There are two basic forms of power when it comes to influence. There is “hard power” which uses might, strength, aggression and whatnot to push forward ideas; and there is “soft power” which involves more subtlety, persuasion, and a different line of thinking.
When you combine the two, you get what Joseph Nye refers to “Smart power”. And we in the MRM need to start generating a bit more smart power. We need to do it, and fast. The sooner we harness smart power the sooner we can get rid of people like Mary Kellet.
The first part of smart power is soft power. Soft power involves the spreading of ideas, creating allies on all sides, and from time to time a bit of schmoozing. Think tanks, lobbyists, and scholars are solid sources of smart power when it comes to generating thoughts into the people’s minds. Strong PR campaigns portraying those that support an idea in the most positive manner possible are another must in the world of soft power. Essentially, it is a more passive manner of creating and enforcing a group’s influence.
For more on soft power, hard power, and how we put it all together click here
This happened without my knowing, but I was credited so I am letting it slide. A fellow blogger at Canal du Bufalo has published a piece of mine in Portuguese! If you can read it (or have a translator) go and check it out! Remember, if you want to republish something of mine, please ask first folks!
I did a quick check to see what had been written about the PUA's (Pick Up Artists) on this site. It seems there is a lot of negative opinion connected with them. I believe that the PUA's offer great insights into men and women and on how to be a "man".
I think that PUA material is a bit like a gun - a gun can be used to kill an innocent person, or to kill a dictator. A gun is neutral initself, it is the person behind the gun that determines the nature of the gun, and the same is true with PUA materials.
I started to explore the PUA world during my divorce and did I learn a lot about human/man/woman nature! It was among the best time I have invested and woke me up to a lot of realities and hidden truths in our society.
I used some of the material to meet women - hell, at 40 I was getting back into dating and needed some advice! I did not abuse the material. I ws happy to date one woman, be with her for sometime, but when things ended, it ended and I went back into the field to look for the next one. I learned how to be confident, a good man and spot the stupid women who were not worth my time. I guess I became a "serial monogamist".
I met many other men who had problems with women, took them out, and showed them a trick or two and set them on the right road. They were amazed that the stuff worked.
Women's magazines have no problmes talking about how to use/manipulate men, but if men begin to look at the mechanisms of attraction we are accused of all sorts of things. PUA material makes you conscious of these mechanism and helps you steer your life in the direction you want it to go, and to better understand what woman want, say and are all about, as well as what it means to be a man and have respect for yourself. I learned that at least half of this world is made up of women, and if the one I was with got on her high horse, I had no problems saying goodbye, knowing that the next one would
Mini Review/Summary of Nancy Friday’s “My Mother My Self,” 1977
Ever heard the saying „If you want to know what your wife will look like In 10-20 years, look at the mother-in-law”
Why is it that a relationship/marriage starts out great, but as the years roll by, it fades? Surely intimacy should bring you closer to your partner?
Why is the mother-daughter bond all about?
In her book “My Mother My Self” feminist writer Nancy Friday (author of a pathbreaking book on womens sexual fanatasies “My Secret Garden”), Friday explores the mother-daughter bond and seeks to explain why women/feminists might talk tough, but many end up being just like their mothers. It is quite amazing to read a feminist write who understands and explains the saying, „If you want to know what your wife will look like In 10-20 years, look at the mother-in-law”, and this will forms the central theme of her book.
Friday’s perspective is to look over the life-cycle of girls/women. She documents, on the basis of in-depth interviews with women/feminists, how mothers tend to control daughters far more than sons. She says words to the effect “mothers tend to leave boys alone, in fear that she might damage them in some way” (Please don’t quote me on this as I as writing this review not only away from the book, but also from memory when I read it about 2 years ago).
So girls are policed more than boys, told to come home “early” when they reach teenage years, while the father gives more scope for the boy to do what he wants..
When girls leave home/go to the city/go to colleague they suddenly have a new found freedom. Intoxicated with magazines like “Cosmopolitian” (which is the most widely read magazine by undergraduate females), they begin to seek ways to live the life of cosmo headlines (“10x better orgasms, etc, etc…). Freed from restraints of mum, they sometimes fulfill the image
Ages ago I decided I would do a series called “the struggle for fairness” well it didn’t take off as I planned and beyond the core concept which I wrote in a way I don’t think did it justice it really didn’t come out well IMO. So this is the last part of the “Struggle for Fairness” series, which is a more sophisticated and stronger retelling of the first part.
As a whole there is a gap between the sexes when it comes to power. And it is not a pretty gap either. However, the goal is not to take strength and power away from one group of sex, but to advance the other. Essentially, I am applying Joseph Nye’s concept of relative power (normally used for dueling nations) to the gender war. The core idea is simple: By empowering men we are not belittling women, and when we are empowering women we are not belittling men.
For the sake of argument, I am going to be looking at society as a whole. The charts below are not set up on a core factual number, and are merely meant to help visualize the situation. Near the end I will apply it towards different spheres of influence. For the graphs, core ideas, and everything else click here!
Every day I grow more and more enamored with anarchy and the more I feel, that it can solve the problems that men face. This might seem radical to most...and it is, but my own personal views on the role of the state is one where it's a villain. I do not believe the state will solve these issues and I believe that the state creates a system of privileged elite.
I have mentioned before that I strive for a minimal state,however my current opinion is that there is nothing to be saved; the state is the criminal. I take the NAP seriously, and at it's logical conclusion one must agree that all government will inevitably violate that principle. I refer you to this video.
I want you digest what that video said. No service should be provided at the barrel of a gun, the government is not here to protect and should be abolished. I want you all to think about a certain ideology and how it violated that. Oh and then there is this video
Just think about it.
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Boys in America have a major educational crisis. Now making only 40% of students in college and continuously being unnecessarily drugged, they have fallen behind in math, literacy, and are not even thought to be as smart as their female counterparts by fellow classmates.
But before we create any sort of program in order to give boys more resources, we have to do one thing first.
We have to make boys want to learn. All the affirmative action program constructing (or deconstructing, depending on your beliefs) and additional high end resources isn’t going to do shit if boys are still turned off from learning in the first place.
So what is the key to getting boys to want to learn? Well one thing would actually be to improve the social status of teachers. In America teachers are highly undervalued, and not seen as incredibly noteworthy, and mocked for only working 9 months out of the year. Yet in other parts of the world they are viewed as nation builders. There is a clear gap in prestige for teachers (below a college level). Mix in pedophile hysteria and the notion that it is a job meant for women and you have a recipe for disaster. But how will increasing the amount of prestige involved in teaching increase boys achievement in education? more here...
“If you tell a lie big enough and keep repeating it, people will eventually come to believe it. The lie can be maintained only for such time as the State can shield the people from the political, economic and/or military consequences of the lie. It thus becomes vitally important for the State to use all of its powers to repress dissent, for the truth is the mortal enemy of the lie, and thus by extension, the truth is the greatest enemy of the State.” -Joeseph Goebbels
Goebbels was correct in his summary of propaganda, and it is easy for people to fall for it. What kinds of propaganda have we fallen for? What about the propaganda that tells women that they are victims or that men are super privileged abusers? I bet I know!
I am talking about victim ideology #1! Feminism!
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Why are my rights more important than a fellow human beings? I wonder... Is it because I have been oppressed? I sure as fuck hope not. Oppression? How the hell am I oppressed? I have a great life, wonderful husband, excellent job, and I am pregnant. Hell, I'm even the breadwinner!
I find it really <STRIKE>enlightening</STRIKE> revealing that I'm "pro-patriarchal" because I dare speak up for men. Fuck that noise. Men deserve rights and freedom as much as woman do. No, I don't want to get even for some crimes that happened for thousands of
"There’s a hole in the world like a great black pit and it's filled with people who are full of shit and the vermin of the world inhabit it..."- Sweeny Todd
This post has been coming for a while now, I will no longer promote or defend feminist ideology. I can be an egalitarian and not be a feminist, I can be sex-positive and not be a feminist, and I can be for gender liberation and not be a feminist. I don't know where this road will take me but one thing is for sure at least I know I am a sinner. Judge me, and fuck you, stop playing God; my only solace is that someday judgement will come for the wicked.
"The only vice that can not be forgiven is hypocrisy." ~ William Hazlitt
I cannot support an ideology that consistently props me up on some pedestal and tells me I'm empowered and yet I am a victim, fuck that. I have all the empowerment I need by being the woman I want to be and if someone has problem with it, fuck 'em. I am not disadvantaged because of teh menz, if I am disadvantaged it's because of my own choices.
I am not an asexual/lesbian/heterosexual(self-loathing) man-hater nor am I a poor victim of male predators seeking to exploit/discriminate against me. I am a heterosexual woman who loves the men in her life and I happen to think men deserve the same rights given to me, and in areas where the men are unable to have the same rights/options, they should have the equivalent. Period.
"Lady Catherine why are you being so cruel to feminists?" you might be wondering. They do not fit my needs or worldview, and feminism has become so dogmatic and so hateful towards anyone who doesn't share it's worldview and I'm sorry but that simple fact is insulting to me as a egalitarian person, I am willing to listen to an alternate viewpoint, but I am not willing to listen to an ideologue hammer off some ridiculous rhetoric that doesn't mesh with reality.
As a libertarian,
The reason why young men get nowhere is that they overestimate the obstacles every time. (The Saga of Hrafnkel Freysgothi, c.7)
Hrafnkel's saga, is a story about a powerful duelist and a dedicated worshipper of the god Freyr after suffer humiliation and defeat he becomes an atheist and becomes peaceful with his dealings with others, after rebuilding his power base he gets his revenge against his enemies and lives the rest of his life as powerful and respected chieftain.
Why am I bringing up this today?
The quote I mentioned is very relevant to attitudes that I encounter, we all overestimate the obstacles and that set's us up for failure and the saga is easily one of the most inspiring pieces of literature I've ever read. It is a story of foolish pride and trying again when you fail. Feminism has failed men and women. Reading Stephanie Coontz's A Strange Stirring while it's a feminist book based on Betty Friedan's The Feminine Mystique, I have been thinking about something I dub the "Masculine Mystique". Society claims that women are able to become whatever they want to be and yet men do not have the same luxury.
To say the least I have gained a new level of respect for Betty Friedan. Betty Friedan envisioned a world where men and women could find meaningful work together as companions and as equals not as competition and bitter enemies. I think Friedan would wince at the Masculine Mystique and what has devolved into a petty pissing contest between men and women.
Like Hrafknel, who had changed, believing in the power of his followers instead of the gods to achieve his goals, changes need to happen to how we perceive gender politics and gender liberation in order to achieve real changes to our culture and society. Gender issues are not just women's issues and I am all for human liberation. I still stand by my prediction but as always, the truth of all predictions is in your hands.
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