As much as I, and other members of the men’s movement despise (and that’s putting it lightly) the concept of chivalry, there is something to consider. The idea that some people may not just be happy in a family setting, but in the white knight role, what about them?
Now before we go any further we have to separate these people from those that feel obligated to fill this role. They are in a separate category. They see that as the social norm, and what is to be expected of men. These are the people that look down upon us for not doing as they do. These people are a problem.
But they aren’t the people I am talking about. I am talking about those who find appeal in the gender role so strong that being the provider and defender is self-fulfilling? They don’t thrive on the praise from women because of their actions (but they may like it), they are simply satisfied with the practice. I know some people might think that their existence is crazy, and I have never met one, but let’s say they actually do exist. Should we speak against them?
I don’t think so. Actually, as long as they know they have options and aren’t trapped in a corner, I say we advocate it. More here...
Yes, you read that right, I did an interview with Dr. Farrell!!!
Commence victory dance
We cover a variety of things, unfortunately things were cut short due to the fact that he has a life and is rather busy (had I known things would be cut short I would have asked more of the serious questions, but thats life) Heres the link
normally if i have an announcment i dont post it on antimisandry.com
but this is different
my blog is not only being republished (not by submission, but by request)
it is being translated to spanish as well, which makes this a bit more special to me
if you can read spanish here it is http://derechosdeloshombres.blogspot...icidio-de.html
At the end of the year I praised Germany for a lot of things. One was a PSA campaign for suicide that was highly effective. Anyone who can get suicides down in any group deserves honorable mention.
But after talking it is time for us to follow their lead. We need to take a look at their suicide campaign. It took ten years but it has had a strong impact. I say we walk in their shadow, and while we may need to tweak things a bit nation by nation, Germany has something that is working. And if it is working we should use it for ourselves.
First we need to pick apart the campaign and see what they did More here...
One thing people like to do is lie. Another thing people like to do is make money. So naturally the two come together. No I am not talking about false advertising; I am talking about watching people lie in commercials. We see people lie in commercials for everything. Food, sex products, electronics, etc. There is a pattern to it. Or at least when it comes to couples.
People in relationships like to lie to each other. I am sure this is not a shocker for anyone, but in ads there is a formula to what people are allowed to lie about.
While both men and women get to lie to make their partners happy their lies are far different. When women lie it is about quality of sex, how finances are spent, what the kids are doing. Basically it is all about keeping their boyfriends/husbands/fathers of their kids in the dark. Often about major issues. Why? To maintain power and order. More here...
Ages ago I stumbled across a 1960s commercial for equal pay. Starring none other than Batman! Not the cool Batman, the awkward foldable glass bat-shield Batman played by Adam West. In stead of explaining it I will let the commercial tell the story for me.
for a humorous analysis on everything wrong with that video (beyond its original existence) click here
It has been an interesting year for MRAs some highs, some lows, and never a dull moment. We have seen a lot over the past year and as it has gone on, I have been compiling a list of some of the most monumental moments across the world. These may in fact be some of, if not the fondest and most disappointing moments from the past year.
There was the Male Studies Symposium, a rather enlightening and much anticipated event that did not fail to deliver. We saw many great minds gather together to discuss the revolutionary new classes that will be held at Wagner College. It was successful enough that there will be another conference next year.
In the UK we saw what we thought was gaoing to be a great thing. Anonymity for those accused of rape was promised. However due to skeptics, feminist political pressure and financing (not that there is a huge difference between pressure and financing these days) we saw it taken away right in front of us. However, British Airways got rid of its policy where children are not allowed to be seated next to men so even if we lost anonymity in the end, we still made a dent.
Meanwhile back in the USA we had one of our biggest losses. It was announced that Men’s News Daily was going to be shut down. For whatever reason (I never saw the announcement) it is still going strong and publishing. And to top things off, it is now a crime to interfere with custody in Utah.
Traveling overseas again, Brazil outlawed parental alienation. This is going to be the first of hopefully many countries, and for a country of its size and population, there are many children who stand to benefit from this policy.
Germany may be our greatest source of victory this year. While fare from perfect all together, Germany is ending its draft, removing a policy where countless men would have been sent away against their will. Fathers of children born out of wedlock have more rights, which is rather monumental.
I have talked before about the Male Identity Crisis (MIC). How it may be a necessary evil if we are to redefine manhood and masculinity for the benefit of men. I have looked at potential causes as well. While I briefly talked about how it could lead to misandry and change the portrayal of men, I never talked about perhaps the most important thing: What does it mean for men and what may happen to men and society as a whole due to a large scale identity crisis?
The answer seems simple at first. There is going to see the emergence of several new subcultures and the ones that we have will grow and some old ones may even come back. Everyone needs to find a place in society and it can be an easy stabilizer when it comes to the desire to create an identity for oneself. This may seem like a good thing, and in a way it is. There will be a more loosely defined definition of masculinity, more fit to different cliques. At the same time the cliques will have less emphasis on masculinity as a necessity. How can things go wrong?
The first potential danger is an inevitable one, which will lead to personal challenges. If roles of men are going to be defined on a micro level rather than on a large scale, then transitions between groups may in fact become more difficult. As one matures and finds itself growing out of a clique or a subculture, most people will try to move to a new group. Having to redefine traits can be difficult. This is unavoidable and while it may seem like a small price to pay it is just but also brings forth a smaller identity crisis which could lead to greater dangers. The most unfortunate may have to undergo the entire process again.
The other minor problem may make me seem like a grumpy old man, and I am fine with that. Subcultures we dislike may be on the rise. While I stand by the belief “to each their own” I don’t want to see a new generation of emos. We are going to see a lot of subcultures that are different that
I figured out how to set it up so you can share a blog post on Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, Etc.
I called on you all to upvote things on Reddit, and now I am calling on you all to share any posts you like via Facebook now that I have made it easy. Thank you for your support.
This is the worst possible post to actually share but if you want to here it is
love The Daily Show. I was actually at The Rally to Restore Sanity. Ive defended Stewart when Jezebel was after him, and even his bit on MRAs (which I was more offended about not being funny). So when pieces like this come up, I feel a bit disappointed. Jon Stewart talked about the idea of “Big Brother” government, and regulation. He is right on track when he talks about how big government is wrong, only when its not what you support. At the end he proposes changing it to “Big Sister” perhaps simply meant as an alternative, but somehow it feels like he is proposing the need for a female president, at the least more female influence in the government. Watch it here (big brother gov. regulation starts at 1:30 but its all good)
Ending with “now that’s the kind of government even tea parties can get behind” he shows exactly what is needed when it comes to things like cadmium in our shrek cups. Of course he says we need to go with big sister. Perhaps it was merely meant as the alternative to big brother, after showing that while there are model older brothers, the villainous ones are the government big brothers. More Here...
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