For sometime i have been banned from a job centre, because i wouldn't tollerate the FEMINIST'S amongst them.When i was due to sign on recently, the person who phoned me from the Job Centre started asking questions, have i been looking for work, well i have a job lined up, i'm waiting for my CRB, i replied, the person didn't beleive me" i got pissed of and put the phone down.The following Monday i spoke to the manager, i explained my position and took in what he said about looking for work in the interim time while my CRB check is being done.On Wednesday my JSA was stopped to my surprise, they said a decision was to be made, with regards my JSA payment.This has been going for nearly a month.During this time my prospectiv employer has phoned up the Job Centre and explained that i'am waiting for my CRB and that she can garantee that i have a job".This has made no difference, my JSA stopped, housing benefit stopped, council tax benefit stopped.
As i have been quite stressed" a visit to the doctors signed me of from signing on.So i claimed incapacity benefit, which i got yesterday, three weeks after making a claim.
But yesterday to my surprise, i spoke to a lady who has told me that a enquiry will now be taking place, during the conversation i told her that i had phoned other job centres, and they told me, that my benefit should not of been stopped.
Today i got a application form for another job, all the envelope contained was an application form and no address to send it back to.This country is in a right mess!!!
Just been reading a article By Amanda Platell, it's quite interesting".
A new book by a woman is causing a storm in america by saying society is biased AGAINST towards men.Ridiculous? Hardly, says Amanda Platell, it's about time someone dared say it.American author kathleen Parker's courageous thesis is that initialy, through extreme feminism, then via its craven implemention into society, women have demonised men and trivialised their contribution, especially to family life.
I say courageous because, in the eyes of many women and of the liberal establishment, suggesting men have had a rough deal is nothing short of heresy.
Parker should be burnt at the stake, they cry.But isn't it ironic that only a woman could make such a plea for men?She argues:'As long as men feel marginalised by the women whose favour and approval they seek, as long as they are alienated from their children and treated as criminals by family courts, as long as they are disrespected by a culture that no longer values masculinity tied to honour, as long as boys are bereft of strong fathers and our young men and women wage sexual war, then we risk cultural suicide.'
It's enough to set a feminist's hair on end.Parker argues that in trying to make the world fairer for women, an adjustment most agree was vital, we have made it unfair for men.In our attempt to honour women, we have dishonoure men.
By bending over backwards to make single mothers feel good about themselves, by diminishing the role of fathers, by elevating women as the superior parents, we have gone a considerable way to destroying one of the basic tenets of a succesful society-family life.
Apart from the effects of this seismic shift on society, it is also grosly unfair.Can you imagine a world where men demanded women to be more like them-dress like them, even look like them.Because that is effectively what our post-feminist society has done, but with the genders switched.
The traditional male values, what Parker almost poetically calls 'mascuuulinity tied to honour', are now seen as nothing more than a direct assualt on women.
Unless men are like us, the thinking goes, they insult us and threaten our existence: hence the feminisation of men, or as we so disisgeniously describe it, getting in touch with your feminine side.Thus Hybrid Man was born.An acceptable male model now is more likely to be of the David Beckham variety, wearing more make-up than the missus, hairless, perfumed, varnished, emasculated by his bossy wife and perhaps fond of wearing her knickers.
Good dads, loving husbands, supportive male role models, they're few and far between even in the fictional world of TV.
But in the real world it wasn't enough that we demanded they be more like us, we superior human beings.We had to traduce men as well, treting them in almost all forms of popular cultare as useless, ineffectual, even comic characters, or as violent, cheating and untrustworthy.
And so Sitcom Man was born.Parker challenges us to try to think of a wholesome, reliable role model in myriad 'dads' created on TV or in movies.Fathers are always portrayed as incompetent or inconsequential, mindless or mean, comic or cruel.If you relentlessly portrayed any ethnic or minority group in such a biased way, you'd be pilloried on air.
Parker cites many resons for the dereliction of men.First, there has been the institutionalisation of motherhood at the exspense of fatherhood.
'We seem to accept that children shouldn't be raised without mothers, but we regard the contributions of fathers as optional,'Parker says.
just last week, Nicola Brewer, the chief executive of the Equality and Human rights Commision, said;'Fathers are being marginalised to the extent of simply "seasoning" in their children's upbringing.' And the state reinforces the 'Mum best, Dad doggy' myth.' The family courts effectively make father a slave to the state, his wages become state property, his wages become state property, his time with his children is determined by a family court judge, and he faces jail if for whatever reason he fails to pay his child support on time.'
In an increasingly hostile world, we need our men and we'll need them to be men, to display unashamedly the sheer physical strength and courage that even after a century of feminist intervention still dwarfs women's.
'In the coming tears, we will need men who are not confused about their responsibilities to family and country.
We need boys who have acquired the virtues of honour, courage, valour and loyalty.We need women willing to let men-and boys be boys.'
And we will need women like Kathleen Parker with the courage to fight for men." Saving the males, she argues, will also save women and children as we all 'stand to benefit from a society in which men feel respected and thus responsible'.By enraging men's nobility and recognising their unique talents,
Updated 29th-July-2008 at 09:44 PM by genisis
I have read many very well written texts on how and when the current anti-male sentiments began.
Many of them make excellent sense. Some of them are a bit over my head, so I have trouble following them. Okay, I'm just an old country boy with an odd history, so I don't worry too much about the ones I couldn't understand. Others did and that's all that counts.
However, today I had an odd thought.
When will it end? When will the anti-male attacks stop? HOW will they stop?
What does it take to make the government see that what they are doing is destroying the future of Humanity?
One on one I have had excellent progress explaining my views to various women and men. I have been rather surprised on numerous occasions at how receptive most women are to our plight.
Sometimes I am perplexed by the attitudes of my fellow men. Some of them seem rather dismissal of the whole problem.
I know it's either because they are fooled by the media into thinking like the Feminists want, or they just haven't been hit upside the head with the problem, yet.
I just began to wonder when and under what conditions the anti-male poison was going to come to an end.
Rhetoric pendulums between effective and non-effective.
Violence seems to be the only thing that has long term effects. But often it hurts those men who are still asleep the most, because they aren't prepared for the media backlash like we try to be.
Pouring money into programs for men and media campaigns doesn't seem to be working well enough. I hope I am wrong about that. But it often seems like throwing money down a deep well. You can't even hear it hit the water.
Would something BIG and LOUD with LOTS of media attention do the trick?
WHAT could possibly qualify to do that? And still not cause excessive backlash afterward?
How soon before it will be too late?
Some women do not like Feminism.
Yeah. That came as a surprise to me as well.
I have several examples but the most recent and the oddest is this.
I know some of you will have a problem with this but I belong to a Wiccan coven.
And before you go judging it you should research it fully. It's NOT what popular movies and media make it out to be.
In fact, many of the higher people in Wicca are men.
Recently a woman joined our group and began spouting anti male rhetoric. I got justifiably upset and asked if this is how everyone in the group felt about men and was I even in the right group. I even brought up the differences between misogyny and misandry. I was quite vocal and eloquent if I may brag on myself.
Several women (including the woman in charge of the group) said, no that is NOT how they feel about men. That the Universe should be balanced and that includes a balance between men and women.
THEN the woman was immediately ejected from the group.
I even had several women thank me for saying something. They felt uncomfortable saying anything to this person.
So it would appear that some (dare I say many?) women do not like Feminism.
What does this mean for the future? I can't be sure. I just thought it was an interesting event that needed reporting.
By Denise Noe
113-year-old Kaku Yamanaka, the oldest person in Japan recently died. For those unfamiliar with Japanese names, Kaku was a woman. Japan boasts of long average life spans with the average age at death being 85.81 years old for women and 79 years old for men.
That Japanese women tend to outlive their men for a full six years is a point to give one pause. Japan is frequently thought of as one of the world’s most deeply “patriarchal” societies. It is a society in which, until fairly recently, women were expected to walk behind their husbands. They were expected to wash their husbands’ feet and scrupulously obey them. (To what extent this is still the case I do not know.)
Yet Japanese women live a good many years after men. Why?
It seems to me that this points to several things. One is that, as is of necessity true everywhere in the world, those jobs in Japan that require the most physical strength and are the most physically dangerous, are usually filled by men.
It also indicates that male dominance is often a cover for greater male responsibility. Men in Japan bear the burden of financial support and this burden may lead them into a life that is seriously unbalanced and leaves them little time for the joys of the families that they are supporting. Phyllis Schlafly once observed that most husbands are easier to please than most bosses. The relative life expectancies of men and women in Japan appears to shore up that point.
There is a current trend toward more stay-at-home-moms. An article in a 2003 issue of Jet commented, “According to a recently released census report from the U.S. Census Bureau last year, nearly 11 million children under age 15 are raised by a full-time stay-at-home mom, a 13 percent increase from less than a decade ago.”
Most articles and programs about this phenomenon center around the importance of respecting women’s choices and why more women are making the choice for fulltime homemaking. A segment of 60 Minutes was typical in interviewing group of well-educated former career women who decided to stay home fulltime after their babies were born. The program also featured a woman who objected to this choice because she thought it was bad for women as a group.
Men are usually left out of this discussion altogether even though they make it possible for mothers to quit the labor market. The 60 Minutes segment was typical in not interviewing or even showing a single husband.
Yet the impact on a man of having a wife who stays home with the baby can be enormous. It means that he becomes the only source of income at the same time that the family’s expenses have gone up.
An irony of the position of American men is that they are widely assumed to be the dominant sex yet are in crucial areas supposed to submit to women’s preferences and, in the case of SAHMs, enable those preferences without complaint. Just as men who wanted their wives to be fulltime homemakers a generation or two ago were blasted as chauvinists, today men who do not want to shoulder the entire economic load are criticized as slackers.
Some men object to supporting stay-at-home-moms. Awhile ago, Dear Abby published a letter from a woman who had just had a baby and wished to stay home but whose husband strongly wanted her to cont inue working outside the home. That man is not alone. Dr. Laura Schlessinger, an advocate of stay-at-home parenting, has written that mothers have asked her what to do about “husbands who threaten divorce if they stay at home to raise their children.” Dr. Laura condemns men who have such sentiments, saying they “are used to material possessions and diminished responsibility for the family.”
The objections some men have to a sole breadwinner role are not without merit. Being sole breadwinners can put enormous pressure on men. At the lower economic levels, a breadwinning father may accept physically dangerous jobs because they pay more. At the upper echelons, being sole provider may lead a man to cut ethical or even legal corners to make more money for his family. Being sole breadwinners also frequently means that men at any economic strata must spend extra time at work, diminishing their emotional influence on the children for whom they are worki ng. It can leads to great stress and the illnesses that can result. Finally, in our fast-paced and ever-changing economy, it is only too easy for a one-paycheck family to become a no-paycheck family. Tension can hover over a sole breadwinner afraid for the security of his job. That security may crash down on the entire family if he loses it.
There is nothing wrong with the trend toward more full-time homemakers and much that is right with it. However, any discussion of this trend must recognize that this is not solely a women’s choice since it must be made possible by men and consider the effects, both psychological and physical, that stay-at-home-motherhood has on the men who foot the bill for it.
By Denise Noe
Think of a bum and what comes to mind? Someone in ragged clothes, shuffling around. Someone who doesn’t work and probably for reasons that are blameworthy. Think of a wino and a similar image comes to mind only with a bottle these time and perhaps reeling around.
In both cases, the image these pejorative terms conjure up is inevitably male.
Sometime in the 1970s and 1980s, the bums and winos of our society became known as “the homeless.” Why? Warren Farrell in The Myth of Male Power pointed out the probable reason: because they were joined by an appreciable number of women when the mental hospitals went through “de-institutionalization.”
Interestingly, female homeless are called “bag ladies.” The last word of the two-part term seems like an attempt to soften it by giving them the status of “ladies.” The first part of the term refers to the places where these homeless keep their belonging s. Taken as a whole, “bag lady” has none of the disgust attached to the words traditionally associated with men who sink to the economic bottom.
Even with the growth of female homeless, 85% of those in this category are men. If those figures were reversed and the majority of those sleeping on the streets or on park benches were women, would society as a whole be more determined to address this problem?
Because AM was off-line I spent a little time over in GWS yesterday. I just wanted to show you something. This answer got 12 thumbs up (2 down). Question was posted by Rio : "Do you wear a label of any kind?" (Talking about feminism): My answer: Rio ,
I gave this answer to another question but feel it applies here as well:
I've been doing some serious researching about men's issues, and the reasons behind the emergence of the MRA movement. It hasn't been easy. Came up against a lot of very angry people. And like the feminism movement, there are a few bad apples in the bunch. It took a lot for me to ignore those bad apples (because instinctively I all I wanted to do was defend against their offensiveness.) But thankfully there were many who had the patience to show me what the underlying issues of the men's movement really are. I credit my psychology professor, as well, for giving me a balanced, scholarly approach to these issues. I'm beginning to see just how ignored men's issues really are in today's society. Do I blame feminism? No. But I think it's going to take women AND men understanding the issues (gaining awareness), and uniting with each other to effect changes.
The problem with modern feminism is that it's interests lie only with women, and unfortunately, that leaves about half of the population out in the cold. These aren't the days where we can't vote, can't go to school, can't get access to birth control, can't get jobs. (At least not here in the US ). In this country, feminism has accomplished great things for women. And I for one am grateful to the people that came before me that fought so hard for these rights that we all enjoy. Feminism, however, is not without it's flaws. The biggest flaw being that men have rights, issues, and concerns that need attention, and there's no one out there who's hearing the call. Is this altogether feminism's fault? No. But one cannot deny that the interests of boys and men are not feminists' domain. Until we unite the sexes and fight together for HUMAN rights, there will continue to be conflict about feminism today and into the future. In my psychology and sociology classes I am finding out that white males are new targets of prejudice in the media. Why? Because it's not politically correct to target women or minorities. What's left? Boys are lagging behind now in school. We've worked so hard to give girls a better education and should be proud of our success. But what about the fact that boys are dropping out at record rates, using drugs, going to jail, committing suicide? And what about affirmative action quotas which are taking jobs away from qualified males and causing reverse discrimination, increasing prejudice against women? Feminism isn't flawless. We've achieved much in this century, particularly here in the US . I think it's time to shift the focus to other areas that need it. Is it right that men get heavier jail sentences than women for crimes like murder? Is it right that society views men as dispensable when it comes to child custody hearings? Is it right that men get penalized for being breadwinners (being away from home supporting their families) when it comes to figuring out who gets custody of the kids? Is it right that the courts almost always side with mothers regardless of the situation?
Is it right that people who make false rape allegations are not held accountable in most cases? Is it right that almost zero resources are available to men who are victims of domestic violence? Is it right that there's a harmful myth in our society that men can't be as good at nurturing children as mothers can be? Is it right that men who apply for teaching positions in early childhood education or daycare provider positions are looked at with suspicion and are often not hired? Is it right that more funding goes to women's medical issues (like breast cancer) when men are dying in large numbers from prostate cancer?
Should we continue to ignore the concerns of men?
What we see in this forum are angry men, yes. Some sad men too. And some women who see that feminism in and of itself is not protecting or promoting equal rights for all. If it were, we'd be fighting just as hard for the rights of men and boys as we are for girls and women.
If I'm going to take a label, I'm going to take two labels: feminist and masculist. Never again am I going to see the world through only one perspective. We're all in this together. Human rights are important to me. It's taken me awhile to realize that men have issues, too. And they are no less important than women's issues. So either I will embrace both labels, or no label at all. I can honestly say I am truly an equalist.
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I have been trying to get back into social care for sometime, due to working with vunerable adults and children, i have to have a enhanced criminal records disclosure.I have waited nearly three months and received my disclosure last week.To my surprise the Police have written on the Modus Operandi that i should not work with and/or coach children due to my Police record showing that i have a speeding record and resisting arrest.
As you can imagine i'm quite pissed of, i have never had anybody say that i can't work with kids or adults for a motoring conviction.Yesterday i spoke to a Solicitor, he told me my criminal record has got nothing to do with social care, i' am no threat and he has never ever heard of anything like this in his life.
I beleive that West Mercia Police are breaking my human rights and i will not rest till this remark is removed from my record.
In the last few weeks i have heard of imigrants comming into the country who are convicted murderers and have had know Police checks.One paper has said that these imigrants who have come to work in social care have know information provided by the countries they come from, because there Police where pleased to see them go.So they get into employment quicker than i can, even though i'm being honest with prospectiv employers.
Throughout my ordeals in FEMINAZI HEREFORD and reporting issues to the Police, i personally think that the Police are trying to stop me getting back into employment, this is the way Hereford Police at getting back at me, for not giving into the FEMINAZIS ways!!!
Updated 22nd-April-2008 at 10:31 PM by genisis
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First of all, find the LINKS icon in the main navigation menu at the top of every page.
Once you've done this, find the most pertinent section for the link you would like, in this example we will use 'good books', found under "BOOKS" and then "GOOD"
Now click "SUBMIT LINK".
And then copy (CTRL+C) the URL of the book's web address where it can be purchased. In this example, it can be purchased from Amazon bookstore.
Now paste (CTRL+V) the book's URL address into the "URL" input field/box, ensure the Category is correct (e.g. Books/Good) and then click "SUBMIT"
Finally, where it asks for the 'name of the web site...' enter the books TITLE, to help make it easier for people who are looking for it (and search engines, helping the rankings of book increase when named correctly). Add some information in the DESCRIPTION field to help explain briefly about the book, the author and so on. If possible, you can include standard forum codes to place images using the [img]http://image-address.com/file/name.jpg[/img]
Finish this entry by clicking SUBMIT.
The end result of this particular entry can be located here and don't forget, the links CAN be discussed DIRECTLY within the link, no need to start a seperate thread each time. Just click the standard 'post reply' found at the bottom of every link.
Updated 18th-September-2008 at 07:35 PM by Marx