Cycle of abuse can be broken
Mon, September 22, 2008
2008-09-22 03:49:00 MST
By SANDRA SMITH
Sandra Smith left male victims of domestic violence totally invisible as usual and repeatedly referred to the victims only as "women" in her article “Cycle of Abuse Can be Broken” (9/22). I’m sure she would say “men and women” when referring to soldiers or firefighters, who are 90% male. Why not domestic violence victims?
I work with men who have been stabbed, cut with glass and had their teeth knocked out with objects by female partners. They and their children deserve the same dignity, attention, services and outreach as female victims. But instead they’re ignored, stigmatized, downplayed and told they’re oddball class.
In truth, they’re not rare at all. They’re just hidden, because they’re less likely than women to report it. In fact, the Canadian government recently issued a report called “Intimate Partner Violence against Men” showing that women initiate domestic violence as often as men do, even if they cause less physical damage on average. See http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/ncfv-cnivf/familyviolence/pdfs/Intimate_Partner.pdf
Although crime data is unreliable, virtually all sociological survey data shows women initiate domestic violence at least as often as men, that men suffer one-third of physical injuries and that self-defense does not explain away this violence, as California State University Professor Martin Fiebert demonstrates in his online bibliography at www.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm.
For example, a recent 32-nation study by the University of New Hampshire, which included Canada, found women are as violent and controlling as men in relationships worldwide. The University’s news release is available at http://www.unh.edu/news/cj_nr/2006/may/em_060519male.cfm?type=n and the study itself is at http://pubpages.unh.edu/~mas2/ID41E2.pdf
When male victims don't get help, both they and their children suffer. We can't end this cycle by ignoring half or any amount of it. That's why a global coalition of concerned experts, including Professor Don Dutton of the University of British Columbia, has formed to combat this bias. Their website is at www.nfvlrc.org/.
well so much for antmisandry--i thought this story by the calgary newspaper would draw attention and raise eyebrows,but i think we know where thats all goin'.
my last post.