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"There’s a hole in the world like a great black pit and it's filled with people who are full of shit and the vermin of the world inhabit it..."- Sweeny Todd
This post has been coming for a while now, I will no longer promote or defend feminist ideology. I can be an egalitarian and not be a feminist, I can be sex-positive and not be a feminist, and I can be for gender liberation and not be a feminist. I don't know where this road will take me but one thing is for sure at least I know I am a sinner. Judge me, and fuck you, stop playing God; my only solace is that someday judgement will come for the wicked.

"The only vice that can not be forgiven is hypocrisy." ~ William Hazlitt


I cannot support an ideology that consistently props me up on some pedestal and tells me I'm empowered and yet I am a victim, fuck that. I have all the empowerment I need by being the woman I want to be and if someone has problem with it, fuck 'em. I am not disadvantaged because of teh menz, if I am disadvantaged it's because of my own choices.

I am not an asexual/lesbian/heterosexual(self-loathing) man-hater nor am I a poor victim of male predators seeking to exploit/discriminate against me. I am a heterosexual woman who loves the men in her life and I happen to think men deserve the same rights given to me, and in areas where the men are unable to have the same rights/options, they should have the equivalent. Period.

"Lady Catherine why are you being so cruel to feminists?" you might be wondering. They do not fit my needs or worldview, and feminism has become so dogmatic and so hateful towards anyone who doesn't share it's worldview and I'm sorry but that simple fact is insulting to me as a egalitarian person, I am willing to listen to an alternate viewpoint, but I am not willing to listen to an ideologue hammer off some ridiculous rhetoric that doesn't mesh with reality.

As a libertarian, I am well aware of the conflict of ideology of being an egalitarian and libertarian, I'll clarify my views. I believe charity is the most effective ways to get funding for a cause, I do not believe the state should provide these services.

"Freedom, morality, and the human dignity of the individual consists precisely in this; that he does good not because he is forced to do so, but because he freely conceives it, wants it, and loves it." ~ Mikhail Bakunin

That sums up my feelings on the matter, I would support a charity devoted to men's health and other men's issues simply for the fact that it is just and the right thing to do. I believe in the natural rights of property, life, and liberty. I believe in voluntary egalitarianism as far as resources go and I believe in equal rights for everyone as far as natural rights go. This essay sums up my problems with coercive egalitarianism, but I have absolutely no problems with voluntary egalitarianism. Things like hiring discrimination? Protest the place, boycott the product or service, and find work in a place that won't discriminate against you.

Thank you all for your time. In frith

For my readers:
"Do we desire to be cradled, and then carried throughout life to our graves by this partisan propelled bureaucratic monstrosity? ...As individuals of sovereign dignity, are we now so terrified, bewildered, and impotent that our main purpose is to seek asylum from the potential hazards of freedom? Have we no faith in our natural strengths and abilities?" ~ Sergei Hoff

Musings of a Pro-Human Woman: At Least I Know I am a Sinner

The reason why young men get nowhere is that they overestimate the obstacles every time. (The Saga of Hrafnkel Freysgothi, c.7)

Hrafnkel's saga, is a story about a powerful duelist and a dedicated worshipper of the god Freyr after suffer humiliation and defeat he becomes an atheist and becomes peaceful with his dealings with others, after rebuilding his power base he gets his revenge against his enemies and lives the rest of his life as powerful and respected chieftain.

Why am I bringing up this today?

The quote I mentioned is very relevant to attitudes that I encounter, we all overestimate the obstacles and that set's us up for failure and the saga is easily one of the most inspiring pieces of literature I've ever read. It is a story of foolish pride and trying again when you fail.

Feminism has failed men and women. Reading Stephanie Coontz's A Strange Stirring while it's a feminist book based on Betty Friedan's The Feminine Mystique, I have been thinking about something I dub the "Masculine Mystique". Society claims that women are able to become whatever they want to be and yet men do not have the same luxury.

To say the least I have gained a new level of respect for Betty Friedan. Betty Friedan envisioned a world where men and women could find meaningful work together as companions and as equals not as competition and bitter enemies. I think Friedan would wince at the Masculine Mystique and what has devolved into a petty pissing contest between men and women.

Like Hrafknel, who had changed, believing in the power of his followers instead of the gods to achieve his goals, changes need to happen to how we perceive gender politics and gender liberation in order to achieve real changes to our culture and society. Gender issues are not just women's issues and I am all for human liberation. I still stand by my prediction but as always, the truth of all predictions is in your hands. Liberation must not be one-sided.

It is often said that Friedan was anti-love or anti-marriage, this is not the case. "She helped make women feel better about being women and therefore better able to freely and fully love men." she wanted that on her tombstone, I do not see her as a bigot in way, shape, or form. I would love to help men feel better about being men and allow them freely love and fully love women. I do think that there is an issue boys not feeling good about being boys I couldn't tell you exactly why but I bet you it has to do with fathers, PAS, and a self fulfilling prophecy.

While I have made my opinions clear about what I thought about gender role, and I really really hatetoadmit it, but we need to have healthy cisgendered people as rolemodels in addition to healthy gender queers as role models and nurture healthy views about what femininity and masculinity means for individuals. I think current views of masculinity are destroying men and causing many of the education issues facing men, especially when men are seen as violent, stupid, or otherwise unfit for society in the media.

We will find the key to our liberation only when we accept that what we once did to survive is now destroying us.
Laura van Dernoot Lipsky
http://musingsofaprohuman.blogspot.com/2011/03/stirring-my-pot.html

The American Sociological Association recently published a new study. The basic premise behind the study is how do social networks and adolescents positions in them impact violence. It looked at both cross gender networks and single gender networks. At the end here is what the study found:

Males were also more aggressive toward females than females were toward males, and females were more aggressive toward other females than males were toward other males. Compared to boys, girls occupy significantly more central network positions, are more physically developed, and earn higher grades, but they are less likely to participate in sports.

It should be noted however the statistical difference regarding the violence committed by gender is pretty small. The gap is actually small enough to actually be nullified by the fact the study took place primarily in rural North Carolina (I am not picking on NC look at page 23).

An interesting thing to note is that the people at the top are generally non violent-with the exception of those at the top of the top. Also, those at the bottom of the ladder are not likely to be violent as well. The biggest perpetrators are those in the “bridge” category who tend to be in the middle of the pack, linking everyone together (the friend of a friend people) and those at the top.

When intergender relationships are rare and used as a status marker, violence increases as well. There is no solid explanation for this, but when a relationship between men and women sticks out, whether it is rare in a social network or something that sticks out in a diverse social circle the level of violence goes up when the relationship also serves as symbolic purpose.

What really increases the chance violence is not if the violence works, but if those committing violence THINK it will work. Whether it does or doesn’t is irrelevant to if a violent act will be committed or not. Most violence isn’t senseless. If the perpetrator does not think they will benefit from it, there won’t be violence.

While this focuses on teens I am going to apply it to something we are all a bit more familiar with: false rape accusations and domestic violence.

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<TABLE class=tr-caption-container style="MARGIN-LEFT: auto; MARGIN-RIGHT: auto; TEXT-ALIGN: center" cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 align=center><TBODY><TR><TD style="TEXT-ALIGN: center"></TD></TR><TR><TD class=tr-caption style="TEXT-ALIGN: center">Seriously. This is how it feels in the blogosphere.</TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE>I'm wondering if my readers will get the message. I know I have contributed to this mess in places where it doesn't mean jack squat, and no, I do not share those views. I'm not perfect and I throw my hormonally irrational self and say things I don't mean.
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Recently, some fellow lefties have been claiming that the GOP has declared a “war on women” through a series of vicious tax cuts and regulations. Most notably Bobby Franklin who did something which I thought was commendable trying to get rid of the word “victim” when it came to processing and police conduct regarding rape cases. Then he went bats shit crazy and decided that women should be charged with murder for miscarriages. This is notably the most anti-woman thing the republicans have done, and it is absolutely deplorable. This is followed by trying to make a budget cut based on "what types of rape make abortion ok".

But has the whole campaign been anti-woman? I really don’t think so. What they really are is anti-human.

Yes, they have cut lots of programs and spending towards women’s health, planned parenthood, assistance in birth control, and made some pretty sick anti-abortion laws. A lot of them probably cause a bit more psychological harm and stress than are necessary making women suffer for their own pro-life agenda.

But among the budget cuts towards social services proposed they have proposed assistance for the mentally ill and education, they have successfully taken a shit on the unions in Wisconsin. They are continuously backing the DOFA. They have cut heating for low-income areas. If there is a program that provides a service they will find a way to cut it, no matter how popular, important, or effective the program is.

Lets not forget NPR is now under attack as well.

At the same time they have funded NASCAR, given tremendous subsidies to the oil industry and for birth control to horses, and will not make a sufficient cut to military spending or doing anything about our industrial military complex. They will not enforce any gun regulation, they won't even go back to 10 bullets per clip instead of 31 after the Giffords shooting.

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Let me begin with a story about a man. This man is a good man, he is an accomplished pianist and vocalist always ready with a joke and hearty laugh, lives in a completely straight edge lifestyle, probably the most generous and kind man I have ever had the pleasure of meeting, and is the bravest person I know. There was a time when this man was in a D/s relationship with another, the two men loved each other very much or so it seemed, this other man was a controlling and abusive man, and caused the good man to fall into a drug infested lifestyle. I met this man in a record store, recently escaped from the abusive situation, and yet still enthralled by drugs and alcohol.

This ladies and gentlemen, is my husband. I have seen the scars of his past abuse and what it has done to him. He has turned into a hardcore submissive man, who bears the scars of what his abuser has done. I admire his ability to forgive in spite of what he has went through and I also admire his ability to trust someone enough to get involved into another D/s relationship.

My husband is exactly why I oppose the Duluth Model, yes, my husband was abused by a man, but I'm dwelling on the fact that the victim was a man. Men are victims too and often people dismiss and marginalize men who have been abused by their lovers. This is unacceptable.

I have grown up in a extremely liberal home, I'm not ashamed to admit that, I love my parents, but I never knew about abuse in relationships( I was sheltered) until I went into college that I became aware of the violence in relationships. I admit that I believed the men were abusers and that women and just women were victims, this is an incredibly naive view of domestic violence. When I met my husband, I held incredibly naive views about abuse, but I have gained experience as a psychologist, active member in the BDSM community, and by doing research on the topic and learned about the plight of male victims.

When women are the abusers people tend to excuse their behavior with false problems such as "Battered Wife Syndrome," which unfortunately gives women a convenient excuse to abuse their husbands, I'm not sure how accurate the studies cited are in here, but what I do know that the Duluth Model hurts more than just abused straight men, it hurts abused LGBT people as well, and this ladies and gentlemen is disgusting.

It is a serious problem, when you seriously have to debate if a man can be raped. Yes, a man can be raped and yes, a woman can be a rapist there is no if, and, or but to it; a woman can be a rapist and predator, they can be the cruelest people in the whole world. The marginalization of male victims is terrible.

Yes, there are more reported male on female rapes, I won't deny that. But what about female on female or female on male rape? These two topics are taboo and lead to marginalized victims who don't have a way to cope with their pain. Let's not forget about rape in prisons! We make fun of the serious problem of prison rape, which males are the primary victim of prison rape. Sometimes police departments even purposely under count the amount of rape complaints, and the federal government is using the definition of rape from 1929 or at least according to that article, which means it excludes statutory rape and male victims.

I do not think this is acceptable, and certainly you, dear reader, will agree to the injustice towards men in this regard. The violence that is condoned by society against men is sickening and disgusting, and I oppose the misandry in how male abuse and rape. If we condemn one we must condemn the other, whether you're straight, gay, kinky, or whatever. These issues need to be dealt with in several spheres, not just the men's rights networks; I include the LGBT and kinky communities to deal with the abuse and other violent issues affecting those areas.

Yes, I see the irony in speaking out about abuse when I am a sadist and Domme, but...after experiencing what my abused boyfriend and now husband has went through, I am violently opposed to one-sided DV and anti-sexual violence programs. I will repeat this assertion: violence just doesn't happen to women, it happens to men too; sexual orientation, gender identity, or even social class.

"But, Lady Catherine," you might be saying, "men are stronger and bigger than women!"

Does that really excuse it? No. In fact that is insulting and dismissive towards the victims of these crimes, I do not believe there is any way you can justify what happens to male victims morally. Even the cliched "but men abused and used women for thousands of years!" doesn't hold up, it is an insulting red herring to escape from having to deal with these problems. Men are worthy of the same rights as the women half of our species especially when it comes to terrible crimes like this. ...

I have heard ‘f’s talking a lot about male privilege, and wondered what it was – and how I could obtain it… I wanna be priv-lijd! Check out how many exclamation marks I can fit into 1 post!!!!!

So I googled (googled IS a word!) male privilege and found this inspiring article all about it here: http://www.amptoons.com/blog/the-mal...ege-checklist/

Apparently, my not knowing what my privileges are is a privilege unto itself! Additions by me are marked with a *.
The Male Privilege Checklist
1. My odds of being hired for a job, when competing against female applicants, are probably skewed in my favo(u*)r. The more prestigious the job, the larger the odds are skewed.
* So with affirmative action favouring women and other ‘minorities’, the odds are skewed in MY favour, as an evil white man! Great!
2. I can be confident that my co-workers won’t think I got my job because of my sex – even though that might be true.
* Again with all of the affirmative action and what-not, this is certainly true. They all know I got my job despite my sex! Here we go with the privileges!
3. If I am never promoted, it’s not because of my sex.
* Isn’t it? See above.
4. If I fail in my job or career, I can feel sure this won’t be seen as a black mark against my entire sex’s capabilities.
*What like ‘men can’t multi-task’ or ‘look after children’?
5. I am far less likely to face sexual harassment at work than my female co-workers are.
*I think that depends on your definition of ‘sexual harassment’, it’s illegal if men do it, yet fine and dandy, even laughable, when women do it! You missed one -men getting sexually harassed at work is a privilege, no? “You love it really”. Erm no, fat ugly women hawking at my ass is not my idea of fun.
6. If I do the same task as a woman, and if the measurement is at all subjective, chances are people will think I did a better job.
*I think you hit the coffin’s final nail square on the head when you said ‘subjective’.
7. If I’m a teen or adult, and if I can stay out of prison, my odds of being raped are relatively low.
*This is true for all people. Unless you are insane, and believe the whole 1 in 4 BS. See what you scaremongering fems did?
8. On average, I am taught to fear walking alone after dark in average public spaces much less than my female counterparts are.
*And this is a privilege? I’m also FAR more likely to be attacked! It’s a privilege to be ignored and seen as dispensable!
9. If I choose not to have children, my masculinity will not be called into question.
*That’s working under the assumption that I have any ‘right’ whatsoever to ‘choose’ to have children or not, which I don’t think, hold on I’ll check… No I don’t.
10. If I have children but do not provide primary care for them, my masculinity will not be called into question.
*Feckless father? Deadbeat dad? What if I WANT to provide ‘primary care’?
11. If I have children and provide primary care for them, I’ll be praised for extraordinary parenting if I’m even marginally competent.
*Like when women get praised for beating a man in a marathon, even though she had a 30 minute headstart?
12. If I have children and a career, no one will think I’m selfish for not staying at home.
*Can I stay at home?
13. If I seek political office, my relationship with my children, or who I hire to take care of them, will probably not be scrutinized by the press.
*Like David Cameron wasn’t? There seems to be a lot of room for probability here…
14. My elected representatives are mostly people of my own sex. The more prestigious and powerful the elected position, the more this is true.
*Oh yes like Margeret Thatcher, the prime minister we had in the UK, when was it… 30 years ago?!
15. When I ask to see “the person in charge,” odds are I will face a person of my own sex. The higher-up in the organization the person is, the surer I can be.
*In any house in the country, ask to see ‘the boss’ and it won’t be a willy slinger!
16. As a child, chances are I was encouraged to be more active and outgoing than my sisters.
*Chances, chances… I don’t have any sisters, shame!
17. As a child, I could choose from an almost infinite variety of children’s media featuring positive, active, non-stereotyped heroes of my own sex. I never had to look for it; male protagonists were (and are) the default.
*Yeah, my favourite book as a kid was Little Red Riding Hood, then Alice in Wonderland; and The Wizard of Oz. I didn’t care much for the ‘hero’ stereotype.
18. As a child, chances are I got more teacher attention than girls who raised their hands just as often.
*Lol! If the evil pervert wasn’t trying to chat them up!
19. If my day, week or year ...

It is time as a person who believes in freedom and the power of discussion and debate in good faith, that I create the platform of the Good Person Project.

I. The Value of All Humans: I recognize and affirm the value of all human beings' perspectives, experiences, and goals. It is my endeavor to include differing perspectives in my writings and to encourage friendly debate and discussion.
II. Male Rights Issues: I recognize and affirm that people of the male sex experience discrimination in matters of law which include unfair and sexist laws, such as VAWA and Title IX. It is my endeavor to remove these sexist laws from the books and promote libertarian alternatives to these laws.
III. Male Social Issues: I recognize and affirm that people of the male sex are the affected in a negative manner by misandry in media and in popular culture which has unfortunately impacted culture and the self esteem of males.
IV. Female Rights Issues: I recognize and affirm that women are affected by discrimination in some form and the probability that these issues are the result of individual prejudices and not the result of legal inequality. It is my endeavor to promote libertarian alternatives.
V. Female Social Issues: I recognize and affirm that people of the female sex are affected in a negative manner in media and culture which affects females in a negative manner. I also recognize and affirm that these issues differ wildly than the male social issues and are serious issues.
VI. The Intersectionality of Issues: I recognize and affirm that gender issues intersect in different places and can cause significant distress towards the victims of these issues. it is my endeavor to discuss these issues in a humane and civil maneer and promote libertarian solutions to these issues.

Have you seen the Daniel Craig video for international women's day? It isn't hard to find...

As someone with such a fondness for women, I wondered if you have ever thought what it would be like to be one

Really? Well that gave me an idea... I wonder if ANY woman has actually thought about what it would be like to be a man.

You've had a sex change, not one of the botched Frankenstein-esque monstrosities that we call a sex change now, but an actual one. One where you have a penis that actually works, where you get all of the hormones that were designed to help your sex running around your body urging you to do things that you don't feel the urge for as a woman (and I certainly don't mean to rape or abuse anyone, because that is complete nonsense). So you wake up the next day as a man, and this is what you discover about your new 'privileged' life...

The first thing you notice is that you are taller, and stronger. You pee standing up and your face itches most of the time because of irritation from shaving. Not so bad, you think to yourself, it beats wearing makeup! You don't menstruate anymore, which is a definite plus. These things dangling between your legs, that don't do much the vast majority of the time, sometimes swell up without warning (but god it feels good). This stirring feeling you get, it is extracted from you constantly but you are told that it is wrong. Every time you watch television, see women in the street, go online, enter a shop or anything else - people want you to feel horny, and then say your wrong for being horny! You are evil! If they are not trying to make you horny then they are telling you that you are evil and stupid.

You are allowed a girlfriend, if you lavish her with gifts and swear to honour and protect her, and do everything you says. You are evil, what do you expect? Your right to have children has disappeared, gone! You can try to have sex (make love, can we still use that term?) with someone, and if she has the good grace to allow you to 'rape' her and not tell the police, then she can decide (at several different points, and regardless of how you feel) if she wants to have any potential children or not. This of course is your fault (you are evil, and you raped her), so any child or children she decides to have are your responsibility. You must pay for them (her), and you can only see/touch/love/teach/protect them if the said victim of your sexual assault grants you these privileges. Any argument or dissent from you is against the law. Liking being a man so far, it's good isn't it?

The next thing you notice is that your job is seemingly a lot more difficult, but you aren't allowed to complain about it. You aren't allowed to make jokes any more. Whereas yesterday you used to tell gags and scoff all day long with your friends about how stupid and useless the opposite, 'privileged' sex were - now you cannot even make a comment about how some silly woman is trying to carry some boxes and is doing it all wrong. You know she needs help and you really want to, after some light-hearted banter that doesn't harm anyone. No, you're not allowed to do that, you are 'sexist' because you think that men are better at carrying boxes. Because you have made this terrible comment (which you used to enjoy making, it brought you closer to your 'f' pals) you now lose your job, and are told that you are a disgusting sexist 'pig'. You can't get a new job, because only 'f's are being hired at the moment to balance the 'unfairness' they face at work.

Luckily enough, because you are a privileged and evil male, you were forced to sign up for the draft and you got a new job. Your job now is to kill people, or be killed. There are some 'f's around, but they don't need to fight and they are there by choice. They are also allowed to skip half of the training if they 'feel' bad. They get paid the same even though they don't risk life and limb, but I guess this is fair because women earn less overall.

Even though you are often verbally abused by women, and have become somewhat immune to it, you sometimes wonder why they hate you so much - you have never done anything to hurt them, in fact all you have ever done since becoming a man is try to make their lives easier. You get physically attacked by a woman, and because you are stronger (and evil) it is classed as your fault, even though you did nothing wrong. She then lies to the police and tells them that you attacked her and tried to have sex with her. Without any evidence you are sent to prison. Later the woman recants her story, and admits it was her that initiated the attack. You have already done your sentence however, and have been released from prison. The whole thing gets swept under the rug, she doesn't get punished and you have a criminal record for life. You aren't compensated for the ...

In order to counter the idiocy of the Good Men Project, I am starting my own project in order to engender real discussion. I call it the Good Person Project; in this blog post I will be detailing people and websites who have proven to be decent people on the internet and have made worthy contributions to discussions about gender rights.

Fidelbogen's excellent Counter-Feminist deserves a mention for making excellent criticisms of feminism from a non-feminist perspective. His platform here lays down his purpose in writing his blog it, is fair and to the point.

Paul Elam's A Voice of Men is a decent MRA site dedicated to addressing male specific problems, he makes no bones about the problems with modern female behavior that some of us exhibit.

Clarisse Thorn, while she is a feminist she often writes fair and balanced articles about masculinity and the problems with the confining role of men, while she writes about BDSM more often than actual feminism or gender rights in general her articles like this one about gender rights are excellent and while I disagree with many of her ideas, she is what she says she is, open minded and indeed open to criticism.

The folks at Feminist Critics, make excellent criticisms of feminism from a non-feminist to a feminist perspective.

Marx's excellent website, Antimisandry.Com, hosts a forum that discusses the misandry and our culture and how feminism caused it, some of the posters here deserve a special mention: Percy, dad_savage, Marx himself, Kim, and BMiricle(and many more) make awesome posts and contributions to the website.

Pelle Billing, is an excellent writer for the concept of gender liberation and writes pretty decent articles about men's issues.

SM Feminist, deserves a mention for being incredibly accurate about the sexism in the BDSM scene and many other issues related to the scene. If you're kinky and interested in gender rights this might be a blog for you to read.

Whether you agree with my personal politics or not, the Independent Women's Forum is an interesting site devoted to women's issues from a libertarian/conservative perspective.

Wendy McElroy's ifeminists.com, is another excellent site devoted to women's issues from a libertarian perspective.

And then there's Rise of the Zeta Male, written by zetamale himself, I might disagree with his personal politics(he's a liberal) but he has written very decent articles on men's rights issues and is focused on a sociology basis for most of his articles. As an aside, congrats for a year of hard work zetamale.

And then there's me and my blog, I might be a weird cookie, being a Dominatrix shrink interested in gender rights issues but I am passionate about my beliefs for a world where people have the freedom and equality to be whoever they want to be.



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