Dude, really, you are not the only guy to have felt like this. Most men these days won't even go near little kids because of the whole child abuse hysteria that is around these days.

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Here's something similar to your situation.

Yeah I know I'm not the only one far too many people feel this way. I hate children I really do but I'd never hurt one and I certainly ain't sexually attracted to children. I'm just so sick of being made to feel like I'm gonna kidnap a kid the first chance I get you know?

Ya, I don't really like kids myself, they piss me the fuck off. I blame femcunts and their shit stirring ways for the way men feel around kids. Can't even pursue a woman these days without feeling like a stalker either.

I don't know what the problem is... If a young kid came up to me, I wouldn't pick her up and swing her around, I wouldn't touch him or her, but I certainly would be bold, unapologetic, and confident. It's exactly behavior as you describe -- reticence, fear, hesitation -- that makes you look like a child molester. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy!

If you still feel strange after at least TRYING to be confident and unapologetic, then go ahead and avoid kids when you can -- not because the kids are under threat, but because you are.

I'm a full-time father, and I'll be damned if I have to live in fear of being around kids. As long as I don't cross any lines or actually do something worthy of suspicion, I put the onus on all observers to justify confronting me.

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I don't know what the problem is... If a young kid came up to me, I wouldn't pick her up and swing her around, I wouldn't touch him or her, but I certainly would be bold, unapologetic, and confident. It's exactly behavior as you describe -- reticence, fear, hesitation -- that makes you look like a child molester. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy!

If you still feel strange after at least TRYING to be confident and unapologetic, then go ahead and avoid kids when you can -- not because the kids are under threat, but because you are.

I'm a full-time father, and I'll be damned if I have to live in fear of being around kids. As long as I don't cross any lines or actually do something worthy of suspicion, I put the onus on all observers to justify confronting me.

It is a bit difficult NOT to act like a kiddie fiddler whenever you get dirty looks if you so much as glance at a child. I'm not imagining this kinda stuff it happens all the time round here. I personally know quite a few people who have been accused of touching kids when there is massive amounts of proof they have been no where near that child. I don't fancy losing all my friends and family over a wee snot nosed brat saying that I did something I shouldn't of.

ooooo...I didn't know nowadays american men would have feared of it being around kids...It seems like being around kids and watching them playing around would have been a sin...I could feel that way ever since i started to look at the kids' playing around and i kinda felt guilty of just looking at them...A simple joy was deprived of ourselves being as a grown-up man....And it must have been the media's faults that it has protrayed the increasing incidents of child molesting by the adults around the kid...

So i have felt guilty of just looking at the kid's playing around...So it's been a lost joy even though i'd have admitted that the young kids above certain ages have attracted me but i'd have felt no shame of it...

But in your case, i'd have asked her the girl: "What's the problem there?"...Quite simple as that...

Ach I guess I just felt bad not being able to step in and help a child having a hard time all because I am male. The fact that so many other guys feel the same suggest to me that something somewhere is seriously wrong.

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Ach I guess I just felt bad not being able to step in and help a child having a hard time all because I am male. The fact that so many other guys feel the same suggest to me that something somewhere is seriously wrong.

I once read a story on the Mancoat forum about a guy who noticed a small child walking by himself down the street. No one was around and it was somewhat of a long walk to the nearest phone, but the guy had his vehicle with him. He thought about putting the kid in the car and driving to the nearest police station, but changed his mind and instead let the child continue on his way, not interrupted. Turns out, this child was later found dead in a ditch. His mother was frantic, trying to find him. The kid had walked out of her door when she didn't notice, and had been gone for a while. And now he was dead. This guy could have saved the kid, but he was afraid of being falsely accused of child molestation. Several of the guys on the Mancoat forum who read the article identified with this guy. I was floored. Sometimes you have to look evil straight in the eye and show that you will not live in fear, that you will do the right thing, and you will not live like you have something to apologize for. That's what this guy should have done. As an alternative, if he had a cell phone, he could have at least stayed with the child and called police to him. Or he could have made a phone call to the police at the nearest payphone, then gone back to stay with the child until the police arrived. Anything. Instead, he took the path of least resistance, and the child died. Now we can blame the mother for her negligence, but what's better than "blaming rights" is the act of actually saving a life -- a child's life, in this case.

I don't know about you guys, but if I ever spotted a small child wandering alone, I would not just drive by. I would do something.

This does have a relation to the original post on this thread. It's okay to be yourself. If people cast suspicious glances in your direction, look directly back and smile. Look directly back.

This, more so than any other reason is why I am passionate about this.

I can remember a time when men were not collectively treated like rapists out on parole.

I hear the NSPCC in the UK is really shameless about portraying ALL men as abusers or molesters,to get their dirty money coming in.Nothing said about women.

Statistically, young children are at more risk of harm and abuse from their mothers than from their fathers. That is a well proven fact, time and time again, but of course, it is never well publicised, is it? Of course it isn't - showing women in a negative light, especially on a very sensitive issue as this, just isn't to be countenanced is it? True though. Why blame women when there are men close at hand to take the rap every time?

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I hear the NSPCC in the UK is really shameless about portraying ALL men as abusers or molesters,to get their dirty money coming in.Nothing said about women.

Yep, they really are.