of forcing a child to sit on the floor for days on end for the evil crime of not sitting on the furniture 'properly'. And, for example, on an occasion where said child did sit on furniture (while not supposed to) ended up with a money-tin being thrown by said abuser, narrowly missing his head. As we all know, the 'best' abusers, are those who justify virtually everything they do with "i did it in the children's interests.." and have an uncanny ability to turn on crocodile tears when, as an example, the same child's therapist makes a home visit. I mean, who would ever in their life beleive that a sweet woman, who's crying for this young boy, she's so upset and - well, listen to her... she's says she just wants what's best for him... she loves him so much.. she's truly upset for his welfare and safety. John said seeing the transformation from abuser to guardian & carer is astounding. it took his breath away to see someone go from hateful anger to love & goodwill.
NOT that John's witnessed anything like the above, at all...ever. He assures me it's all pure example - nothing more.

But then, there are other forms of abuse that aren't so visible to people.

For example, when you see the same person frequently abusing (inciting fights, inciting hatred, severing family ties, outlandish hypocrisy, etc.) others in various ways, you find their actions become somewhat predictable and boring. So, i thought some of my viewers may like to see what is considered abuse of the more subtle form...I hope John gets to read this for his benefit.




Naturally, the above sites will only portray such abuse as being a man preying on a poor, defenseless woman...

Most people perhaps think of this as being a bit silly, i mean not just antifeminists but everyday people too. But take a moment to contemplate a situation. imagine, like John, you're living in a strange land with no friends or family, you aren't able to acquire any money without the entire in-law family knowing about it, and you have no transport to speak of, and even phone calls are eves-dropped on and reported to other family members.

And then, like John, as you're trying desperately to remove an extremely abusive influence from your marriage, you decide that they (the one you consider to be abusive) are not welcome in your home any longer (at least while you're in the house). . . and suddenly, and quite predictably, the words "deportation" and, well, roughly the above situations get mentioned!

Another one, that silly as it may sound, is the 'silent treatment'. Now this is one that the above mentioned influence seems to take great joy in performing when caught red-handed.


I guess some people really need to examine what they've become... 'cos it sure ain't the pleasant mask they wear in public life.