Clarisse Thorn has written a very good post on her blog. Even though I disagree with many of her ideas, the core of the message was clear, and is exactly the kind of thinking we need in the blogosphere. You may recall my recent prediction in this post, I have very mixed feelings about the state of things and I am not entirely sure that we are able fix it.
Individuals bear responsibility, but culture affects these things too.That is the core of this post, this makes sense, who'd really argue that, feminist or MRA alike? It's like this Yahoo Question here, why do we try to put the blame on the opposite sex? It is neither the fault of men OR women for the state of things. This answer seems to make a lot of sense regarding this topic:
Sorry, it's tempting to think that, and plenty of people do, but it's inaccurate.
It is quite possible for there to be social patterns and arrangements that can be genuine barriers for most people affected by them.
For example, people sometimes say, "If Booker T. Washington could overcome racism and become as successful and accomplished as he did, why didn't all blacks of his era (or today for that matter)?"
These folks want to see the exception (Washington, and his exceptionality) rather than the rule. And blame anyone who didn't achieve what Washington for their lack of success, rather than to see the institutionalized racism that exists then, and the forms it takes now.
It's the same with sexism. It's tempting to believe every woman can do and be anything because of what some women are achieving. However, that's overlooking the very real discrimination and institutionalized sexism that make it much harder for women to, for example, get into the highest levels of polital office at the same rates as men, let alone the Presidency of the U.S. Of course, there are women working toward those goals. But acknowledging those barriers or obstacle courses