HI WMP, I wondered if you could explain something that has confused me a little.. I recently spent some time at my Sister's & Niece's home for a coffee. Whilst there, my Niece showed me her certificate with your logo (and thus affiliation & support) as linked: (https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?f...7649453&type=1).
My Niece explained to me how it was a girls-only event, boys were banned for what, as far as she could tell, was no good reason aside from blatant discrimination. How does the Cognitive Dissonance work with that, doing away with discrimination - by discriminating against half the population? Could you explain why you condone sexism & misandry? And perhaps you could explain other issues too, such as your poster campaigns always pretending only women are victims of DV (when it's an established fact that women initiate DV some 70% of the time) and why you only portray men negatively in most other poster campaigns? Am I to assume the Police are either too scared to credit women for their own crimes & behaviours or is it that the police simply feel it's acceptable to attack the silent victims (i.e. men don't have groups akin to feminists who scream & cry everytime something offends a man)? Which is it? I look forward to your excuses.. I mean, answers. Regards,
Domestic violence against men isn't always easy to identify, but it can be a serious threat. Know how to recognize if you're being abused — and how to get help.Women aren't the only victims of domestic violence. Understand the signs of domestic violence against men, and know how to get help. Recognize domestic violence against men Domestic violence — also known as domestic abuse, battering or intimate partner violence — occurs between people in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence against men can take many forms, including emotional, sexual and physical abuse and threats of abuse. It can happen in heterosexual or same sex relationships. It might not be easy to recognize domestic violence against men. Early in the relationship, your partner might seem attentive, generous and protective in ways that later turn out to be controlling and frightening. Initially, the abuse might appear as isolated incidents. Your partner might apologize and promise not to abuse you again. In other relationships, domestic violence against men might include both partners slapping or shoving each other when they get angry — and neither partner seeing himself or herself as being abused or controlled. This type of violence, however, can still devastate a relationship, causing both physical and emotional damage. You might be experiencing domestic violence if your partner: Calls you names, insults you or puts you downPrevents you from going to work or schoolStops you from seeing family members or friendsTries to control how you spend money, where you go or what you wearActs jealous or possessive or constantly accuses you of being unfaithfulGets angry when drinking alcohol or using drugsThreatens you with violence or a weaponHits, kicks, shoves, slaps, chokes or otherwise hurts you, your children or your petsAssaults you while you're sleeping, you've been drinking or you're
I noticed a poster advertising an information event about a new package of EU funds available for use in Ireland. People could apply for grants from this budget to fund projects that would create jobs or training initiatives, and help provide housing for the homeless. Finally, I thought, at least something is being done to help those people that need it most. I went to the event already wondering if I would be able to re-think my opinion of those stuffy mandarins in Brussels. Maybe I shouldn’t have been so cynical.
There was a large banner over the entrance. “The European Social Fund” it read. “Promoting Gender Equality in Ireland.”……… Ah!
The cavernous hall was dotted with little stalls, staffed, mostly by women who worked for various pointless government agencies. Pride of place was given predictably enough, to the National Women’s Council of Ireland whose success in its long history of promoting “gender equality” was evident by the fact that of the hundreds of people in the hall, there were only a handful of men.
Having initiated conversations with some of the people (personing) these stands, it soon became apparent that most of them were the usual brainwashed box-tickers who had undoubtedly gotten their jobs through affirmative action initiatives, and that none of them would have lasted 24 hours in a job where they were actually expected to do anything.
I walked over to the Women’s Aid stall, festooned with pictures of brutish men and bruised, frightened women and children. “Home is where Fear Lives,” was the cheerful message.
It was quite obvious why there were no men at the event. Hidden in one corner behind the European Woman’s Fund, was a little stand staffed by one lost looking elderly woman from Threshold; the one organisation represented, that actually does try to help people, without checking first to make sure that they don’t have penises.
A woman from the Irish Council
It’s Patrick’s Weekend again, and there are already familiar scenes playing out on the vomit splattered streets of Dublin. Earlier this evening, I went to meet friends in a pub to watch the rugby match; the final of the six nations competition that Irish rugby fans have been holding their collective breath about all week.
It was a pleasant evening in the pub, even though I am not much of a rugby fan. The atmosphere was good and the Irish fans in their green shirts mixed easily with small groups of French fans in their blue ones. It occurred to me that the loud banter of the men was very different in tone from that of the women. The men’s shouts and jeers at each-other were friendly, non-threatening and not in any way aggressive. The shouts and jeers of the women seemed much harsher, more aggressive and just plain nasty. Maybe it’s because that kind of false bravado or “slagging,” is so contrived when women do it, whereas it is a natural part of the bonding process for men. I don’t know how to put a finger on it and I know I will be accused of sexism by both men and women for saying it.
At one point a large bearded Irishman shouted over to a Frenchman he had been talking to earlier. “Hey Pierre,” (all French fans are called Pierre by default) “Maybe you’d better get your money out.” Pierre shouted back “Not yet. It’s not over until the fat lady is singing.” Pierre added – “Maybe your ladies would be better at that than ours.” Another Irishman joined in, directing his friendly ire at his compatriot, “Shut up you horrible hairy bollox, you’ll jinx us.” Cue loud guffaws from all the bearded man’s companions. The thing is, there was no aggression or malice in any of the male exchanges.
The Irish fans were jubilant as the mighty Bleu’s were finally defeated, and “Pierre” shook his head dolefully as he pulled out his wallet. The bearded man picked up a small bald man in a bear hug as the final whistle blew. His victim immediately
I just wanted to pay a little tribute to a much respected colleague, friend and man that I admired.
Hugh Dotherty was an electrician, mechanic and and chief "Mr. Fixit" guy where I work. At 64, Hugh was close to retirement when, in January this year, he suffered from a stroke. He died in hospital a week later.
I didn't really get to know Hugh until about two years ago, when on a bus home from an event, I found myself sitting beside him. I got talking to him and he began to tell me his story. It was a long trip across the country and we spent it talking about many different subjects. I asked him his advise about a paper I was about to publish in the college magazine which I knew would rattle some politically correct cages. Hugh fixed a long thoughtful look on me. "Don't ever let anyone intimidate you into silence," he said. "If you do then you have given them a license to silence you over and over again." It was a motto that Hugh certainly stuck to all his life.
Hugh could fix anything, from car engines to power-outages. The only thing that ever seemed to confound him was the coffee machine in the college library building. He would curse loudly when he would see someone carrying a styrofoam cup bearing the logo of a nearby cafe, grab his tool-box and set off to do battle with his mechanical nemesis.
Hugh had been part of the furniture here since long before I had arrived. Originally from Belfast, Hugh had moved to Dublin in order to take his family away from the violence that plagued Northern Ireland during the 1980's.
A large and muscular man despite his age, Hugh had lived through some tough times, including death threats against his family, several serious beatings and finally the fire-bombing of his house. Despite all this, Hugh had remained a soft-spoken but confident man, self educated and capable of holding his own in a debate on Irish history, with any history professor.
A devout Catholic,
Ky. House passes temp concealed carry for victims
By BRUCE SCHREINER
Associated PressFebruary 28, 2014
Read more here: FRANKFORT, Ky.: Ky. House passes temp concealed carry for victims | State | Kentucky.com
FRANKFORT, Ky. — Domestic violence victims in Kentucky could gain quick access to temporary concealed weapons permits under a bill that passed the House after emotional debate Friday.Abuse victims receiving court-issued protective orders meant to keep their assailants away would be eligible for the 45-day concealed carry permits. Supporters said the short-term permits would provide a measure of self-protection at a time when victims can feel most vulnerable.
"This just levels the playing field for the potential victim," said Democratic Rep. Gerald Watkins of Paducah, the bill's lead sponsor.
Opponents said the concealed guns would further inflame domestic violence situations.
"What you're doing here is completely ignoring the fact that anyone who's in these troubled situations does not have good judgment," said Rep. Jim Wayne, D-Louisville. "And you're going to give the victim a handgun or a weapon to protect themselves? This is madness."
The bill [House Bill 351] cleared the House on a 79-13 vote. It goes to the Senate, which is considering similar legislation. Read more here: FRANKFORT, Ky.: Ky. House passes temp concealed carry for victims | State | Kentucky.com House Bill 351 is hardly a “gun-control” measure, far from it. Nor can it credibly be called a measure to “prevent violence.” Indeed, this may be the first case in US history where guns and domestic violence have been addressed together by a legislature in the sense of arming alleged victims rather than dis-arming alleged abusers. It strains credulity to see this as a means to less violence, or as a path to the safer presence of guns.
Updated 5th-March-2014 at 02:19 AM by Rof L Mao Esq
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Updated 21st-February-2014 at 08:42 AM by eagle2feather
Emotional abuse, feminism and personal truth Only in recent days have I been faced with a revelation that I have allowed myself to play the victim for many years in an emotionally abusive relationship. It began in the depths of my recent research on “violence against women” programs, when I found a quote from Erin Pizzey to the effect that people commit abusive conduct on their loved ones because they can. It didn’t hit home right at first, but I soon found that I was reading the materials I would find from that point on, through different eyes. I had expended a great deal of energy on the idea that false accusations and double standards against men were what I was trying to take down with my efforts, and there is still truth in this. But what began slowly happening after reading Erin Pizzey’s words, was that I would go through training materials and program descriptions for VAWA and other domestic violence programs, and repeatedly see the term “power and control” in describing the root motivations behind abusive behavior. What made me reject or at least ignore this as mere ideology was that these same materials always had either charts and graphs misleadingly backing up the throwaway “vast majority of victims are women” disclaimers, or quotes from various experts to that effect. And when I would read through materials from a more openly feminist source, I would find the same reasoning, backed up with the additional idea that “power and control” alone did not describe the motives for male abuses, but patriarchal power and control. That argument takes a valid line of reasoning, the same one Pizzey was asserting, that a desire to exercise power and control over another was made into reality by an opportunity to do so, but the difference in the feminist hijacking of this concept is to assume that every abusive man is a patriarchalist, that his abuses of women or children are motivated by his incorrect world view that male domination in
Updated 17th-February-2014 at 08:38 PM by Rof L Mao Esq
Has anyone watched "The Mask You Live In" trailer by The Representation Project? As I watched the trailer I have to say that I was kinda moved, because they presented their message in such an "empowering" way. I wanted to know some of your opinions on the trailer, since The Representation Project had also been known for their 2011 documentary film, Miss Representation which had many Feminist leanings. I'll leave a link down below.
For over a year now I have been researching the US federal government’s programs under the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA). I have made a number of significant findings, which I introduce below, but the first thing I discovered going in was the sense of taboo and political terror guarding these programs from any critical examination. Anyone following the “debate” in the US Congress last winter will remember the steady din of “War on Women!” that arose, overwhelming any vocal critic and castigating any serious questioner of the performance, legality and effect of the actual programs. One might point out that this lack of reasoned dialogue, and a resorting to taunts and threats in its place, can be found surrounding any feminist initiative, such as calls for “gender quotas” in various (non-lethal) professions, or a traditional female monopoly on reproductive freedoms irrespective of everyday realities for both sexes. And, I would agree. In the case of VAWA and its passage through the 113th US Congress in 2013, to point out (just as one example) that the Act poses certain jurisdictional issues under the 10th Amendment, would be shouted down as no more than “mansplaining”, as if the concerns of a select group of people and their political objectives based on pandering to feminist dogma, somehow simply overrides the rule of law or the unforgiving logic of calm reasoning. Seeing on first glance this degree of prejudice, and the fear of backlash it produces, my immediate decision in doing research on VAWA was to have a hard look not at the law itself or its history as a federal statute, so much as at the programs authorized by the Act, with a view toward their (once again) performance, legality and effect. ============= - On the actual day-to-day performance of grantee functions, little evidence is available that might corroborate any claim that VAWA programs are smoothly functioning, professionally managed, financially accountable,
Updated 2nd-February-2014 at 09:00 PM by Rof L Mao Esq
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