by Wendy Wang, Research Associate, and Paul Taylor, Director, Pew Social & Demographic Trends Project
March 9, 2011
Throughout history, marriage and parenthood have been linked milestones on the journey to adulthood. But for the young adults of the Millennial Generation, these social institutions are becoming delinked and differently valued. Today's 18- to 29-year-olds value parenthood far more than marriage, according to a new Pew Research Center analysis of attitudinal surveys. read more at: http://pewresearch.org/pubs/1920/millennials-value-parenthood-over-marriage
It seems that the world of the MRM is gaining steam and that I should start a blog related to the topics at hand and…give my perspective as a bisexual gender queer MRA and LGBT activist.
I will focus mainly on male rights issues however I will also post on LGBT issues.
In my first post I want to address my opinions about a couple of things.
1. LGBT people will better served by seperating themselves from the feminist movement and doing it’s own thing.
2. I think that there are some issues with the MRM that need addressed and I will touch on these issues in later posts.
3. I believe that people will be better served with conservative/libertarian politics and my posting will reflect my politics.
That all said, I am excited to start this blog and deal with the challenges that come with being both a LGBT activist and male rights activist.
Feminism has done lots of terrible things to men, as well as many good ones for women, and often times there were good things for women that ended up hurting men (intentionally or not). But some times, things that were designed to help women came with no expense directed at men for being men, and many of those things I like. I am not saying that these things are flawless (I have issues with aspects of planned parenthood), but rather that I think these things are beneficial. No where is it written that women can't have problems, and they need to be confronted and solved, just as issues men face need to.
Also before you jump down my throat also consider what I said about relative power and that while the gap and power dynamics may change, these do not automatically take things away from men. Anyways, here is a list:
This post nicely summarizes so much. It was not written by me but dievas. But I like it and hope by blogging it is gets around. Well done dievas (-: Before liberalism and psychology started "fixing" things: No gender issues whatsoever.No "identity" issues whatsoever.Everyone knew who they were, their place in life.People vastly more involved in politics.Healthier.Lower mental illness rates.Less euphoria but vastly more satisfied with life. After liberalism and psychology started "fixing" things: Brain-dead zombies.People completely dependent on medications.People no longer able to problem solve themselves.People more dependent, less capable.People damaged from years of corporate psychology because of said fields constant fucking with their mind in order to make money.
If psychology is so great, why is marriage in ruins? Why are more and more children on medications for mental illness? Why are relationships between people in general falling apart? After almost 100 years of this field of study, why has our society gotten worse?
[QUOTE=Richard;252832]UK: The top story in today's (31/3/2011) Daily Telegraph is:
"Grandparents are set to get legal rights to see grandchildren after divorce"
full story: Grandparents will get legal right to see grandchildren after divorce battles - Telegraph For the first time, separating parents will be expected to ensure grandparents continue to have a role in the lives of their children after they split up.
Parenting Agreements will be drawn up that explicitly set out contact arrangements for grandparents. These can then be used as evidence in court if a mother or father goes back on the deal.
The recommendation is part of a sweeping review of the family justice regime commissioned by the Government and led by David Norgrove, a former civil servant.
The Government is likely to accept the recommendations after Nick Clegg, the Deputy Prime Minister, said last year that it was “crazy” that millions of grandparents lost contact after separation and divorce. He said that they played a vital role if relationships broke down.
In 2009, 113,949 divorces were registered in England and Wales. Currently, one in three couples divorces before their 15th anniversary, compared with one in five a generation ago.
Ministers are keen to increase grandparents’ access because they can play a vital role in a child’s life, especially those who are torn between two parents.
Other proposals in the review include legal rights for children to decide which parent they want to live with and when they should see other family members. Parents applying for divorce should be forced to go through mediation, Mr Norgrove has also recommended.
Currently, grandparents have no rights of contact with grandchildren when their own children separate, despite the fact that they are
There are two basic forms of power when it comes to influence. There is “hard power” which uses might, strength, aggression and whatnot to push forward ideas; and there is “soft power” which involves more subtlety, persuasion, and a different line of thinking.
When you combine the two, you get what Joseph Nye refers to “Smart power”. And we in the MRM need to start generating a bit more smart power. We need to do it, and fast. The sooner we harness smart power the sooner we can get rid of people like Mary Kellet.
The first part of smart power is soft power. Soft power involves the spreading of ideas, creating allies on all sides, and from time to time a bit of schmoozing. Think tanks, lobbyists, and scholars are solid sources of smart power when it comes to generating thoughts into the people’s minds. Strong PR campaigns portraying those that support an idea in the most positive manner possible are another must in the world of soft power. Essentially, it is a more passive manner of creating and enforcing a group’s influence.
For more on soft power, hard power, and how we put it all together click here
This happened without my knowing, but I was credited so I am letting it slide. A fellow blogger at Canal du Bufalo has published a piece of mine in Portuguese! If you can read it (or have a translator) go and check it out! Remember, if you want to republish something of mine, please ask first folks!
I did a quick check to see what had been written about the PUA's (Pick Up Artists) on this site. It seems there is a lot of negative opinion connected with them. I believe that the PUA's offer great insights into men and women and on how to be a "man".
I think that PUA material is a bit like a gun - a gun can be used to kill an innocent person, or to kill a dictator. A gun is neutral initself, it is the person behind the gun that determines the nature of the gun, and the same is true with PUA materials.
I started to explore the PUA world during my divorce and did I learn a lot about human/man/woman nature! It was among the best time I have invested and woke me up to a lot of realities and hidden truths in our society.
I used some of the material to meet women - hell, at 40 I was getting back into dating and needed some advice! I did not abuse the material. I ws happy to date one woman, be with her for sometime, but when things ended, it ended and I went back into the field to look for the next one. I learned how to be confident, a good man and spot the stupid women who were not worth my time. I guess I became a "serial monogamist".
I met many other men who had problems with women, took them out, and showed them a trick or two and set them on the right road. They were amazed that the stuff worked.
Women's magazines have no problmes talking about how to use/manipulate men, but if men begin to look at the mechanisms of attraction we are accused of all sorts of things. PUA material makes you conscious of these mechanism and helps you steer your life in the direction you want it to go, and to better understand what woman want, say and are all about, as well as what it means to be a man and have respect for yourself. I learned that at least half of this world is made up of women, and if the one I was with got on her high horse, I had no problems saying goodbye, knowing that the next one would
Mini Review/Summary of Nancy Friday’s “My Mother My Self,” 1977
Ever heard the saying „If you want to know what your wife will look like In 10-20 years, look at the mother-in-law”
Why is it that a relationship/marriage starts out great, but as the years roll by, it fades? Surely intimacy should bring you closer to your partner?
Why is the mother-daughter bond all about?
In her book “My Mother My Self” feminist writer Nancy Friday (author of a pathbreaking book on womens sexual fanatasies “My Secret Garden”), Friday explores the mother-daughter bond and seeks to explain why women/feminists might talk tough, but many end up being just like their mothers. It is quite amazing to read a feminist write who understands and explains the saying, „If you want to know what your wife will look like In 10-20 years, look at the mother-in-law”, and this will forms the central theme of her book.
Friday’s perspective is to look over the life-cycle of girls/women. She documents, on the basis of in-depth interviews with women/feminists, how mothers tend to control daughters far more than sons. She says words to the effect “mothers tend to leave boys alone, in fear that she might damage them in some way” (Please don’t quote me on this as I as writing this review not only away from the book, but also from memory when I read it about 2 years ago).
So girls are policed more than boys, told to come home “early” when they reach teenage years, while the father gives more scope for the boy to do what he wants..
When girls leave home/go to the city/go to colleague they suddenly have a new found freedom. Intoxicated with magazines like “Cosmopolitian” (which is the most widely read magazine by undergraduate females), they begin to seek ways to live the life of cosmo headlines (“10x better orgasms, etc, etc…). Freed from restraints of mum, they sometimes fulfill the image
Ages ago I decided I would do a series called “the struggle for fairness” well it didn’t take off as I planned and beyond the core concept which I wrote in a way I don’t think did it justice it really didn’t come out well IMO. So this is the last part of the “Struggle for Fairness” series, which is a more sophisticated and stronger retelling of the first part.
As a whole there is a gap between the sexes when it comes to power. And it is not a pretty gap either. However, the goal is not to take strength and power away from one group of sex, but to advance the other. Essentially, I am applying Joseph Nye’s concept of relative power (normally used for dueling nations) to the gender war. The core idea is simple: By empowering men we are not belittling women, and when we are empowering women we are not belittling men.
For the sake of argument, I am going to be looking at society as a whole. The charts below are not set up on a core factual number, and are merely meant to help visualize the situation. Near the end I will apply it towards different spheres of influence. For the graphs, core ideas, and everything else click here!
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