My Parents’ failed experiment in Gender Neutrality http://www.newsweek.com/id/235300?gt1=43002 Courtesy Jesse Ellison The author, in her overalls, with her cousins in Maine My Name Is Jesse But I am not a boy. Inside my parents' failed experiment with gender neutrality. By Jesse Ellison | Newsweek Web Exclusive Mar 23, 2010 When I was 2 years old, my father started building a big house behind our tiny starter house. For days leading up to the arrival of the giant trucks and backhoes coming to dig out the foundation, my mother tried to get me excited. "Don't you want to watch the big trucks?!" she'd tease. When they finally arrived, the neighborhood boys parked themselves on our property, transfixed. I glanced out the window and immediately turned back to my toys, ignoring the commotion. As my mother recalls, "It was really a wake-up for me." This now-infamous family anecdote wasn't the first time my parents tried to shake off gender stereotypes. As a toddler, they dressed me in overalls and cut my hair in an androgynous bowl cut. I didn't have Barbies; I had wooden blocks. Even my first name is evidence of their experiment in gender neutrality. You can't imagine how many times I've had to explain, "No, not Jessica, just Jesse. Like a boy." In 1978, the year I was born, feminists like my mother were embracing the notion that gender roles were entirely rooted in the way that you were raised. In the 1970s, the feminist fringe was giving up bras, shaving, and diets; they were lighting their own cigarettes and opening their own doors. It was the "new feminism," and where the first movement was concerned with legal equality, like the right to vote, these women were focused on de facto equality: asserting that it was nurture, not nature, that made women and men different. To bust out of gender oppression also meant to assert that there was absolutely nothing
By Denise Noe
In a column published in the Atlanta Journal-Constitution looking back on the feminist movement that broke in the early 1970s, Ellen Goodman stated that women make 77 cents to every dollar earned by men. This figure was stated as if it were an automatic indication of either employers’ discrimination against women or a more overall societal tendency to oppress women by limiting their workplace opportunities and therefore their pay.
One of the reasons the above assumptions are false was thrown into sharp relief by a conversation I had with a man shortly after reading Goodman’s column. This man had been working on a job cleaning windows and was on a ladder when he had an accident that took his foot off. Luckily, doctors were able to reattach his foot but he was left disabled.
A major reason for the 23 cent gap in average pay for men and women is that the most physically dangerous jobs require more physical strength than the vast majority of women possess. People, regardless of gender, tend receive higher pay for work that puts life and limb in jeopardy. According to US Department of Labor statistics for 2006, 54% of workers were men and 46% women while 92% of those killed on the job were men and only 8% women. The 23-cent gap between men’s and women’s incomes is to a large extent a reflection of the workplace death gap.
Another reason for the gender wage gap is that women are more likely to move in and out of the labor market than men. That women spend more time out of the paid workforce than men does not necessarily indicate oppression by tyrannical male chauvinist pigs but can reflect the greater freedom we have to devote time to homemaking and/or child care and the generosity and caring of the men who take on the sole breadwinner role in order to allow us that freedom. Indeed, men often take dangerous jobs so they can adequately support the women and children in their lives.
Any nong can work out that to put a spade in the ground requires violence. Not so many can see that to solve a problem to 'penetrate' a problem also violates the status quo. Industry and farming are necessarily violent activities, and so is science a violent activity because it requires problem solving penetration. The male mind is a problem solving mind.
The feminine mind is not a problem solving device - it seeks equality but it can't figure out what the problem is. It wants pleasure and it cannot stand pain. Like hot and cold - men move on and women don't - their argument is not with the universe but with men. They remain utterly dependant on men,despite all the liberations, yet claim to be free. They claim to be free by displaying their sexuality..... yet underneath it is nothing - no abandonment of self to the great soul of the universe (whatever that is) women never abandon themselves because it would be unsafe. Women hang on to life no matter what. Without children, it becomes a matter of deception... because the scientists, the adventurers, the universe explorers record no women. When death is probable in the face of discovery, women choose life every time. Women will kill the world with comfort as the fires of movement ravage everything from climate change to cougars. Everything feminism has had to say from the beginning of time ..... concerns sex.... and it will never change. Women do not exist in the creative world except as a reaction to men. All feminine thinking sinks humankind into acceptance and defeat. No woman has ever solved a problem because they are programmed to ignore problems. Women believe that men violate the universe, and they know that they are right, and they will always submit to the universe, even in death.
Stay alive man, even in this lowest point. Do not submit to the lipstick, the charade, the lie. - investigate instead why your lips are pale. Look at death and rail against it. Civilization has been built by men.
Misandry = hatred of males: bred from the feminist sexual revolution which also amplified lesbians. Feminists always advocating for the downtrodden, disadvantaged, less able female, are quick to shout “male violence” (diatribe). It is time to examine how our young females are acting: the link below is to an ABC News story. U tube abounds with video of young females perpetrating violence and Mothers caught abusing children. Not all females are the same, most certainly not all women who give birth (for that matter those who get pregnant and avoid live birth) are the same. What are we teaching our children: abcnews.go.com/WN/seattle-girl-beating-victim-expected-security-guards-protect/story This piece reposted across America through the Momslikeme dot com network - RVE
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/01/100126091733.htm?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium= feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+sciencedaily+(ScienceDai ly%3A+Latest+Science+News)&utm_content=Google+Read er Synapsis: ScienceDaily (Jan. 31, 2010) — Boys face high rates of a variety of mental health issues, in addition to lagging behind girls in academic performance and college attendance, according to two new papers by University of Alaska Fairbanks researcher Judith Kleinfeld. The studies, recently published in the journal Gender Issues, note that boys have higher rates of suicide, conduct disorders, emotional disturbance, premature death and juvenile delinquency than their female peers, as well as lower grades, test scores and college attendance rates. Take a read through the studies (albeit from the same person) and let's hear your thoughts. And what do you think we can do to help support our boys and close the gender gap? Originally posted Posted by snookums on Jan 31, 2010 at 08:28 PM At Lansing Momslikeme http://lansing.momslikeme.com/members/JournalActions.aspx?m=10005549&grpcat=Education+%2 6+Development&g=446306 This has been reposted across America through the Momslikeme dot com network - RVE
In spite of the current state of affairs the unpleasant stench of romance, courtship, chivalry, and marriage, which only requires obligations of men to women, are shoved down our throats on a daily basis. Well, if we’re going to hear about marriage it’s only fair that we hear about the possibility of divorce and all of the implications surrounding it. It’s no secret that women often marry men with more money or at least money is a huge priority in many relationships. With all of the providing of gifts, shelter, food, and even programs men pay for it can be argued that money is a huge priority amongst women regardless of being in an actual relationship, which is why an ex wife will gladly be single with your alimony payments. It is rare, however, that women marry those men less capable of providing for them but when it does occur (often during a marriage – e.g. recession) negative consequences are involved for the man. Now before some of these high and mighty princess malibus get on their soap box and tell me how sexist I am, I will point out that women also claim that men marry for beauty. For constructive purposes, let us make a comparison between a beautiful woman and a financially stable man. Inspired by poster on a forum but I have to refind the post: From an economic standpoint a beautiful woman is a depreciating asset and a financially stable man is an improving asset. It is very likely that a rich man will accumulate more wealth but a beautiful woman will not become more beautiful and if anything she will become less beautiful. She’d be lucky to be remotely attractive when she’s 35 but when he’s 35 he’d likely be wealthier. To those that take offense and jump on the female humping bandwagon keep in mind that if his money were to leave so would she. Therefore, a man needs a way out when her beauty leaves her. It is only fair, right? Plus, in the event of a divorce, she not only gets a way out
It’s one of the most annoying phrases known to mankind and yet it doesn’t deter people from using it. Due to the frequency and intent of those that use this phrase it is also becoming one of the most dreaded 4 words to hear, and no, I’m not referring to “the baby isn’t yours”. Okay, admittedly, that might be a bit scarier to hear from one’s spouse but this is a distant 2nd. These words are “I’m not like that” and if you guessed it from reading the title then consider yourself smarter than the average bear, Yogi (the average intention span of humans is 3 words that’s why Obama’s slogan was “yes we can”). However irrelevant, redundant, and unnecessary these words are they frequently come up in gender discussions. These are some of the reasons why “I’m not like that” is stupid to say in a gender related discussion. 1. You are not the center of the universe – I know for those of you that use this slogan this might be a bit startling but you are not the center of the universe. There is an entire would outside of you, observe it. 2. Doesn’t change the facts - You, “not being like that” is usually of no relevance to the topic at hand nor does it invalidate the claims made. If you’re a man saying these things in gender related topics, stop! You are only validating the claims made against men by doing so. If you are a woman saying “I’m not like that” it is no indication that you aren’t like that nor does it address those women that are like that. I mean, what does it matter that you aren’t like that? Do you realize how often innocent men have gone to prison for false charges of abuse or rape? They weren’t “like that” but it didn’t change the fact that they suffered. 3. We hear it all the time – I know that you think that when you say it, it
Updated 28th-January-2010 at 01:28 AM by Popadibs
I’ve heard it said that “destruction can be beautiful” and behold, the genius that said this was on to something. Feminism, in all of its ugly ways, possesses hidden beauty, like the eye of a shit storm. First of all, here are a few general problems I have with feminism: 1. It’s insistence that only males are the cause of all the problems in the world. 2. It’s hateful language and attitudes towards boys and men 3. It’s lobbying to get laws passed that hurt men (with men’s tax money) 4. It’s insistence that women are and always have been oppressed while simultaneously dismissing the harsh conditions in which males have survived in. 5. It accepts no personal guilt for any damage it causes 6. Inconsistencies (e.g. men aren’t necessary but men MUST stop rape, domestic violence, or a plethora of issues); if men aren’t necessary then we wouldn’t be needed to stop these issues 7. It’s lies (e.g. glass ceiling) Due to the destruction that feminism has helped to bring to the family with the assistance of the court system and the state, more people, especially men, have become aware of the issues surrounding their lives. As a result, a growing portion of men stand for more noble causes than appeasing women at the expense of other men in order to gain approval from women. These men make up the men’s rights movement or at the very least are men going their own way. The true beauty of feminism is that in all of its ugliness, it reveals its true nature, and the more that that nature is revealed the less work will be required of us to prove our cause (but there is still work to be done). The damage that feminism has done and will continue to do has
Updated 28th-January-2010 at 01:31 AM by Popadibs
(reposted as blog per request)
When one begins to realize the significance of the roles certain groups and individuals, laws, and factors play in his life the experience can become eye awakening.
It is essential that we unite for a common cause but in order to do so there are key elements that must be identified. We must identify: Men's issues - there are various issues affecting men listed thru out the forum but perhaps 1 place listing them all in a list with examples and documented evidence proving each issue could make a much stronger case. This could result in the awakening of those in an mental coma. Laws and policies that work against men and/or favor other groups but exclude men (or favor other groups at men's expense) - We could list these laws to not only stay updated but to have documented proof and citation to make our case much more convincing. We must indicate how these laws are unfair towards men. Our enemies - It is important to know what groups oppose men's rights. If we list what groups oppose men's rights it is important to know how they oppose men's rights and/or why they are enemies to men's rights. If it is against an group's best interest to help men be very suspicious. If an individual holds onto views that oppose the best interests of men be very cautious. Our allies - It is equally important to recognize our allies as it is to recognize our enemies. We must be able to make a distinction between our allies and our enemies. We can not afford to confuse them. Our core beliefs and principles - We all have different beliefs on certain issues but we must recognize our common beliefs when it comes to men's rights issues. Recognizing our common beliefs will help us separate disagreements from oppositions. Disagreements happen between 2 or more people working towards the same goals but opposition
Updated 28th-January-2010 at 01:32 AM by Popadibs
Feminists have long decried the glass ceiling: apparently this femisist propaganda has been well within the feminist tradition of disinformation.
By DAVID CRARY, AP National Writer David Crary, Ap National Writer – 1 hr 47 mins ago
NEW YORK – Historically, marriage was the surest route to financial security for women. Nowadays it's men who are increasingly getting the biggest economic boost from tying the knot, according to a new analysis of census data.
the full article is here: http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20100119/...iage_economics
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