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19th-March-2008 #1
Need Assistance with Replies, On domestic violence, no one wants to hear the truth
I need some assistance with formulating sharp replies to what other people say on a forum where I posted this news article:
The full article is here.On domestic violence, no one wants to hear the truth
Barbara Kay, National Post Published: Wednesday, February 27, 2008
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Another outlier, University of British Columbia psychology professor Don Dutton, is acknowledged by his peers as a world expert on IPV. He has proven, over and over again -- most recently in his definitive 2006 book, Rethinking Domestic Violence -- that the tendency to violence in intimate relationships is bilateral and rooted in individual dysfunction: Men and women with personality disorders and/or family histories of violence are equally likely to be violent themselves, or seek violent partners.
But Dutton's scientific credentials and extensive 25-year archive of peer-reviewed research cut no ice with Canadian policymakers, none of whom has ever solicited his advice.
Instead, pseudo-science absolving women of violent impulses, delivered on demand to interest groups by the same tiny, incestuous coterie of ideologically sympathetic professionals, is routinely applied in training police, family law judges, social workers and women's shelter personnel.
A lazy, politically correct media dutifully spreads the party line by reporting uncritically on bogus selection-biased "studies" by non-accredited stakeholders, who extrapolate to the general population data that are based on testimonials from men in court-mandated therapy programs or women in shelters.
Ah, women's shelters! Southern Ontario resident Mariel Davison offers up a rather damning story of what happens when naively impartial volunteerism collides with women's shelter groupthink.
It is time for domestic violence crusaders to choose whether their beef is with domestic violence in all forms or merely a attempt to look righteous whilst targeting the male half of the population.
Davison has an honours degree in psychology. A few years ago, considering herself an "equal opportunity feminist," she volunteered to serve at a local women's shelter. During eight weeks' "training," Davison was subjected to relentless male-bashing and junk science. That, and the puzzling incongruity of the female-as-victim message with the battered lesbians who also sought refuge -- lesbian violence was a taboo subject amongst trainees -- led to further intellectual inquiry.
Sums up the fembots precisely. They cannot argue their lies without false statistics and doctored results that governments promote and adopt.
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Maybe we can use Lisa Scott's Real Family Law site:
Lisa Scott is a family law attorney based in Bellevue, Washington. Tired of having her stuff rejected by elitist bar publications and politically-correct newspapers, she decided to start her own website. Co-founder of TABS: Taking Action Against Bias in the System, she has been fighting for equal justice and gender equality in the family courts for years. Lisa hopes you enjoy the humor, satire, absurdity, and occasional seriousness contained on this site. And be sure to give us your contributions on the Blog.
Link. http://www.realfamilylaw.com/
A guy who replied claims in his closing comment that "anything, domestic violence against men is a greater problem than we think, but to say it's actually a greater problem than against women is absolutely ridiculous. " I never stated I thought DV against males is a greater problem than DV against women. The article I quoted doesn't state so either afaik. What is a greater problem is the lack of attention and recognition of male DV victims as if they do not exist with one-sided sexist policies such as VAWA which support women, and is a example of how men get second-class treatment.
This is what he said:
.And? Whether a crime is often or rare is not a justification to ignore it
Okay, you're not listening. One, the frequency of a crime IS justification to ignore it, but this isn't to say that the rarity of a crime makes it nonexistent. It means its validity as an actual social problem is in question. Two, I am talking about severity. I don't know if you got that because you still seem to be on the frequency of crimes for some reason. More whites are in prison than blacks. Why do we stereotype blacks as prison people, then? Because they often serve longer sentences for lesser crimes. That's severity.
Yeah, that's because such a claim is ridiculous. On a whole, men are physically stronger than women. The greatest thing that would hold any man back from hurting a spouse is emotional attachment, which would leave you a pacifist kitten to a raging bitch. This is different from women who stay quiet because they're actually afraid of getting severely hurt for fighting back. Your claim is fucking ridiculous and defies common sense, and your statistics are asinine.While false rape allegations are frequently happening against men - there is plenty of stuff available from police and courts to prove that, I rarely hear about false rape allegations against women done by men.
http://www.silcom.com/~paladin/madv/faq-dv.html
Yes, indeed women use assaultive behaviors. Research on a national, random sample of households (Strauss, Steinmetz, Gelles, 1980) seems to show that women are as equally likely as men to hit. However, when you look at who gets "hurt" the story changes. Analysis of police reports in Santa Barbara, California indicated that in 90% (in instances where injuries were noted) the injuries were women only. In the remaining 10%, both parties had injuries. In all cases where both parties had injuries, the woman's injuries were more severe than the man's.
http://www.oregoncounseling.org/Hand...iolenceMen.htmAverage annual number of single-offender violent victimizations, 1987-91
Sex of victim
Victim-offender -------------------
relationship Female Male
Intimate 572,032 48,983
Other relative 117,201 75,587
Acquaintance 796,067 1,268,506
Stranger 71,114 1,182,307
Now here's a website supporting your position.
Makes sense, except:Very little in known about the actual number of men who are in a domestic relationship in which they are abused or treated violently by women. In 100 domestic violence situations approximately 40 cases involve violence by women against men. An estimated 400,000 women per year are abused or treated violently in the United States by their spouse or intimate partner. This means that roughly 300,000 to 400,000 men are treated violently by their wife or girl friend.
Then how are they getting their fucking numbers?The incidence of domestic violence against men appears to be so low that it is hard to get reliable estimates.
Exactly.In most cases, the actual physical damage inflicted by men is so much greater than the actual physical harm inflected by women. The impact of domestic violence is less apparent and less likely to come to the attention of others.
http://www.mincava.umn.edu/documents...d/factoid.html
That source is from 1995. The source claiming there's 400,000 women a year is from 2007. Either these numbers are extremely skewed [b]because the variables of what actually constitutes domestic violence are different[b], these people are lying assholes, OR, the whole idea of domestic violence as a social problem is diminishing anyway and whatever gender it is against is completely irrelevant.There Are Four Million Women Beaten and Abused Each Year
http://www.endabuse.org/resources/facts/
A other person responded:
When it boils right down to it, thats about the size of it. If a man is the target of feminine violence who is he going to tell? What does that say about him as a man? If anything he will lash back more out of ego and self preservation than out of true felt violence. I'd say its more of a social stigma for women to beat up on a guy and get away with it. Tim-and-Carl has a point about the whole strength issue as well, in straight fighting a man will win far more often than not and is able to sustain more "injuries" than a woman.
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19th-March-2008 #2
Re: Need Assistance with Replies, On domestic violence, no one wants to hear the trut
Barbara Kay is one of the few Canadian journalists challenging the PC status quo, and the National Post is the most conservative daily here. They are regularly dismissed by the mainstream as right-wing nutcases.
The truly evil part of all this is how feminist discourse dovetails with corporate greed, so that the MSM continues to publish slanted material because advertisers and retailers make more money. If women changed their consumer habits, we might actually see some balance in the media.
These internet debates generally boil down to warring statistics: who's numbers are correct, and how society should act on them. Feminists get the default credibility, even though their "scholarship" has been de-bunked. And PCism has convinced people that anything conservative is bad and regressive.Feminism = Fear + Flattery
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19th-March-2008 #3
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Re: Need Assistance with Replies, On domestic violence, no one wants to hear the trut
That should be a clue. We men need to start going after merchants who support hate.
Glenn Sacks is attacking advertisers who publish anti-men ads, and is having some success. I have been publishing acolades for good companies and criticism of bad companies on my blog. For example, when ACE Hardware replaced "Helpful hardware man" with "Helpful hardware pro," I published a complaint. And I heard from individual store owners who blamed it on corporate management which they had no control of. I suggested that they complain to corporate, not to me. I haven't darkened the door of ACE hardware since.
In another case the Safeway store was collecting money for Prostate Research. They got an acolade. Good stores should be appreciated.
Men need to be loud and clear. We will not buy from merchants who pay for hate of men. And those of us who are married should steer our wives to other stores.
Blessings
Bob
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19th-March-2008 #4
Re: Need Assistance with Replies, On domestic violence, no one wants to hear the trut
Okay so please help with formulating a reply to what they said. That's what this thread is for.
~ Support Fathers & Families for Father's Rights and Equal Parenting! Go to fathersandfamilies.org ~
~ Fathers & FamiliesTM improves the lives of children and strengthens society by protecting the child’s right to the love and care of both parents after separation or divorce. ~
~ Feminism = Every bad thing any man has ever committed highlighted and exaggerated; every bit of good systematically undermined, vilified or ignored. ~
~ A man needs a woman like a lion needs a stove. ~
~ Women deserve only equal opportunity, not equal outcomes. ~
~ Men are not collectively "guilty" of anything. ~
~ Never needing to be pregnant is a blessing. ~
~ Feminist ideology “men have to respect women, but women have no reason to respect men” ~
~ Everybody makes choices, and nobody should be entitled to special treatment because of those choices.
Equal results based on unequal treatment amounts to no kind of equality at all. ~
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19th-March-2008 #5
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Re: Need Assistance with Replies, On domestic violence, no one wants to hear the trut
I have found that trying to dispute their fictitious "statistics" and hate speech is a total waste of your time. These hatebitches are not interested in facts or figures. You can tell by their name calling and ranting.
The ways I reply to that kind of hate is to deny the validitity of any of their "Women's Stuides" hate fiction and tell them that their feminst hate lies weren't worth shit when their grandmother used them, and men have learned better, so today they can take their lies and hate speech and cram it up their filthy fat ass. Always use the word "fat" when arguing with a bitch. They hate being "fat" more than anything else. And every female secretely believes herself to be "too fat." "Lard ass sow" is good too.
Have fun.
Blessings
Bob
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19th-March-2008 #6
Re: Need Assistance with Replies, On domestic violence, no one wants to hear the trut
~ Support Fathers & Families for Father's Rights and Equal Parenting! Go to fathersandfamilies.org ~
~ Fathers & FamiliesTM improves the lives of children and strengthens society by protecting the child’s right to the love and care of both parents after separation or divorce. ~
~ Feminism = Every bad thing any man has ever committed highlighted and exaggerated; every bit of good systematically undermined, vilified or ignored. ~
~ A man needs a woman like a lion needs a stove. ~
~ Women deserve only equal opportunity, not equal outcomes. ~
~ Men are not collectively "guilty" of anything. ~
~ Never needing to be pregnant is a blessing. ~
~ Feminist ideology “men have to respect women, but women have no reason to respect men” ~
~ Everybody makes choices, and nobody should be entitled to special treatment because of those choices.
Equal results based on unequal treatment amounts to no kind of equality at all. ~
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19th-March-2008 #7
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Re: Need Assistance with Replies, On domestic violence, no one wants to hear the trut
Never admit that their statistics are right, in fact always criticize them as hate lies and fiction. Criticize the females who "spew" such hate as Nazis, fascist, bigots, etc. Then hit them with "fat" or some equal. Water buffalo, hippopotamus, whale, walrus, rhinoceros, sow, cow, etc.
Since they believe their lies because they have been brainwashed by “Women’s Studies” and aren’t interested in truth anyway, you can’t win by refuting individual statistics. That only leaves you exposed to “hates women” or some such. Instead you have to turn the tables on them. They “hate men” for pushing “hate lies.’ The lies were hate speech when their mother used them and nobody believes that crap any more. Their feminist hate program has destroyed families and hurts children. Ask them why they are so much in favor of hurting children? Ask them why they don’t find some new lies instead of repeating the old tired lies of their walrus mothers.
Countering their statistics with other statistics doesn’t help. They don't care. You have to turn the discussion to the evils of feminsm and fat feminists.
For example. To argue that their lie about 25% of college females are raped is the wrong number you have to accept, and affirm, their hate speech that college females being raped is a serious problem. The big lie of feminism is never in their numbers, its in the premise that underlies the rhetoric.
For example, if you object to an argument about the number of “deadbeat dads” being too high, you have affirmed the validity of their whole “C$” program, the slavery of men, and the payment of females for destroying families. Pointing out that most “deadbeat dads” are really dead broke dads only affirms and encourages their program by affirming your acceptance of the radical female social experiment. Instead turn the discussion to slavery of men, destruction of families, and the failed radical feminazi social experiment that hurts millions of children, etc. And always let them know that a fat water buffalo who hates men is a loser.
Blessings
Bob
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19th-March-2008 #8
Re: Need Assistance with Replies, On domestic violence, no one wants to hear the trut
Feminism = Fear + Flattery
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19th-March-2008 #9
Re: Need Assistance with Replies, On domestic violence, no one wants to hear the trut
Okay thanks for the tips. You throw bones at me and want me to do the rest by myself. That's alright, but it's more useful for me if people post what they would reply themselves literally and precisely. I don't really seek vague advice.
~ Support Fathers & Families for Father's Rights and Equal Parenting! Go to fathersandfamilies.org ~
~ Fathers & FamiliesTM improves the lives of children and strengthens society by protecting the child’s right to the love and care of both parents after separation or divorce. ~
~ Feminism = Every bad thing any man has ever committed highlighted and exaggerated; every bit of good systematically undermined, vilified or ignored. ~
~ A man needs a woman like a lion needs a stove. ~
~ Women deserve only equal opportunity, not equal outcomes. ~
~ Men are not collectively "guilty" of anything. ~
~ Never needing to be pregnant is a blessing. ~
~ Feminist ideology “men have to respect women, but women have no reason to respect men” ~
~ Everybody makes choices, and nobody should be entitled to special treatment because of those choices.
Equal results based on unequal treatment amounts to no kind of equality at all. ~
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19th-March-2008 #11
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~ Support Fathers & Families for Father's Rights and Equal Parenting! Go to fathersandfamilies.org ~
~ Fathers & FamiliesTM improves the lives of children and strengthens society by protecting the child’s right to the love and care of both parents after separation or divorce. ~
~ Feminism = Every bad thing any man has ever committed highlighted and exaggerated; every bit of good systematically undermined, vilified or ignored. ~
~ A man needs a woman like a lion needs a stove. ~
~ Women deserve only equal opportunity, not equal outcomes. ~
~ Men are not collectively "guilty" of anything. ~
~ Never needing to be pregnant is a blessing. ~
~ Feminist ideology “men have to respect women, but women have no reason to respect men” ~
~ Everybody makes choices, and nobody should be entitled to special treatment because of those choices.
Equal results based on unequal treatment amounts to no kind of equality at all. ~
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19th-March-2008 #12
Re: Need Assistance with Replies, On domestic violence, no one wants to hear the trut
What do you folks think about this?
Don't put words into my mouth. I never said it was a "greater" problem for men than for women. My point simply that the issue of domestic violence against men is not being addressed. There is a lack of attention (or the absense of) recognition of male DV victims as if they do not exist. One-sided sexist policies such as VAWA support women, but not men and is a example of how men get second-class treatment.
Do you know about for example the must arrest laws? That with domestic violence incidents there are now male-specific laws where an attending officer MUST arrest the male even if there is no proof.
The author of that article Barbara Kay is one of the few Canadian journalists challenging the PC status quo.~ Support Fathers & Families for Father's Rights and Equal Parenting! Go to fathersandfamilies.org ~
~ Fathers & FamiliesTM improves the lives of children and strengthens society by protecting the child’s right to the love and care of both parents after separation or divorce. ~
~ Feminism = Every bad thing any man has ever committed highlighted and exaggerated; every bit of good systematically undermined, vilified or ignored. ~
~ A man needs a woman like a lion needs a stove. ~
~ Women deserve only equal opportunity, not equal outcomes. ~
~ Men are not collectively "guilty" of anything. ~
~ Never needing to be pregnant is a blessing. ~
~ Feminist ideology “men have to respect women, but women have no reason to respect men” ~
~ Everybody makes choices, and nobody should be entitled to special treatment because of those choices.
Equal results based on unequal treatment amounts to no kind of equality at all. ~
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20th-March-2008 #13
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Re: Need Assistance with Replies, On domestic violence, no one wants to hear the trut
Once again, its a feminazi hate program intended to round up men and send men off to Auschwitz. It has little or nothing to do with real violence which is just about equally divided, nor about abusing children which is 2x as often done by mothers than fathers. The "must arrest" is a feminist excuse to destory families and send men to hell. It is strongly reminiscent of the 3rd Reich program of rounding up Jews, or the medieval witch hunts with the sole differnce of substituting "men" for "Jew" or "witch." It's a hate program of extermination.
Feminism adopted opposition to families in the middle of the 19th century at the Ceneca Falls Conference. The DV laws and hate is a part of the feminazi war on men, marriage and families.
Any female who supports the DV laws and hate is an evil femiNazi who is waging a propaganda war on men and families. Sending men to Auschwitz (or the local hellhole concentration camp, whatever its called) because of a female's hissy fit is abhorrent to decent men and women.
Their lies and hate have no place among decent people.
Blessings
Bob
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20th-March-2008 #14
Re: Need Assistance with Replies, On domestic violence, no one wants to hear the trut
Two new replies:
The issue can be summed up as such.
A guy punches a woman. This is seen as totally unacceptable by pretty much all members of civilized society. (And it is, don't get me wrong!)
But if a girl punches/physically abuses a man, it's seen as funny and not serious; the guy is probably going to draw more flak from this.
It's just one of those long-standing biases we have developed, and one that is now entrenched in our society. Of course, in practice, it really won't happen as men are bigger and stronger, but if it did, that is how it would be percieved.
And the second one:
The VAWA is only one act of many supporting victims against domestic violence and victims of crimes in general, and most victims rights acts are nonsense anyway; most of them just repeat the same things over again to simply profess and reiterate the rights of victims. The money proposals for those acts are never even met, with actual budgets set well below the upper limit.
So what you're saying is you agree that it IS a greater problem. But nay, let's not put words in your mouth. It's not being addressed because it's not as big of a social problem as domestic violence against women. That's why there's a VAWA and not a VAMA. Obviously, cultural ideologies and politics took a social problem way out of proportion (as they always do), and the VAWA SHOULD cover both sexes--but you're still going to see men berated with shit over women. Domestic violence against men happens--we're all aware of that possibility. Is it a big enough problem to bitch about outside the alteration of the VAWA? No. Wasting taxpayer dollars on minor social problems is stupid. We're aware it happens to men too, we just don't care. This is hardly where we should start fixing America with the fucked economy we have.I never said it was a "greater" problem for men than for women. My point simply that the issue of domestic violence against men is not being addressed.
Excuse society for not being liberal against common sense! I suppose we can reduce racism by enforcing affirmative action, too. Oh wait! THAT JUST CREATES MORE RACISM. Same concept. Let society fix itself, not policy.If society really wants to reduce domestic violence, it starts by holding men and women equally accountable and responsible.
There's a reason there's a few. It's because it's not a big enough social problem.The author of that article Barbara Kay is one of the few Canadian journalists challenging the PC status quo.
Also, thanks for the negrep, but since you are in the red it just ended up giving me neutral.
--------~ Support Fathers & Families for Father's Rights and Equal Parenting! Go to fathersandfamilies.org ~
~ Fathers & FamiliesTM improves the lives of children and strengthens society by protecting the child’s right to the love and care of both parents after separation or divorce. ~
~ Feminism = Every bad thing any man has ever committed highlighted and exaggerated; every bit of good systematically undermined, vilified or ignored. ~
~ A man needs a woman like a lion needs a stove. ~
~ Women deserve only equal opportunity, not equal outcomes. ~
~ Men are not collectively "guilty" of anything. ~
~ Never needing to be pregnant is a blessing. ~
~ Feminist ideology “men have to respect women, but women have no reason to respect men” ~
~ Everybody makes choices, and nobody should be entitled to special treatment because of those choices.
Equal results based on unequal treatment amounts to no kind of equality at all. ~
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20th-March-2008 #15
Re: Need Assistance with Replies, On domestic violence, no one wants to hear the trut
I am starting to understand how these people think. What they are taught during school. (MBAs)
They are encouraged to be thinkers as in the conclusion has no merit. For their is no conclusion on thought.
They use hypotheses to argue a point. In fact everything is based on argument.
Their arguments start from questions. Their journals and the journals they use are never facts. They are simple someone's thoughts and a good argument to back the thought.
I know this sounds outrageous to people who live by facts but their are no facts being used. All research is different in theses scenarios.
You need to argue your point and you need to question their point. But what about this? What about that?
Maybe that is helpful. (maybe it is not).
Facts mean nothing. Nothing is real.
Maybe you need to figure out what it is you are arguing for.
If you decide to argue that men are suffering in DV then you need to show stories where women have killed their husbands.
But then you need to argue that these women were not doing it as self defence. That they were doing it as if they set out to do it. Stories of women being caught by law deliberately killing their husbands could back you argument.
Like the women who killed her army husband for breast implants.
Maybe leave it with the question, "How important is this man's life. He even sacrificed is life for others."
And maybe asked, "What will this teach the younger generation."
That's the best I could do.Ignorance is the Oppressor, Vigilance the Liberator.
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