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    Seeing myself as a Ladette on TV turned me into a Lady

    Seeing myself as a Ladette on TV turned me into a Lady


    Two years ago, I was a TV star and had achieved a level of fame most people only dream about the only problem was that I was famous throughout Britain for being loud, drunken and "sluttish".

    It had seemed such a good idea at first: my mother was at her wits' end with my behaviour, and the ITV reality show Ladette To Lady was looking for errant young women to reform.
    The idea was that a group of us would be subjected to the rigour and discipline of a traditional ladies' finishing school.






    Clare Randall, top row, far right, with the reality show contestants


    Reformed: Clare now opts for the 'yummy-mummy' look

    I thought it was all great fun like a celebrity going into rehabilitation. And I was perfect for the show: a 24-year-old hairdresser with a taste for revealing clothes, dyed red hair and the proud boast that I could drink a pint of lager quicker than any man.


    My trouble on the show started in the second week, when we the ten "ladettes" were tasting wine for a dinner party we would be hosting at Eggleston Hall, the country house that was used as the "finishing school".
    When it came to drinking, I was the rebel and the champion. The man who was taking the class said I drank enough to kill a rugby team.


    The following week,we went to stay at Sir John and Lady Ropner's mansion in North Yorkshire. It was so embarrassing.


    Everyone was playing billiards and flinging balls about. I stood on one and fell backwards, my wine in one hand and a cigarette in the other as I went crash, bang, wallop into their antiques.


    The fourth week was even worse. We'd been allowed out to the local pub but had to be back by 10pm. Instead, I got drunk and ended up kissing one of the men at the pub.


    My official punishment was to be banned from drinking at the show's next big event: a Scottish dancing evening.


    But my real, horrifying punishment came in one sentence from Liz Brewer, the London party-planner and socialite who was our etiquette teacher.


    Liz introduced me to a hunting friend of Prince Charles with the casual announcement that I was not drinking because I "had a problem with alcohol and got quite sluttish".


    I was shocked and embarrassed. I hate confrontations, so I just bit my lip, disappeared into the kitchen and swore to my heart's content.


    Liz was my enemy, my nemesis, and as the TV audience heard all I wanted to do was bash her over the head.


    The final straw was when one of the teachers saw me taking part in a drinking contest in the local pub. It was my execution, my ticket home.


    I know it was my own fault that I was expelled, but I cried my eyes out. For weeks afterwards, I tried to drown my sorrows.


    But slowly I began to reassess my life, reflect on what I had learned during five weeks of intensive tuition and cut out the alcohol.


    I now know that when I drink I turn into a nasty, promiscuous person.
    Liz has said she deliberately provoked me in an attempt to shock me out of my self-destructive behaviour.


    If that was her plan, it worked. And my desire to change was strengthened when I watched the show on TV it was a terrible reminder of how bad I had been.


    In fact, if you remember the show, you would never recognise me now.
    As I became more sober, my relationship with Tony Vieria, a glazier I met before going on the show, grew closer and more serious.


    I began to realise that Tony, who is 29, loved me for who I was. He even gave me an ultimatum: him or the Stella Artois.


    I think I drank to cover up my unhappiness and my anxiety.


    On August 25, Tony and I will be married in church, and the guest of honour will be Liz Brewer.


    Nowadays, the red hair is just a memory and I've swapped my tarty clothes for the "yummy mummy" look. I relax with a glass of water and lavender-scented candles.


    Tony and I have a daughter, Madison, who is 18 months old, quiet and happy nothing like the girl I was.


    My reconciliation with Liz came last November when we met for a one-off special Ladette To Lady show.


    I felt deeply proud to go back because of what I had achieved. The teachers were so surprised. I couldn't stop smiling. I just wanted them to see that I had redeemed myself. I wanted them to be proud of me.


    I learned so much on the show. They taught me that there is more to life than partying.


    I can cook and arrange flowers in a vase. I think etiquette is important and I now know how to act in all sorts of circumstances.


    I can't pretend that I'll ever be part of high society, but I'll always have the skills I acquired on the show.


    I may not be wealthy or live in a nice country house, but I would certainly describe myself as a lady. I am no longer a ladette.


    But I still managed to shock Liz one last time. When we met for the one-off show, I walked straight up to her and said: "I have so much to thank you for. You have changed my life."


    Liz said: "When did the penny drop?" I think she expected me to offer a polite but vague explanation. Instead, I replied: "When you called me a slut in front of five million viewers."
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    Re: Seeing myself as a Ladette on TV turned me into a Lady

    Wow. That's an idea....

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    Re: Seeing myself as a Ladette on TV turned me into a Lady

    Dear Clare,
    you want me to care.
    I don't.
    You are still hogging limelight and exhibiting yourself as someone interesting.
    You are not.
    When you have repaired all the damage you have done to others with your oh so friggin' superior, empowered shankiness, come back and ask to have my attention.
    Until then, fuck off.

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    Re: Seeing myself as a Ladette on TV turned me into a Lady

    Don't those females in the group picture remind you of the skanks who do "Night Calls UK "on the Playboy Channel?
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    Re: Seeing myself as a Ladette on TV turned me into a Lady

    I avoid TV with rare exception. Thus, I have no idea what you're asking LoL
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    Re: Seeing myself as a Ladette on TV turned me into a Lady

    You know, I saw this completely differently. She was on a completely self-destructive path, and being on the show and the things that happened to her helped her get to rock bottom. She made a decision to change her life, and she has - for the better.

    I see someone who acknowledges that her prior behavior was wrong, changed it, and acknowledged that she deserved the treatment she got. She grew up.

    No one can make another person quit a behavior, especially an addiction. I happen to know that one from experience. I get told I'm a good woman, but I wasn't always like this. I was influenced by feminism, as most women are. I bought into the lies. I believed women were oppressed. I believed men were potential rapists.

    I no longer believe those things, of course, and it didn't take anything as drastic to make me change, but there's no way I can condemn anyone for past mistakes if they show evidence of positive change.

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    Re: Seeing myself as a Ladette on TV turned me into a Lady

    KellyMac, that pretty much sums up my perception of this article too. I figured it was a 'confession' of sorts, that this over-hyped ladette culture we see girls all wanting to adopt is just a waste of time.
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    Re: Seeing myself as a Ladette on TV turned me into a Lady

    I agree that people grow up and mature. I think it's kind of normal for a young person to party a lot, but when they're older or they have kids and still partying all of the time then it's gross. I didn't notice the age of her child coinciding with her drinking. That's sad, but hopefully the kid is okay and I am glad she cleaned up her act.

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    Re: Seeing myself as a Ladette on TV turned me into a Lady

    I guess old-fashioned ideas like repentance and restitution aren't needed anymore...

    Modesty? Humility? doesn't sell enough ad time
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    Re: Seeing myself as a Ladette on TV turned me into a Lady

    Quote Quote from Drex View Post
    I wonder, when was the single moment of shame that stopped me from living a life of depravity?
    Stopped? Who said you did???

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    Re: Seeing myself as a Ladette on TV turned me into a Lady

    I can accept that people can change. When they stop bashing their head against the wall; when they are thouroughly fed up with what they have been doing; when they find and understand that they can.

    It takes effort to change.

    But what they have done, the damage they have caused, cannot simply be 'put behind them'. There are consequences.

    Damage has to be repaired - as much as it can be. Restitution is needed. Reparation is called for. Punishments are necessary for egregious harm.

    The world is awash with Feminazis and mangina fellow-travellers that have caused huge harm. Men's lives have been ruined. Children have been parted from their fathers. Families have been destroyed. The dispossessed are everywhere.

    This particular woman is a mere symptom, rather than a specific cause, as far as we know. But she has taken part in the sort of me, me, me behaviour that leaves a wake of damage, lessons in crassness that younger women copy, a smell that lingers like stale perfume.

    For those people, men and women, with social power, who have been murdering our society, I have no real concern about them changing, anymore than I would look to a Hitler changing. They must pay. Personally. Fully.

    For this woman I say, fuck off and come back when you have deserved consideration. For the others, their total destruction is what would satisfy me. For them, Billy's Jesus's millstone.

    Even Christ got angry.

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    Re: Seeing myself as a Ladette on TV turned me into a Lady

    Ah, Percy. Now THAT I can agree with. As I said before, I am told from time to time that I am a good woman. There's the difference, though. I realized that my attitude was wrong, I changed it, and now I take regular action to try to make others see the light, and maybe undo some of the damage I did.

    Thank you. She's evidently not to that step in her recovery program, yet, so to speak.


 

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