Why I rarely like men's rights activists

By Mike on February 1, 2009 6:21 PM | 4 Comments | No TrackBacks

"I posted the following comment on Dr. Helen's blog, and several of the MRAs went after it:

To some extent, a woman who has spent her time as a homemaker is actually entitled to her husband's earnings because she has sacrificed hers to enable his career. She's the one who takes away the burden of caring for the kids during the day, cleaning the house, stocking the fridge, cooking, etc. So the sense of entitlement is not entirely without cause if the woman is a genuine homemaker.

I personally don't have much respect for the sort of man who loses his job and then spends his time trying to get a similar, good job while not working. Why didn't the man go take 1 or 2 hourly wage jobs while looking for a good salaried position? He's still got bills to pay, and his homemaker wife doesn't exactly have a whole lot of earning potential.

The following is an example of the response that I got, with my own response sort of mixed in there:

If you, as a man, let a woman assume the position of housewife, you're just going to be wide open for crap like Mike T is spouting.

Depends on the type of woman you marry. As a Christian, I have access to a better dating culture than most MRAs.

If you don't have small children at home, a "homemaker" is simply a parasite. I wouldn't touch one with a ten-foot pole.

There is no such thing as a childless homemaker, aside from women who stayed at how to take care of things until their kids went to college.

But if you absolutely want to be able to brag that you're such a good breadwinner that you easily support a sit-at-home, then go to it. Make sure you can also support her for the rest of your life (including alimony in the case of a divorce). If you want such slavery only for outer appearances to others ("I'm such a high-earning and swell guy that I can support a leech") then you deserve what you get.

My wife isn't the sort of lazy, good-for-nothing that you've obviously known most of your life. Neither are the women in her family.

Mike T: A 100 years ago, women who stayed at home probably had a full day of work. Things have changed. Your willingness to absolutely ignore that fact is odd. Or do you think that you have to stick up for women, just because? ...."

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