Gender politics - a policy of equality or tolerance?
What is the difference between equality and tolerance?
Do we really believe in equality? One man, one vote, equality before the law…but that’s about it. Try telling people they should all have an equal wage – or be in equal size.
No, we tolerate such differences – within reason, less in Europe, more in the US.
Do we really want gender rights equality? Do people really want gays lesbians, etc (LGBT) to have equal rights to hetrosexuals? Has this ever been put to a vote?
Do people really want to allow gays to be married, and adopt children? Do people want their kids to be taught in schools – to which parents cannot object – that being gay is perfectly acceptable and that gays should be allowed to adopt? Has a referendum been held on the issue?
We hear so much about bisexuals, trisexuals demisexuals and god knows that else on this forum, that any new hetro man might well wonder where all the “normal” men have gone. Its like its almost a sin or social shame to stand up and say I am a hetro and I like women.
As a hetro for some reason I feel a lot under pressure – its as though its wrong to be a hetro, but for me being hetro is ultra cool. It is not boring, nor bland – indeed there are no end of variety of fun things we can do.
So where does this leave sexual minorities? In my short time on this forum (3-4 months?), I have seen a steady stream of a variety of (male) genders appear as our members. When such people appear as refugees from feminists you know this is a good sign as the feminist show how intolerant they are.
And that is the key word for me - TOLERANCE. I have no problem with gays, bi’s, etc. They have always been around and always will. They often add a bit of colour, cosmopolitanism, and sometimes even have the best damh clubs in town.
But that is where I draw the line. They have freedom of speech, just like anyone else, but need to remember they are a minority and have MINORITY RIGHTS and not equality. I do not believe that gays should be allowed to openly and legally adopt.
Now, we all know two guys, “uncles”, “aunts”, “sisters” etc living together and its often quite clear what is going on. Good luck to them. What they do behind their closed door is their private affair, ifs its between consenting adults. If it ends up they have a child, well, it can be a policy of “don’t ask don’t tell”.
A policy of tolerance is a noble one. A policy of equality is a dangerous one. How far does equality go? The answer is all the way. Are equal rights to extend to same sex marriage in church – yes this is what they are pressing for in the UK now, and journalists are asking when the first catholic priest will end up before a judge. Equality means they are equal to hetros to adopt. Whose rights are to be dominate – the right to religion or the right to sexual expression.
“So what’s wrong with that” you may well ask.
For me, while not being a practicing christain (bordering on agnostic), I do believe that he basis of society and life is a man and a woman. Full stop. Once we allow open same sex marriages with kids, we in effect abolish the family. Why? Well, if same sex “families” are openly accepted because they “provide the right level of love and care”, then what is to stop other “institutions” appearing and claiming they offer better levels of love and care. After all, we all know – as psychologists non-stop tell us, how destructive the family is – it is a logical step to allow psychologists to redesign the family (and one or two psychologists on this forum are doing exactly that), or better still, allow other institutions to play a role and recent history offers horrible examples of social experimentation. In today’s world, maybe corporations would like to get in on the game. Maybe corporations/businesses can offer a better and safer solution? After all, corporations have succeeded elsewhere and conquered the world.
No, for me, I draw the line at a man and a woman. Equal rights, no way, tolerance, definitely. And I don’t care if to say such a thing is politically incorrect – indeed I am sure many of you are reading this and holding your breath – this shows how far we have degenerated. Even if I was in a minority of one I would uphold my view, for it is not popularity I am seeking, but to uphold fundamental VALUES, and in todays world that seems very unpopular.
I really do fail to understand why we are so quick to attack, undermine, subvert, ridicule and destroy institutions that have served us well. We are rushing headlong into the unknown because it has been made trendy to attack anything traditional. And what has been the result? Broken families, skyhigh welfare bills? Are we really better off than say 100 years ago?
For all the armies of psychologists, we have degenerated to new lows. I have returned to my native Britain after 20 years as an expat and I see a wasteland.
I am left asking, what if psychologists aren’t part of the answer, what if they are part of the problem?
Indeed some psychologist no doubt do good work – but one just has to look at family courts and the role of psychologists there – that to a great degrees shows their true face. And the history of psychologists in the USA is one of social control.