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http://lonestartimes.com/2006/05/11/...e-of-feminism/
Lance Armstrong's first marriage ended in divorce and his ex-wife tells us,
though she may not realize it, that the reason was
feminism.
The greatest conspiracy in modern history is not Watergate or the shooting
of JFK; it's something far more ingrained and insidious in the way it
distorts the truth. The conspiracy is marriage.
Here is the truth as I see it: Marriage has the potential to erode the
very fiber of your identity. If you aren't careful, it can tempt you to
become a "yes woman" for the sake of salvaging your romantic dream.
I was career-minded and single-minded. I was also headstrong and naive; I
treasured my self-sufficiency so much that I scoffed at women who gave up
their jobs, stayed home to take care of children or relied on men for
anything.
This headstrong young
feminist found her life changed completely in the span
of a few short years, with the romantic fantasy of marriage giving way to
children and a busy lifestyle keeping up with her professional athlete
husband. She describes how she changed much about herself to make the
marriage work, but found that she did not like what she had become.
Unfortunately, her
feminist outlook had set the marriage up for failure from
the start.
If I were to do things over again, I wouldn't have thrown myself so
irrevocably into my new life. I would have guarded the things that made me
feel like me -the places, the friends -and above all I would have spoken up
about my needs.
The problem lies in the
feminist definition of marriage. Millions of women
have been told that marriage is a destroyer, that one must sacrifice one's
very identity in order to wed. This idea, coupled with a basic
incompatibility, derailed the Armstrong marriage and tore apart their
children's home, and it has even prevented
Oprah Winfrey from marrying.
Oprah Winfrey says she was reduced to tears reading an article in Glamour
magazine by Lance Armstrong's ex-wife.
Winfrey says, "This is why I never got married. I just wanted to always be
myself."
The tragic thing about all of this is that the feminists are simply wrong.
Marriage is a creator, not a destroyer. The new entity, the married couple,
cannot be formed through the destruction of its components. Marriage is,
instead, a combining of two unique people, who through love and sacrifice
for each other form a union far greater than the sum of its parts.
Sadly, this great gift for humanity is lost on those who view marriage as a
tool for the "domination of the patriarchy." It is further obscured by those
who doom their efforts through poor choices. Too many women today enter
marriage with the thought of "fixing" their new husbands, while men tend to
believe that just showing up will be sufficient to make things work.
So what does make the successful marriage? It is a combination of two people
with similar values, goals, and desires in life. They must have a
willingness to work together and generally accept who the other person is
from the start. They also understand that a marriage takes effort to
maintain, but the compromises and sacrifices made out of love for one
another will create a bond far more beautiful and durable than anything we
can achieve as individuals.
13th-May-2006
