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    My boyfriend is unbelievably lazy. He does nothing around the house.

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    My boyfriend is unbelievably lazy. He does nothing around the house.

    I do all the cooking, all the cleaning, all the ironing, all the laundry, and all the vacuuming. I alone clean up after the cats. And, I usually do all of the yard work, too. I've tried to get even with him by just not doing the chores, but he is happy to live in filth and squalor.

    Typically, my only solution is to fly into a rage, and scream and yell. And, he'll usually respond with minimal effort, while acting like I'm just unreasonable for expecting him to do even some of the housework.

    What do you all do to make your husbands/boyfriends do their part around the house?
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    Re: My boyfriend is unbelievably lazy. He does nothing around the house.

    My boyfriend is unbelievably lazy. He does nothing around the house.
    I do all the cooking, all the cleaning, all the ironing, all the laundry, and all the vacuuming. I alone clean up after the cats. And, I usually do all of the yard work, too. I've tried to get even with him by just not doing the chores, but he is happy to live in filth and squalor.
    Typically, my only solution is to fly into a rage, and scream and yell. And, he'll usually respond with minimal effort, while acting like I'm just unreasonable for expecting him to do even some of the housework.
    What do you all do to make your husbands/boyfriends do their part around the house?
    Thus spake the Princess! It's HER house and subject to HER rules???

    Note the 'make'your husbands/boyfriends do their part'...... Power politics or what?
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    Re: My boyfriend is unbelievably lazy. He does nothing around the house.

    Nobody suggested that she should go out and make a living, and use part of her newfound salary to get a housekeeper. Miss Pampered would never think of that!

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    Re: My boyfriend is unbelievably lazy. He does nothing around the house.

    Quote Quote from zrzuce
    It's not just dirty dishes. It's the fact that I have to spend my free time cleaning up after him while he lazes around watching TV, playing games online, reading, napping, etc. I resent his laziness, and I feel taken advantage of. That is what makes me mad.
    Here we see what the problem is: one-sided perceptual distortion, taught by Oprah et al. She doesn't see that he most likely has a lot more responsibility than her and works more hours in a more demanding job. She just sees an imbalance in the housework.

    This is what you get when you have informal, fluid gender roles in an atmosphere poisoned by feminism.

    This is the only one that gets it:

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    We had an agreement on what each of us would do before I moved in with him.
    If he suddenly stopped holding up his end of the bargain I guess I'd sit down with myself and decide if it was something I could accept or not based on his other attributes (is he basically a good guy in other areas?). If I couldn't, I'd break up with him. There's really no sense in screaming and yelling. It makes life not very fun and ultimately doesn't work anyway.
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    It sounds like he doesn't have any standards for clean. Some people are like that.

    If it's so important to you and not important at all to him I think you'll have a hard time getting him to help. You probably wouldn't like him nagging you to do things you didn't feel were important. Is it really that big of a deal to keep the house up to your specifications? I do all the housework, laundry, cooking, etc. and it doesn't really take that long. I'm a lot happier once everything is in order. A lot happier than if I had to nag someone to help me.

    Maybe you're seeing it as more than just housework. Maybe you see it as a sign that he doesn't repect you or your desires or needs (which it could be, particularly if he doesn't respect your wishes in other areas). Or maybe it's some kind of power issue. But probably all it is is that he doesn't like doing housework or find it important.

    If as you say, he's a good guy and generally takes care of you the way you need him to, I'd suggest just letting it go. You want domestic bliss, not domestic discord.
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    Re: My boyfriend is unbelievably lazy. He does nothing around the house.

    Oprah is a strong woman, hear her roar! You go girl.

    You know, men could learn to do more work around the house.
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    Re: My boyfriend is unbelievably lazy. He does nothing around the house.

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    Oprah is a strong woman, hear her roar! You go girl.

    You know, men could learn to do more work around the house.
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    Re: My boyfriend is unbelievably lazy. He does nothing around the house.

    Another old saw. Or is it sore?

    Women do complain, but they will complain about almost anything. When it comes to 'keeping house' women tend to have higher standards, some of which are as ridiculous as the standards that miltary trained men know all too well.

    As an ex-military man, I keep house quite well. Not perfect and occasionally resembling a bivouak! But in the main, tidy, clean and well ordered. There is no excuse, frankly, for the sort of pig-sty living that many men - and women - get by with. It is a hang over from adolescence. The adolescent boy and girl is a pig, often. But the adult has to grow up and be clean, especially when the children come along.

    It doesn't take much effort to clean up after oneself. I can understand the original writer quoted. A man hanging out in filth and squalor is unacceptible. I cannot abide her response though. It is almost better to have a slightly messy home than have someone in it continually flying into a rage, screaming and shouting. Why is she with him?? Masochism? Why does he put up with her lack of self-control? Masochism too? They deserve each other.

    If one does the cooking, it is reasonable that the other washes up and puts everything away. Fair and resonable. If one is at home most of the time and the other out working, it is reasonable and fair that they do most of the daily chores. But any man who can't cook and look after himself is a liability.

    Standards need to be established. A man must set himself reasonable standards in the home and put in the effort to reach those standards. If the woman's standards are higher or more taxing, then it is up to her to put in the additional effort for her own satisfaction.

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    Re: My boyfriend is unbelievably lazy. He does nothing around the house.

    The thing about this article, is the mind games they want to "use" on the men. But she has a point, the guy prob was at home and had mommy do everything, what a wuss. Seriously, both of them need to grow the fuck up and TALK. So many things going on in that article, the comments are worth the read, makes you see how women play mind games. A few women are actually smart enough to see that its a 2 way issue. (Ops that sounded sexist)
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    Re: My boyfriend is unbelievably lazy. He does nothing around the house.

    If two people live together- whether they are roommates or spouses- they should have similar standards in housekeeping. If one is a neat freak and the other is a slob, then they will probably make each other miserable unless they can work at a compromise. I can understand the frustration some of these ladies express, but I think they are unnecessarily attributing negative intentions to their partners. What they don't realize is that people perceive and prioritize things differently. If he says he doesn't notice the mess, he is probably telling the truth. But housework perception can be learned too.


 

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