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They never think the party's going to end for them: there will always be a stream of available men for sex and fun times, and Mr. Right will just be there when she decides that her career is just fine and she's had enough slutting around, right?

Two things struck me about this piece.

First:

This is, in fact, the core problem with feminism.

Feminism has taught a few generations of women, in effect, that their biological role as child-bearers is not something that is in itself desirable, and is something that should be subordinated to other things. Of course, feminism pays lip service to some forms of motherhood when it goes off on its Earth Mother/Gaia/Goddess tangent, but in reality the main message to young women has been: get your career going very well, no need to have kids, or no need to rush to have them, and whatever you do, don't settle for a man that is less than 100% perfect because if you do, you'll end up with a wife-beating rapist, which is what most men are.

Well now we are seeing the results of that. When feminism taught women that child bearing was just one of a host of equally compelling options for women, it was telling a profound lie to women. Not that all women need to have children to be fulfilled -- of course that is not the case. But the vast majority of women *do* feel a profound drive to reproduce. Feminism downplayed this and twisted the minds of young women to think that it was not that important ... which created an inner conflict in many of them as their feminist-tutored brain collided with deeper, less malleable urges within them. The resulting inner turmoil has undermined many a relationship for these women.

The reason for this, of course, is that the most strident and radical of the academic feminists (the folks who are responsible for the mind warping, by and large) have real problems with heterosexual sex to begin with, and are profoundly angry, not only at men, but at the whole genetic order which assigns to women the role of child bearers. Hence the wild dreams of some of them regarding the development of an asexual means of reproduction -- now not only is the patriarchy to blame, but the whole of genetic evolution which evolved sexual reproduction for homo sapiens is itself the oppressor! If these radicals could blame the patriarchy for the genetic order, they surely would, but even they see how that would be patently absurd.

So, instead, these people taught generations of women to devalue their child-bearing role, which encourages them to focus on other things. This has had a profoundly negative impact on young women. Some of them have been bamboozled into thinking that things will be just fine if they wait until they are 40 to have a child. Here in the US, the Medical Association tried to screen a series of public service announcements a few years ago warning young women about the realities of the biological clock and that waiting too long was putting both themselves and the potential children at significant risk -- but the ads were pulled under a furious hailstorm lobbed by the women's groups who asserted that the ads were "misogynist". One is compelled to wonder how it is not misogynist to deliberately withhold from young women the information they need to make major life decisions intelligently, but when you see all heterosexual sex as rape, and see women who pursue heterosexual relationships as being unfortunately misguided and in need of correction, I suppose the world looks like a different place.

A very typical case. There are millions like her. Passed up perfectly good relationships in the 20s because the feminist scripture says not to get into a relationship at that age, and in any case to wait for the perfect mate. There is currently an inordinate fear of "settling" among young women, and it's driving them away from relationships that would probably have been perfectly fine. I don't think feminism is to blame for that directly ,but definitely the fear of settling is a part of the contemporary "You Go Girl!" culture among young women, and it isn't helping them one bit in terms of finding happiness.

The sad think is this....there are a lot of "perfect" guys. Normal loving guys that would be great fathers. They are everywhere...the normal shy guy hard worker probably not earning much and invisible to the successfull lonely buisnesswomen.

Of course, but the issue is that for women a main vector of attraction is status. So while a man of high status will be open to a relationship with a woman of lower status, the reverse is very, very, very rare, precisely because women find status attractive. There are evolutionary reasons for that. It sucks for them, in a way, because the men that they want are drawing from a larger pool than they are, but that's life.

I'm happy not being married...but then again, I spent most of my life being a wife, house-wife and mother. Now I'm entering my late 30's...nearing 40, and just graduated from college (today, in fact), and I'm quite happy with the way things are. I'm not lonely. I have a lot of friends, I am dating. But in no hurry to settle down or tie the knot. And no, I don't feel rushed into finding a husband just because I'm getting older. I like my life the way it is. I'm sure there are others out there like me....

Now if I had never had a family, never had kids, I'm quite certain I'd feel differently right now about life. There's nothing more deeply satisfying than being a mom. (My opinion).

Try being a dad who had kids, and suddenly finds himself single, childless by choice of others and having no one to turn to for support, except perhaps a small forum on the internet filled with guys in a similar situation.

See, that's where women are damn lucky and they still find room to complain. They get the house, the kids, the C$A... while the man get's nowt. And she continues, even after divorce, to twist the knife.

The Patriarchy™ ain't all fun, this is just one small area where a role-reversal brings all forms of sympathy for a woman trapped in this situation. Yet, even when the numbers are startlingly one-sided, still feminists complain that it ain't good enough.

Ya, but your last bit says it all. I totally agree that many women are satisfied by being mothers. My point was about the rest, who do not have kids younger (as you did).

And in fact you have a much better chance at getting dates at 40ish, just because of the numbers. But yeah, I agree with your post, TERA.

This is just more evidence (from a woman, no less!) of the failure of feminism. Women can waste their time trying to fulfill themselves and compete with men. Whether or not they succeed, they invariably crave a family. Why don't they just cut to the chase, marry young, and take care of their husbands and kids. Life would be much simpler and happier.

[quote[ust graduated from college (today, in fact)[/quote]

And I missed this. Congratulations and Huzzah!!