I have been thinking for a while about how to express my growing ideology about gender politics and my philosophy about gender. We are all blood brothers and sisters. I would like for you to read that a hundred times and repeat it that many more times. This is what we are. We share in each others triumphs, love, hatred, and failures. We are destined to live passionate lives with the other sex, no matter what the emotion felt is. This is fact, whether you like it or not.
There was a period of time when we actually didn't have these silly notions of a battle of the sexes. Both sexes were stuck in roles, however which continues to taint how both sexes interact in an age of fluid gender roles. The current predicament has more and more people avoiding the opposite sex like the plague, which is not good for a healthy society to flourish.
All of our lives we ask ourselves is this really what's meant for us,
take a cold hard look at yourself, it takes heart to face your reality.
Am I the only one who sees the reality? We all want to love and have another person(or people) in our lives and we aren't really programmed to hate one another by default. Personally, I am incapable of hate(I don't even hate my husband's parents for disowning him), and I am incapable of despising people just because of their ideology, I might passionately disagree with it, but I certainly won't hate you for it.
There are those who I feel are unable to acknowledge that others can suffer from problems as much as they can, regrettably this attitude must be corrected, it is not all about your specific demographic, it is about PEOPLE who could have very different experiences than you. Perhaps that man did really experience that and isn't making it up and perhaps that lesbian did suffer that discrimination. It is ok to admit that people don't fit preconceived boxes that people want to put them in. That is the start of bigotry, is trying to force people into boxes, it doesn't work that way.
I would love for a world where men and women can be happy and live harmonious lives with each other and be more than blood brothers and sisters and be human beings rather than a nebulous and ultimately futile label of of man and woman(gender is a much more complicated concept than what parts you're born with). I appreciate how people express themselves, and I enjoy others' cultures(sub-cultures too). I scream about all kinds of double standards that men and women face.
The real problem is that it seems that people are afraid to break stereotypes which leads to all kinds of problems and I will continue to maintain that whether others like it or not. Obviously, I am not going to make friends by calling for others to accept their own responsibility and own up for their problems. I am fine with that. I do not blog to make friends, I blog to tell people how I feel about sexism and other human rights problems. Do I expect others to feel the same way? No. I do not. Everyone is allowed their opinion, and I have the right to make an opinion on others' statements. There were several factors that led to me dropping the ifeminist label and MRA label, for one I feel both labels are in fact loaded labels that can have nasty implications and for another I am a unique snowflake in the blogosphere because I agree with some feminist ideas and I do agree with some MRA ideas and I happen to have all kinds of ideas of my own. Labels are useful and dangerous tools.
Which all this leads back to my original opinion that we are not even close to the harmonious species I think we could and should be, we have the ability to reason for a reason. I do not think every thing is peaches and cream or it ever will be, but I do think that people can alleviate most of the problems affecting both sexes and at least live better and more balanced lives. Until then we are blood brothers and sisters screaming for the other's blood. Does my metaphor anger you? It should. I'm angered form this metaphor and truth. I'm tired of all the blaming, it is not one sex's fault that we all suffer problems. Think about it.
I will leave you with one last thought: To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead.-Bertrand Russell, Marriage and Morals (1929) ch. 19